Paper TBoy

the south park kinnie to tboy pipeline is real might get spicy on here idk. fuckn, sorry kids, but not really. 18+ they/it if it matters

[stantookt]

My penis has wings

[crunchbuttsteak]

If you want to know how things are going on twitter, the very common abbreviation “FWIW” is apparently considered an anti-transmasc slur by the bean soup transmascs over there.

Like this guy saw a trans woman using an abbreviation he didn’t understand, and instead of googling like a normal person, he pulled out some random 4chan screenshot where somebody was obviously trolling and said that that stood for “folga wooga imoga womp” and not, you know, “for what it’s worth.”

[stantookt]

I don’t understand why transandrophobia and other movements to describe trans masculine struggles cannot be considered apart of transfeminism.

And I mean implementing trans masculine voices to the conversation of transfeminism.

I mean this with all seriousness.

A lot of what I’ve learned in my experience is that trans men and mascs are approaching masculinity in a different way than cis men have. I think this is a fascinating concept. An experience unique to trans masculine people. One I think would complete the understanding of transfeminism all together.

Not that I think everything should merge together. Not that I think that everything is the same for everyone.

But I can image the cross referencing. I can see a deeper understanding of masculinity that helps intersex folks, nonbinary people, transfems and women, trans mascs and men.

[stantookt]

this reminded me of when a man had full on masterbated in front of me in the library a year ago...

i went to my moms house after trying to deal with the situation. i needed somewhere to be safe, and i generally don't feel at home at my dads.

i told my mom what happened.

i told her that i felt scared and i felt alone.

i know it hurt her to hear that. cause she invited me there to talk to her about it. to try to be there for me in some way.

like always when something happens to me and i feel misunderstood, she yelled at me saying that i needed to stop making her feel bad about our past. that she was trying to help but i keep blaming things on her.

i know i have a victim complex, but i also know the way i feel towards her is valid. she couldn't give me what i needed when i was a child. she still can't give me what i need as an adult.

all i can do is care for myself. care for my inner child. care for my inner teenager. and try to learn how to take up space and feel loved.

[furiousgoldfish]

parents will be like "We're good parents! We did our best!" while their child is alone in their room, terrified of footsteps, unable to conceptualize being loved by anyone.

[catblinker]

parents will literally ruin a child's life a dozen times over and break any hope of ever being seen as a person instead of a burden and instill them with a lifelong aversion to ever taking up space or making noise or using resources or existing and then be like "i know i wasn't perfect but you must understand i did my best" and demand your forgiveness

[stantookt]

gender's a weird thing

i feel like if i were born with my body producing higher amounts of testosterone than estrogen i would prolly still take hormones.

i think i'd still identify as a man tho? (assuming that was my agab) prolly nb/man

part of me thinks i'm heading more towards that direction rn with my transition but idk and honestly i'll know it if i feel it.

[hayrnold00]

4 YEARS on T today…woah. Best thing I ever did for myself.

Love and hold your trans friends and family close. Please.

[stantookt]

thought i'd join in the cat sharing

trans men matter. trans mascs matter. all masculine aligned people matter.

[crimsonender]

"Source: I made it the fuck up"

[wolfbirdgirl]

Nothing the top one is saying is exclusive to trans men. its a product of being trans, period. THATS what it means when people say transandrophobia doesnt exist. its just transphobia, which to be clear, is still a fucking bad thing! transphobia sucks! i hate it! i feel bad that trans men experience it and want to fix that! but i am also asking those same trans men to recognize that trans women are being turned by the world at large into fucking social pariahs.

its simple. trans people are oppressed for being trans. cis people are not oppressed for being cis. women are oppressed for being women. men are not oppressed for being men. therefore, trans men are oppressed for being trans, and trans women are oppressed for being trans AND being women. its literally as simple as that and i hate that there’s so much discourse about it.

[stantookt]

i think trans men/mascs have the right to call their experiences whatever they please. because I believe they understand their experiences the best.

on top of everything, your point about 'men are not oppressed for being men' especially of ignores the point that the man being presented here is a man of color and these men are often *targeted because of* their masculinity.

i just this think you kind of come off as insincere in trying to understand what trans men/mascs are trying to say when they're talking about this subject.

[stantookt]

weird shit. as a kid i didn't like being a girl. i didn't want to be a tomboy.

i like pretending to be the dog in every school yard game :3

[stantookt]

okay seriously y'all. chill.

holy shit, okay?

i'm so sick of the transandrophobia tag being filled with so much hate. my god, why are folks so obsessed with thinkin trans masc/men are trying to out oppress other people.

i want to talk about what *i've* been through. i'm not trying to infiltrate anyone else's spaces. i don't want to put anyone else down.

i want to feel seen and heard by at least other people like me.

[what-even-is-thiss]

Masculinity is a prison to you. I on the other hand am frolicking in it like a beautiful meadow.

[violetfractal]

not to put you on the spot, but this perspective is so foreign to me. could you list some things you like about it?

[what-even-is-thiss]

Smell of sawdust awesome

Arm wrestling

Singing with deepest voice you can

Love my dad <3

Strong muscles help friends

Gay

Craft beer yummy

Love my friends <3

[midnight-soulless-system]

I'll list some that I love as a black man, they aren't all inherently masculine but they can change when you're more masculine.

Going to the barber with friends and family

Flexing in the mirror. Everyone hypes you up!

Big hugs when a friend opens up

The nod of solidarity to other (normally black) men

Being naked. Not doing anything in particular but just chilling naked and being comfortable in your masculinity is great

RINGS!! I love wearing rings as a man, shit is awesome.

[monkeyislandtwo]

being poly with no bitches is a little funny

[stantookt]

being poly with one bitch is even funnier. I feel like a fraud :,3

[stantookt]

i think it's wild to me how common it is for trans mascs/men to succumb to allowing their partners only using she/her pronouns for them when they prefer other pronouns more

it's wild to me that this is something that i've experienced myself.

trans men/mascs plz love yourselves. stay strong in your resolve. there is someone (or even multiple people) who will love you and respect who you are

[stantookt]

to add to this point, a lot of this comes down to the horrible economic conditions that they face. A lot of the time these people are desperate to escape horrible home lives.

[stantookt]

i think it's wild to me how common it is for trans mascs/men to succumb to allowing their partners only using she/her pronouns for them when they prefer other pronouns more

it's wild to me that this is something that i've experienced myself.

trans men/mascs plz love yourselves. stay strong in your resolve. there is someone (or even multiple people) who will love you and respect who you are

[stantookt]

one of the most heartbreaking things is having to see my partner experience explicit transandrophobia from one of its friends

It's friend seems to take any chance she can to put transmacs/men and masculinity down. basically using the usual arguments of testosterone being inherently violent and men/macs being more inclined to assult people

it's hard for me because she is targeting people like me specifically (an afab trans masculine person) but she doesn't seem to catch onto how much this harms my partner who is a nonbinary gender-fluid person who was amab.

it sounds incredibly hard to be someone in my partner's position. trying to stick up for me but also itself and it's connection to masculinity. it tells me how it sometimes feels forcibly feminized by a lot of trans fems in its life. (and of course you have to consider the ways that it is forced into masculinity in it's day to day life)

i just think that some people need to reconsider how their words are harming their brothers/sisters/siblings in the trans community. i understand that masculinity is triggering for some people but making someone feel like they have to conform to feel accepted is triggering as well.

[stantookt]

hey. HEY YOU

ARE YOU SCARED OF GOING ON TESTOSTERONE BECAUSE OF HAIR LOSS?

have you considered that...

BALDING AND BALD MEN ARE HOT!!?

i know this is a huge fear for folks that wanna start T. It's just about all I hear from other people who wanna start it, and yknow this shit has effected me too. Just about everything abt T is what i want, and taking almost anything that could slow hair loss would also hinder facial hair growth. So what can a guy do but just let it happen.

Hair loss was very frightening to me until i let myself accept that it was something that was inevitable. The moments where i've talked to folks about me starting/being on T didn't help much either. (Getting comments on how I'll become uglier and lose all my hair). I didn't know how to cope with it. Not until I had recognized all of the people that I know or actors I've seen absolutely slaying it.

However apart of my problem had also been being nonbinary and losing the gender flexibility that my hair gives me. That worry has been washed away after seeing great nonbinary representation online, with friends, but most notably through seeing the drag king Heath Salazar, or Gay Jesus.

Seeing him and being around so many trans people who are experiencing this and looking fabulous gives me so much queer and masculine joy.

plus, let's not stop this discussion here. cis and trans fems go bald or start balding for various reasons. THIS SHIT IS NATURAL AND CAN LOOK DOWNRIGHT SEXY. I know there is much less representation of bald/balding women in media but there are all sorts of women and fems that I know that have experienced hair loss and look beautiful.

No matter how you identify, rock it. The hair loss is sexy. The confidence makes you sexier.