Gender struggles from childhood to now (22)
I don’t look like the other girls
I don’t get along with other girls
I get along better with boys
I want to be one of the guys
I wish I looked more like a boy
I don’t feel I belong in women’s spaces
I feel uncomfortable with female gender expectations and experiences
I feel jealous of how my friends who are boys are developing into their bodies
I feel uncomfortable with my genitalia
I feel uncomfortable with my body
I want to look more androgynous
I hate my body
I don’t mind my name, but it feels too feminine. It’s okay on other people, but I’d prefer a nickname for myself
The first nickname was cool, but still felt too feminine. This new nickname sounds really androgynous though, it feels good being called it
I feel like a tomboy
Am I transgender?
Do I have internalized misogyny from having mostly male friends?
I wish I could get along with women so I was treated equally
I just feel small and infantilized, I have to dress more mature and womanly and then I’ll love my body
I’m depressed and dissociated from myself because of people pleasing and trying to fit in with heteronormative people
Who am I?
I’m just a lesbian having a hard time with my sexuality, that’s why I have these body issues and gender issues. And I just don’t know who I am because of depression and trauma
I stopped being called my birth name entirely. I guess family can still call me it even if it feels weird, but it feels good being called “Ari” at my college and by my friends
I stopped people pleasing
I feel better now that I’m dressing masculine
I feel better now that I’m not being called pretty all the time
Maybe I actually am trans?
I kind of like they/them pronouns
Maybe not, I’m okay with my body now and people think nonbinary isn’t real. This is too complicated
I still feel uncomfortable calling myself or being called a woman though
I don’t want to base my identity off the misogyny I deal with anymore, I feel most comfortable calling myself nonbinary for now, and it’s okay if it’s a phase, I just need to explore how I’m feeling
I don’t like using she/her pronouns
I’m terrified to come out to people, maybe I should just tell them I use she/they pronouns so it’s not as big of a deal
I came out to people, but now I feel like I shouldn’t have given them “she” as an option at all
I still wish I were more like a boy, but I don’t think I have gender dysphoria
I’m so envious of my favorite fictional boy characters, I want to cry, I’m nothing like them
I wish when I were out at night I didn’t look like such a girl. I want to look like the beautiful men and androgynous people I see. I want to cry, I hate my body sometimes
Actually I do have gender dysphoria and always have
I wish I were able to be androgynous in the way men can be
I feel uncomfortable being viewed as the feminine bodied person in a relationship. In fantasies I’m always masculine
I feel dysphoric every time I lump myself as sapphic, but maybe it’s just internalized lesbophobia?
No, I prefer calling myself queer. Just because identifying as lesbian stopped me from being cis/heteronormative and was an important part of finding my true self, doesn’t mean I have to keep identifying as it. Still don’t know if I’m attracted to men though
Actually I was attracted to men all along, I just wished I were viewed by strangers as an mlm couple and hated the idea of being viewed as a straight relationship. It was easy to mistake as being lesbian because it at least felt better being seen as a queer woman than a straight girl, so I avoided that possibility altogether by refusing that I was attracted to men because it felt too dysphoric to imagine
I often get really depressed being misgendered, and I feel really detached from myself most days. I don’t want to keep feeling this way
I definitely don’t feel good being called feminine terms or dressing feminine, trying to be more of a girl didn’t make me feel better about myself, I’m absolutely trans and don’t have to doubt myself anymore
I don’t feel dysphoric calling myself nonbinary and neutral language, but I don’t feel euphoric either. How do I identify and what do I do about my dysphoria?
Do I want to transition? It’s so confusing and scary, I wish I were binary trans so I wasn’t so afraid of the irreversible changes
Weighing out changes of the body on T and pros and cons of being off or on T, I’m definitely feeling like some of the changes would make me really euphoric compared to being without it
I actually kind of like calling myself masculine terms. I don’t feel like a man, but maybe I’m a demiboy?
I wanted an androgynous body when I was very young, and I still want one now. I was gaslit by cis people that how I felt about my body was just insecurity, when it was in fact gender dysphoria. I want to transition to a body that feels like me
I like he/him pronouns and feel affirmed being called masculine terms. I’m going to use he/they pronouns and I identify as a nonbinary boy
I’m terrified of having to deal with transmasculine erasure and transphobia coming out, but I can’t keep staying in the closet. It hurts too much. I need to come out













