Spontaneous Stuff

Christian. Dominican. Sarcastic. Majoring in Psychology. Warning: This blog had no focus (much like myself) original posts are tagged: stars hallow, spontaneous stuff Hope you enjoy scrolling through my blog :3 Instagram: e_tineo

[dissociativedoe]

"your [disability/disorder/mental illness] doesnt make you weak !!!"

okay, but... what if it does?

mentally, i'm not always strong. i have a lot of moments of weakness. i cry a lot, i overreact, i spend days isolating myself because socializing is so exhausting. my anxiety gets so bad that it physically exhausts me, it makes me sick to my stomach i have to sleep for hours to recover. physically, im weaker. i cant carry heavy things for long periods, i have to rest FREQUENTLY, im constantly exhausted.

so what, so why is being weak bad? does it make you a bad person? does it make you unworthy of love, of respect, of compassion? of course not.

your "strength" does not determine your worth. your value is not determined by what you can (physically or mentally) do for others or for society. you have value just by being.

take care of yourself. dont push yourself just because you feel like you need to be seen as "strong."

[notabled-noodle]

daily reminder that you are not your thoughts. you are a series of choices, actions, and relationships. you are defined by the things you can control, not by the things you can’t

[euneirophrenic]

Me psycho analysing any and everyone i meet because i have a constant need to understand why people are the way they are & what made them that way

[theramblingvoid]

Why don’t I hear more about undead beings coming back to warn people? It’s always zombies wanting to drag people down to join them in the grave, ghosts seeking vengeance, spirits trying to chase people out of their domains - but if you died horribly and were left rattling around some spooky mansion for eternity, wouldn’t you want to stop people from blundering into the same death you had?

You feel a cold breath on your neck as you get in the car. It won’t leave until you fasten your seatbelt. An unseen force catches your foot as you pass the fourth step every time you walk up the stairs. During a renovation, you find out the wood is rotten. You can never find a pack of cigarettes - even ones guests bring disappear from their pockets and are found weeks later on the lawn, empty. Your daughter is giggling and laughing at something unseen, chasing after it away from the cliffside on your family hike. You don’t know why, but you feel compelled to leave a spare hairband and some stickers on a picnic table as you leave the park. Tribute? A thank you? The items are gone by next time you visit, and you swear a happy child’s hum follows you home on the breeze.

…More preventative hauntings. It just makes sense.

[frozenartscapes]

Everyone is convinced the old house on the hill is full of evil spirits because anyone who tries to sneak in gets the ever loving shit scared out of them by the craziest poltergeist imaginable

Turns out the house had massive structural issues and was just one door-slam away from caving in on itself and the ghost was trying to keep people safe

Once the house did finally collapse the ghost moved on to the old abandoned factory that never had its industrial waste properly disposed of

Eventually the local inspection unit gave it an honorary OSHA certification

[13th-crew]

[randomfandomteacher]

[inthefallofasparrow]

The twist is they can only do it for handbags, nothing else.

[princessnijireiki]

I love it so much when cartoon villains are like, "horrid greetings, your vile wretchedness," or "foul morning," "disgusting evening," "wicked nightmares," "sleep abominably, and bite the bed-bugs back" instead of normal salutations

[just-shower-thoughts]

Experiences cost money while saving money costs experiences

[ineptshieldmaid]

If my partner is in the next room over and hasn’t spoken to me in 15 minutes, I can easily convince myself that it’s not just because he’s reading but because the last thing I said to him was wrong somehow, and he’s stewing and ready to scream at me any second now about how awful I am. This belief, though, is wrong. He doesn’t get upset about infinitesimal things, and when he is upset, that isn’t how he handles it. He’s not my father.

It absolutely makes sense for me to process information this way — in many situations I’ve been in, that instinct would have been correct, and helped me stay safe. But it isn’t correct anymore, and it would be unhealthy — and unfair — to act as if it were. I’m not wrong for feeling the way I do, but if I forced my partner to treat my feelings as reality — if I called him five times a day while he was at work to have him reassure me he wasn’t mad at me, if I forbade him from ever taking time to himself without reminding me it wasn’t about me, or ever being outwardly upset about things like having a bad day at work because it makes me anxious — that would be a terrible relationship for him to be in. I’m not wrong for feeling how I do, but it’s on me to make a plan for how to cope with it: to remind myself to look at the evidence and ask whether there’s any suggestion that I’m actually about to be harmed, to develop my own coping strategies, to be self-aware of my own history and the way I map it onto my present. I can certainly ask my partner for support in this, or to make some concessions to my history that he agrees are both fair and healthy for him, but I can’t ask him to bend over backwards for me because I’m not willing to do the work at all. We can’t justify harmful things we do to others by pointing to the ways they’re related to how we ourselves were harmed — a reason isn’t a justification.

Rachel at Autostraddle (in an agony aunt column that’s actually about biphobia, but took this excellent turn into Why You Don’t Have To Grovel To People’s Neuroses)

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Many relationships would be a lot healthier if we romanticized honest, open and direct communication instead of idealizing the idea of a partner who's intuitively in tune with your every need. You don't need someone who can read your mind, you just need someone who's willing to listen when you speak.

[scooplery]

the most fucking annoying thing about mental illness is that knowing more about it literally does not make a difference. you can watch your own insanity creep up on you in real time, know exactly where it's coming from and what it's gonna do to you, know all the silly little psychiatry words for all your silly little "symptoms", and still have no control over its grip on you. like, i am NOT at the steering wheel in here at ALL bro.

[sea-mists]

ways to reclaim your body:

shave your head or cut your hair

go for a run, run as hard as you can

get a new piercing or tattoo

cook a meal from scratch and eat it with no distractions

swim in your nearest body of water, or take a cold shower or bath

stretch, do a yoga routine and feel every muscle

wear clothes that you like, doesnt matter what it looks like

avoid mirrors, your body doesnt need to look a certain way to be valuable

hold someone close, a loved one or a pet or hold yourself tight

lay down on your bed or on grass, close your eyes and feel yourself sink into the surface deeply

turn music on loud and dance however feels good

drink a a big glass of water or as much as you can, feel the discomfort and let it dissipate

try to meditate, do a body scan in whatever position feels comfortable (or uncomfortable) and pay attention to as fine a detail as possible

sing or hum or make noise, hear it reflect back at you, feel the way it vibrates your cheeks, your lips, your bones

drink some hot tea or any other hot beverage, feel its warmth spread down your throat and into your chest

sit outside, no matter the weather and experience it, the wind, the sun, or the rain on your cheeks and your eyelids

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Being angry is okay. Screaming at people and breaking stuff isn't. Being jealous is okay. Sabotaging relationships isn't. Being anxious and insecure is okay. Seeking validation by guilt tripping and manipulating people isn't. Being sad is okay. Intentionally dragging other people down with you isn't. What I'm trying to say is that while all of your emotions are valid, you still have a responsibility to express them in a healthy way.

[toastbutteregg]

can we please normalize being quiet in the morning

[anxietyproblem]

[bestyouuniveristy]

Removing yourself from shit that repeatedly triggers your mental health and hurts your heart is top tier self-care.

[jennhasadhd]

ALL MY SHAMELESS ADHD HACKS THAT REALLY SHOULD BE SHAMELESS by Jenn has ADHD

- Wear tomorrow's clothes to bed, especially exercise gear if I plan to work out first thing.

- Using an electric toothbrush because regular brushing is boring.

- Messy hair buns left in for days at least my hair is styled, they'll never know it's intentions, is it styled today or last week, only I will know for sure.

- Just wear odd socks if no one can see them (or if you are shameless like me people can still see them).

- Eat food straight out the jar. Congratulate yourself on putting nutrition in your body. If I'm not up to cooking, pickles and cheese are my friends! (Carbs, Protein and Fat!)

- Writing a list of my small wins instead of a to do list, no one needs that kinda pressure. I function much better with full autonomy.

- Slide on shoes are fine in all weather, just wear socks!

- Using music and podcasts to achieve literally anything in a day, shamelessly do nothing on days I don't have music that I'm feeling, or a new podcast to listen to. Today's my day off!

- Normalize having a spam email address I never check or clear. But use it to sign up to all those deals I'll never use, cause one day, I might!

- Let the rain rewash my clothes, they've been drying for 2 days, 4 won't really hurt...

- Put off stuff I don't wanna do while procrastinating on things I'd rather do but are still important is a win. Because often future me will appreciate the effort to get stuff done even if it's not the right thing.

[isnt]