Squishes Vs Crushes (Part 2)
Squishes Vs. Crushes, Part 2/4 - Where I finally explain the rest of my opinion on what a Crush Actually Is, and perhaps more Importanly, How To Identify One 😆💚
There are a couple of things I should mention about this part - as you’ve probably noticed, I chose to draw two of my characters (who are gfs!!! 🥰) in some of the panels to help explain my points. I was originally going to draw myself for them (like the rest of these comics), but … I’m too romance-repulsed when it comes to things I’m personally involved in, and I couldn’t bring myself to do it 😭😅 (I have a feeling this is a part of being gray-aromantic for me).
And speaking of being gray-aromantic, I want to emphasize that my perception of what defines a “crush” is still influenced by the fact that well, I am AROspec 😂 As mentioned, the way that I experience romantic attraction is so brief (and also, it virtually NEVER happens) that it only lasts a few seconds now - it’s a fleeting emotion, a glimpse into a life that isn’t mine. It temporarily lets me understand the hype around romance for those few moments. Yet it goes away just as fast, and I’m left puzzled as to why I would ever feel that same emotion when I look at the person in question again!
Because of this, I don’t put a lot of stock into the feeling - but I’m almost certain allos feel differently about romantic attraction. To my undersanding, allos find this emotion to help them place importance on the person that they feel said attraction to, and it’s a part of experiencing a crush. But I’m not 100% sure 🤷🏻♀️ - so any alloros (or demiros, if you feel this applies to you), can you please let us know if this is true? And overall, if you think I’ve missed anything important on identifying a crush, please let us know!!! It would be super helpful to this group of highly confused aros 😭
Slide 1: Another sketch like, softly airbrushed style. “I would say it’s very overwhelming, bubbly, but not with any real substance or depth of feeling”
Now a stream of pink passes through Celia, with more butterflies and a little pink heart drawn on her chest. A small sound effect of “aaaaaah” is drawn around her to indicate alarm.
Slide 2: “You’ll feel obsessed with the person though - ”
Celia sits at her desk, thoughtfully looking up while she puts a pencil to the side of her mouth. A thought bubble with a blank person labelled with things like “insert object of affection” and little doodled hearts appears.
“- Probably to the point where you can’t stop thinking about them”
Slide 3: “You’ll also want to do traditionally ‘romantic’ things with them”
A photo of two of Celia’s characters out on their first date. They are two women, one of whom is tall curly haired brunette with tan skin and a purple blouse, the other of which is a shorter dark-haired girl with freckles and a pink dress. They are at a dinner on what appears to be a patio (string lights in the background), and are having cotton candy as a dessert. A little rose is placed on the side of the table.
The note scrawled to the side of the photo says “two of my OCs out on their first date!”
Slide 4: “- and you’ll want them to be nice to you, maybe impressed by you.”
The two characters are now at a gallery show. The taller girl in the couple has taken a few photographs displayed at the show, and she asks nervously to her girlfriend if she likes it (and she does!).
Slide 5: Celia speaks to the viewer: “And In my personal experience … you do know, right away, what you’re feeling.”
Slide 6: “There’s an “oh” moment” Celia is drawn in the sketched, airbrushed style. This time she has an overlay of pink placed on her, with a concentration of the pink near her chest. A little spark of light with a heart passes through her, while little notes around her written express her surprise “oh. Fuck -”
Slide 7: “as a grayro, it goes away VERY fast” A continuation from the last panel, the pink overlay which covered her before seems to drip off of her. She seems confused, saying “huh? Why-”
Slide 8: “And over the years when I do experience this (and it’s been a while) -”
A timeline drawn in the same sketch style, from when Celia was a young teen to today. The ages are labeled 13, 14, 16, and 19 plus, and they are filled to varying degrees with the pink overlay like before. The amount drops drastically from when she was thirteen (in which it filled about half the form) to when she is an adult, where the pink is barely visible. Underneath each figure it describes how long each “crush” is, which goes from her being unsure of the length, to about a month, to 1.5 hours, to barely a few seconds.
“- it’s gotten progressively weaker each time.”
Slide 9: Celia drawn in the usual style. She smiles and laughs, “So any alloromantics out there, if you want to add your experiences in the comments, please do!”]
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