𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑟𝑥𝑎𝑦𝑎'𝑠 𝑔𝑢𝑖𝑑𝑒 𝑜𝑛 ℎ𝑜𝑤 𝑡𝑜 𝑙𝑜𝑣𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓
𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘢 𝘣𝘪𝘵 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘮𝘺 𝘶𝘴𝘶𝘢𝘭 𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘧𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵𝘴!! 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘮𝘺𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘮𝘺𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘺 𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘵 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘨𝘶𝘺𝘴. 𝘏𝘰𝘱𝘦𝘧𝘶𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘴 𝘢𝘵 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘵 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦. 𝘓𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘶 𝘨𝘶𝘺𝘴 𝘮𝘸𝘢𝘩 ₊˚⊹♡
Don't talk down on yourself. You don't deserve that treatment. Not from anyone else and especially not from yourself.
When you look in the mirror, don't point out your flaws. Just really look at yourself. And notice how beautiful you are. Aren't your lashes looking good today? Aren't you having such a good hair day? Isn't your skin more clear than yesterday? Don't your lips look kind of pretty right now?
Look in the mirror when you wake up and give yourself compliments. "You are so beautiful", "You're doing so good", "You deserve to be loved"
Spoil yourself. Do your nails, style your hair, buy something for yourself. You deserve to be spoiled. You deserve to feel good.
"I'll buy/wear the clothes when I lose weight/have my dream body" NO!!!!! You deserve to feel pretty NOW. Wear those clothes. You are perfect and I promise you'll feel good when you finally decide to just be yourself.
You are not lazy if you WORRY about being lazy!!! Cut yourself some slack. Your body is always talking to you. Ask yourself what you need and what you want. It's okay to rest.
Don't let other people decide what you feel or what you are. Only you know your body, your mind and your soul. Only you know what you feel.
Your back, stomach, head hurts all the time? Stretching helped me a lot with back pain. Childs pose the most. Your stomach hurts? Ask yourself why? Are you nervous for something? Did you eat something bad? Give your stomach attention. Caster oil has helped me a lot. Also just massaging my stomach or caressing it. Your head hurts all the time? For me, I needed glasses. But my head kept hurting around my eyes. Here is what helped me: massaging around the place it hurts, humming to myself/meditating, self care (skin care, etc). Maybe your mind just needs peace for a minute.
Your body IS BEAUTIFUL. It really is. Everyone is pretty in their own way. You're not any different. I've always considered myself to be kind of chubby. And I struggled with body image for a long time. Don't look at yourself and see the flaws. See how beautiful you are. I really started looking at myself. The arch of my back, curve of my breasts, the snatch in my waist. Everything IS beautiful. Be kind to your body, it carries you. "You're beautiful", "You look great", "I love you, body". When you're bloated, remind yourself that it is normal and okay. Give your stomach love when it is bloated.
Stretch marks, love handles, bigger arms, it is all BEAUTIFUL. This is YOU. YOU are beautiful. Your body is beautiful. Your soul is beautiful. Slim figure, small breasts, thin legs. It is all BEAUTIFUL. This is YOU. YOU are beautiful. Your body is beautiful. Your soul is beautiful.
"I'm having such a bad day" your body is talking to you. Always. You need to relax, give yourself time and rest. It's okay to take care of yourself. Whether it takes days, weeks, months. You know you. Rest, be kind to yourself. It is all okay.
Being gentle to yourself is not a weakness. Being tired is not bad. Do not worry about what others might think. Just think about YOU. You are more important than anyone else. Choose yourself.
Find people to talk to. A therapist, a friend, a parent. You can even talk to me. You don't have to carry everything yourself. Give yourself a break. Let people help you.
You do not always have to be kind. Don't let people talk down on you. The hate they carry is not yours to receive. This is a them thing, not a you thing. How sad it must be to be so hateful all the time.
You spill or break something by accident? You might be startled at first. But take a deep breath and remind yourself it's okay. Accidents happen. Count how long it takes to clean the spill, or hum while doing it. Calm yourself down. Your inner child might be startled. Remind them it is okay. If you broke a glass or anything like it, think about this; shards bring good luck. It is what my mother always told me. Shards bring good luck. You are so lucky.
Listen to your inner child. Give yourself the treatment you wish to receive. Your inner child is not ugly, not lazy, not mean. Remind them how much you love them, and how strong they are.
Decorate your room with love. You received a drawing from a child? Hang it on your door. Someone writes a kind note to you? Hang it on your wall. Write yourself notes and hang it up. You are surrounded by love.
Be kind to your mind. Talk to it. "It must be hard to worry so much all the time", "it's okay to rest", "you are safe right now", "everything will be okay".
That's it? I'll add stuff if I think of anything else. Love yourself, appreciate yourself. You are kind, beautiful and full of love. -`♡´-