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Hi everyone! Haven’t been posting for so long since I’m very busy for quite some time due to my academics. I went to DElight Party in Hong Kong last Sunday and finally met both Hyukjae and Donghae in real life! I felt like I need to update a bit these days when I’m slightly freer despite the fact that I’m working. I’m going to post at least once before October (my term starts).
Eunhae analyses - why is Eunhae real - part 5(Donghae’s personality analysis)
Thank you 溫莎虫 again for granting me permission to translate the post
赫海cp真相是真.E15.朝着光走吧，我朝着你走-温莎虫
For first-time readers, my words would be in italics, while the words from the original author would be normal. Also, some short forms he=happy ending, be=bad ending in Chinese. These are used as both nouns and adjectives. I also follow as I want to preserve the meaning of the original meaning of the author.
For non-Eunhae shippers, you can just leave this page. No one forces you to read. We have our freedom to believe what we think, you also have the freedom to believe what you think. We don't mind your business, so you also don't have to mind our business. Thank you.
I analysed the mbti of Hyukjae before, but not for Donghae. I always feel that compared with the contrasts and contradictions of Hyukjae, Donghae is much easier to be seen through.
However, as I started to analyse Donghae systematically, I realised there are still points worth noting. When disclosing the innate character through the familiar scenes, we can realise that the person that loves everyone equally, still loves Hyukjae the most.
Donghae's mbti is ENFJ, passionate and sincere, the educator that shines for everyone like the sun.
This kind of person puts emotions as the first priority. Is good at and relies on socialising. Idealistic. Has a strong sense of cooperation and teamwork. Is sensitive to the conditions of the people surrounding him. Would build a sense of responsibility for himself.
These are all very obvious personality traits. If you understand Donghae more, it is easy to discover these traits in him. This blog entry is not meant to introduce his personality, but just roughly conclude some most flagrant qualities.
Members always say, if not because of Donghae, super junior may not be able to exist till now.
With the competitive atmosphere at that time, anyone could be kicked out of super junior at any time. They were filled with worries. Even though they were companions for each other, they also had competitive relationships with each other. At a time when everyone was highly sensitive due to unforeseen futures, Donghae always put the team as the first priority. Compared with his personal career development, he cares more about team development.
ENFJ is always the one who has the strongest sense to cooperate in a team. He would always remind himself as a part of the team. He would use all he can to ensure to the team is getting together.
Even though Donghae always gives a feeling of a 'free spirit', he is actually a person who can notice the hints given from others' eyes. He is pretty observant and can notice the change in mood of the people around him.
Even though he said he is afraid of cameras and variety shows, his EQ is definitely decent, or even at a level that can master social situations well. He understands completely what kind of people he should date with. The prerequisite of this strength is that he is a very sincere person.
Talking about ENFJ, people like this kind of person are usually due to their sincerity. They are generally very likeable, as they know how to socialise well.
Being good at socialising does not mean being tactful and mature, as probably they are only willing to put effort into dating. Socialising is a vital part of ENFJ's life. They need friends and need to date people. They like the feeling that they can rely on others.
A quality of ENFJ that can be said as a strength or weakness is their altruism.
They are full of emotions, highly empathetic, can sense the emotions of others easily, and love everyone idealistically. They are willing to lower their own sense of existence to help the overall development.
They are the natural 'vice-leaders'. Their beliefs towards the team would make them get close to leadership inadvertently, but their escape towards responsibility and ruling would also lead them to refuse the highest leadership position. This also explains why Donghae is not the leader of the group, is not the eldest of the group, but has very decent power in his words.
Above these qualities can be observed easily, so I am not going to explain them in detail. More importantly, I would like to analyse how special ENFJs are towards the people they love.
ENFJs have a tendency to have hypergamy in their romantic relationships. Their attitude towards a person is usually decided at first sight.
When facing the person they like, this type usually has a crazy crush towards that person just like idolisation. Everything is attractive to them about their crushes. Would not withstand anyone speaking a single point badly for them. Only have their crushes in their eyes.
A point to note is that the first reaction of this kind of person when meeting their real love would be feeling diffident. Due to hypergamy and almost blindly crushing on someone, it is easy for them to worry about 'is it that he doesn't like me?'
As you all know, Donghae somehow just speaks without a filter. During the period Hyukjae refused to commercialise any ships, for the question 'who is the person getting along the least with Eunhyuk', he gave a famous quote 'I wish to be the answer to all his questions.'
From his avoiding eyesight and slightly guilty expression with his head lowered, I think he really suspected that Eunhyuk was not willing to ship with him was due to that Eunhyuk did not like him.
When ENFJs found someone they like, they would gradually treat this person as the centre of the world. Obsessed but also insecure.
In the eyes of ENFJs, even if the world becomes black and white, the people they love are still coloured.
For the people they love, they always encourage and appreciate them unconditionally. If you compare how Donghae treats Hyukjae versus other members, you would find out that he almost never speaks anything bad about Hyukjae. Even for variety show puns, he also cannot speak of anything bad about Hyukjae. It is because, under his special filter, the person he loves is always immaculate.
(except individualistic)
In public situations, the only weakness he spoke of Hyukjae seriously would be 'individualistic', yet interestingly, no one would speak of this friend as selfish.
So I tend to think what Donghae minds is the individualism of Hyukjae himself. When ENFJs love a person, they would give the person everything unconditionally. Compared with what ENFJs give to their partner, if their partner does something a bit egocentric, ENFJs would treat this as not prioritising themselves enough.
As aforementioned, ENFJs are typically generous and likeable. When others don't treat them well enough, they would also comfort themselves 'never mind. They also have their own thoughts.'
(Photo 1)
However, for someone they love, ENFJs would put themselves and their partners together, treating them as a single entity. At this stage, if their partner in any circumstances just thinks of themselves, they cannot tolerate such thoughts.
(Photo 2)
When ENFJs are with someone they love, they always speak of 'we'. He would put the person he loves into every of his plan and arrangement. Everything is only meaningful when 'we' are doing it together.
How they are being nostalgic, would usually be the kind naturally linking incidents and people together, just like it is a 'we' when mentioning Hawaii. If there is a part of their memories that is special, everything about it would carry a special meaning for them.
(Photo 3)
Although the story of Donghae telling Hyukjae all his secrets with Hyukjae being apathetic was told many times, the main characters of the story are always only these two. The problem is that Donghae would tell everyone his story passionately, but he would only be angry when Hyukjae was not giving him responses.
How ENFJs centre with 'devotion', meaning that they would treat everyone sincerely, but such sincerity would not ask for returns in equal value. For them, respecting and tolerating the privacy and freedom of others is also a type of devotion.
However, if talking about someone that ENFJs love, they would be required to give back the same level of sincerity. They would be required to devote everything they have, in order for ENFJs to ensure that their partner also cares as much about themselves.
(Photo 4)
Before in Weibo, I talked about how Donghae can be someone that is very controlling if he doesn't date properly. It is also the most problematic part of ENFJ. They would instil their own thoughts into others, having a strong desire to control the thoughts of others. From serious values to trivial daily life habits, would also use his own ways to control others.
However, in this type, the controlling behaviour can also be subdivided. Some people would like to instil their own thoughts in everyone, including colleagues, and always make others feel suffocated. Donghae is definitely another scenario, only instilling in the people he is close enough with.
Members usually describe him as someone who would easily accept the opinions of others. He would follow the opinions of the majority and would sacrifice for the sake of team development. However, for Hyukjae, he would fearlessly express his own opinions.
The way how they get along right now is the fruit of the long-term adjustment between the two. Donghae definitely did not dare to raise his own opinions towards Hyukjae directly from the start. Hyukjae also would not be able to tolerate how controlling Donghae is for him. It needs a long time for mutual understanding and adjustments.
(Photo 5)
Donghae intentionally went inside to get a chair to sit next to Hyukjae.
Though Donghae always sticks to other people, the extent to which he sticks to others varies. Towards other members, it is more like he loves to hang around them habitually. He habitually needs someone to be with him. However, for Hyukjae, it is more of a spiritual reliance.
(Photo 6)
When meeting something that he is not good at or cannot be completed well, Donghae would naturally find Hyukjae for help. Hence, Hyukjae becomes the spokesperson of Donghae.
Calling Hyukjae at any time to find him, finding Hyukjae even though just handling trivial incidents, these obviously childish and unreasonable requests are just ways for him to justify his importance.
Even ENFJs are passionate and generous in normal social situations, they lack the sense of security in romance. They have very rich emotions, to the extent for anyone not as emotional as themselves, would think they don't love ENFJs enough.
The way how they show their affection is that even if it is something very trivial, they want to create opportunities to be with someone they love. Even others think ENFJs are brave and free, but for someone they love, it is even harder to confess than going to his home 10 times without any reason to have a chance encounter.
(Photo 7)
That's why Donghae would go shopping at Hyukjae's home to take clothes, would get into his home without prior notice, and would create trouble for Hyukjae.
All these unreasonable acts are just ways for him to express his affection and how he misses him. Even though ENFJs don't have any difficulties socialising in most situations, can get people liked so easily. However, it is hard to find real love for someone like this. When real love appears, it would make them forget all their social skills, back to using sincerity and warmth to get close to someone he loves.
All in all, friendships are usually natural and poised, while romantic relationships are usually very meticulous. After so many tests and justifications, all are just worried that the other does not like them.
(Photo 8)
After all the analysis, it is obvious that Eunhae's personalities are so different from each other. One of them is warming, giving his all at once, the other is rational, giving more and more of himself gradually.
Although these differences would require them to have a lot of adjustments for each other, the way they can complement each other is even more precious.
Also, personality is just a part of the innate factors in a relationship. More importantly, maintaining a relationship would also need the effort of the two people. One can understand the rationality and meticulousness of the other, one can tolerate the idealism and emotions of the other. It is because they understand each other enough, so they know those 'unreasonable acts' and 'not suiting your taste' are also ways to express their affection.
If saying love of Hyukjae is a rationalist giving all his impulsiveness and romance to Donghae, the love of Donghae would be an idealist giving all his vulnerability, sensitiveness and seamy side to Hyukjae.
'Just be yourself. I would love you as long as it is you.'
Point to note: as an MBTI enthusiast who understands MBTI to a level that understands cognitive functions very well, I actually discussed with some of my friends for an accurate typing and all we agree he should be ENFP instead of ENFJ. That's why some of the traits above sound pretty ENFP also. If you happen to understand more about MBTI and all those cognitive functions, you can message me to discuss a bit, though I may not always check my messages.
Thank you for waiting for me for so long for another update. I was really busy with school works over the term time and can only update a bit during term breaks. Wish this can help!
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It got me emotional when I saw this scene so I suddenly want to write a little. It may be a little ficitional or imaginative, but just expressing what I’m feeling for them.
No one understood why he was taking the long bunch of white bows across the bridge. ‘What is he doing?’ ‘I don’t know.’ Until the moment when he put the bows on his head, everyone understood. He wanted to give him the most beautiful thing he had in the world at this beautiful moment. He wanted this scene to be captured frame by frame, and saved as the most beautiful memories for them. Everything he was doing was just to make him happy, and didn’t want the pain to get to him too much at this moment.
He didn’t lie. He is really accompanying by him again and again. How they looked into each other’s eyes, how they walked through the stage together, he was telling him that I am always supporting you through the pain.
They are always silent to ELFs for all their pains and put on smiles for us. Thank you Eunhae for always being the sincerest and kindest person for each other. The one who can see through the pains for each other, and actively taking care of these on the other’s behalf.
Let me try to get my next update this week^^. It’ll be the personality analysis of Donghae.
For first-time readers, my words would be in italics, while the words from the original author would be normal. Also, some short forms he=happy ending, be=bad ending in Chinese. These are used as both nouns and adjectives. I also follow as I want to preserve the meaning of the original meaning of the author.
For non-Eunhae shippers, you can just leave this page. No one forces you to read. We have our freedom to believe what we think, you also have the freedom to believe what you think. We don't mind your business, so you also don't have to mind our business. Thank you.
Now I just don't want them to doi (in Chinese it is an abbreviation for do sex) publicly, or else I would certainly frown...
Different from other shippers who use looks and eyesight to imagine those situations, Eunhaers are exceptionally special on 19+ questions. It is likely that others are just using something irrelevant and fake to imagine, while Eunhae is really real on this.
For materials like 716 Donghae's live, if we need to delve deeply, it is already not something we can cover up easily. After reading many introductions from different people on this ship, it seems that everyone is unanimously avoiding materials like this that can absolutely prove them (having sth special), while it is also no exception for me. I rather spend more time explaining the details than analysing the live technically. Respect their romance.
I've talked about it in previous posts. Announcing publicly is not the only way to show he. Rather than achieving a certain ending, we shippers would likely want to leave and protect their privacy in their relationships. Hence, I am also intentionally avoiding those materials that would make others feel uncomfortable. If there are some famous scenes that I don't mention here, my attitude towards these would be 'better not to be mentioned publicly'.
Robert raised a famous triangular theory of love before, which consists of intimacy, passion and commitment.
(I directly found a translated version from Wikipedia for this)
If it only consists of one or two components, the two people may be intimate friends, sp or other relationships. However, for a complete romantic relationship, it must have to contain the above 3 components.
This article would mainly analyse them from the above three aspects. It is also the reason why I often insist that Eunhae is romance.
ps I don't know why I cannot upload gifs. Hence, I am choosing some photos that can be easily understood and noticed the implications. However, it is absolutely not the over-interpretation of a shipper! The videos can certainly shock you 100 times more! I can assure you that it is a rational analysis! No worries about this.
pps it is a professional analysis, in which the evidence is from the commonly acknowledged conclusions of the professional field. It does not include exceptional but just general situations. Hence, please do not use isolated cases to rebut the common situations.
Intimacy
An important aspect to determine the level of intimacy is the leverage between giving and taking.
For relationships with a lower level of intimacy, the more you would care about the materialistic benefits from it, as one would have a clearer boundary on their emotions. They would use whether they can obtain a satisfactory benefit to determine whether they would continue this relationship.
For relationships with a higher level of intimacy, it is not that they would just give and do not ask for taking. It is that while they are willing to give more, they would ask for the return on an emotional level.
The return on an emotional level does not mean a return of equal materialistic value. It is that one's effort would be acknowledged and liked by the other. An easier way to understand it is that 'Everything that I do is just to make you happy. If you are happy, I will also be happy.'
Giving can also be of many forms, e.g. giving their properties. Shindong borrowing money from Hyukjae is a way of giving their property. Out of their intimacy and trust, I believe even Hyukjae would not care even Shindong didn't return the money. However, Shindong often mentions this incident, as Hyukjae is an important friend to him, so he would care about his debts.
However, for Eunhae, their giving to each other is obviously of a higher level. Apart from gifting something expensive like refrigerators and cameras, they even give each other their time and emotions. He can put down all his jobs and time for rest because of his call and rush to his place. Even if it is about watching movies at midnight, he is also willing to accompany. It is completely about sacrificing oneself to make the other happy. It is obviously because they care for each other even more.
Eunhae definitely spend the most money on each other. Even though they used to spend money on each other without any hard feelings, spending on one person to such a level is already very hard for most people.
Donghae often insists to go 'shopping' in Hyukjae's wardrobe is also something interesting. I guess most people have experienced the feeling of 'I rather buy you a new one than take this away from me.' A human would innately have a sense of possession in something one has. Even if it becomes worn out or one does not like it that much already, it doesn't mean others can take it away easily. When Donghae goes 'shopping' without restraints, Hyukjae only throws out a few words but totally is not unwilling to let him do so. The way how "yours are mine" is developed between Eunhae is showing something only a relationship with a really high level of intimacy can achieve.
For keeping the relationship for a long time, it must be because that one does good for the other, not just because the other do good for themselves.
I think it is the reason why the relationship between Eunhae can still remain so loving after 20 years. They appreciate each other from their hearts. That's why they are getting moved by each other again and again.
Eunhae also knows each other the longest among all the members, but they have never-ending compliments for each other, while they can hardly think of the other's weaknesses. They can always throw puns to complain about other members, but Eunhae is always immaculate in each other's hearts.
As aforementioned, the more intimate a relationship is, the more you care about the emotional return of the other. Something I always feel special about Eunhae is that they think it is certain for them to request returns from each other. They perceive themselves would be in a position to get special affection and care from each other.
It is hard for a human to request emotional returns from another person. If they don't have enough confidence in each other, they would not think of doing something like this.
Usually, humans would intentionally leave freedom and personal space for each other. Even if someone does not meet their expectations, it is also hard to express disappointment due to respect and accepts the fact. However, for Eunhae, if either of them doesn't put the other as the first priority, the other would directly express their disappointment. Such behaviours show that the other should choose themselves unconditionally in their heart, while such confidence can only come from each other.
One expressed disappointment as the other was not by his side during his birthday.
One expressed disappointment as he was the only one going to the show for both D&E.
Something like this and even have some more quotes of them getting their eyes covered up by romance.
Used the look to hint Hyukjae should be the first one to celebrate his birthday but didn't take actions.
He didn't care about the celebration from the program staff. He only wanted you to celebrate the birthday with him.
The sense of security in Eunhae, one comes from being needed by the other, while the other comes from being cared for by the other.
Actually, I always think that Donghae is a person who is very clever and high love quotient. He would intentionally leave many things for Hyukjae to do, and let him feel getting needed and relied on. Seeing how Hyukjae nags about Donghae giving him trouble yet is still very happy about it, he can be ensured that he is still loved like a child.
The relationship of Eunhae now is like 'I'm not ok without him' while feeling the other 'is not ok without myself'. It is surprisingly unanimous and peaceful.
The reliance and necessity on each other are irreplaceable for them. It is impossible for either of them to be without the other. It is crazy how loving their relationship can maintain for 20 years. There are several times they were just leaving each other due to going abroad for one or two days but they could nag about this for a long period of time.
I really pay full respect for how they don't have secrets from each other...
I can't imagine how can one person speaks to another person about holding no secrets from him. It is likely about the trust and openness to show each other all the good and bad sides of him unconditionally?
It is not only about understanding the temper, living habits, likes, dislikes, and hobbies when they can confirm this. It is about how they would not concern about being judged for their dark sides and weaknesses. They can face each other without any defense and not under any masks.
After knowing all the good and bad sides of a person, they can still treat each other as an immaculate person, isn't it even harder? What is more precious about them is that even though they know about all these, they are still that appreciated, kind and excellent people in their hearts. The person they want to walk together till the end of their lives.
The private traveling stories of Eunhae are still accumulating...
It is common for one to find some private time or get along with other friends after dating for quite some time. There must be some days you want to get some quiet time on your own. It is normal to get bored with a person after getting along continuously for a very long time.
Even though they are always together when they are working, they still have to arrange extra schedules to take some rest together, going on trips (especially going abroad) happily. It can only tell that just working with each other cannot satisfy their needs to meet each other. The time that they need to care about the camera is just work. They still need time to meet each other privately.
Going on trips is often a killer to relationships. It is pretty easy to show each other their personal weaknesses and the places they are incompatible with each other. However, Eunhae almost always travel abroad together. They would even anticipate where they will be going for their next travel.
In short, time is never enough when they are with each other.
Photo 1
Donghae loves taking photos a lot. However, when paying attention to the target of his photos, I realised that apart from scenery and gatherings with many people, the one that appears the most is Hyukjae.
The moments that one would want to take photos of must be the time that one feels happy with and would like to save as memories. Everyone knows that Donghae's phone has a lot of Hyukjae that no one has ever seen.
One would not take photos for memories of miserable moments. One would also not take photos casually for everything as memories. Hence, a person that he would like to take photos of every moment, must be a person that he likes a lot.
Photo 2
Hyukjae talked about how he loves using MV to save the memories of a trip in the program of the trip of suju+TVXQ. Donghae even confirms with him again. After the program has finished, Donghae opened his YouTube.
Donghae is the first member to open YouTube in SJ. Shindong has mentioned before about Donghae finding him to learn about video editing. He still continues to edit all the videos on his own until now. The cover of his YouTube was Hyukjae initially. Hyukjae is the person that appears the most in his YouTube videos (including promotions). He even reserves a series only for D&E. It is a plausible guess that the initial reason for Donghae opening his YouTube channel was to make videos for Hyukjae...
This suits how romantic and emotional Donghae is...
Commitment
Research has shown that the level of commitment would affect whether people can maintain a relationship. The level of commitment is exactly the level of participation and investment in a relationship.
Making a commitment also represents making a choice. Promising to leave oneself in a relationship means giving up other possibilities. Hence, commitment also represents loyalty.
Photo 3
I can cry ten thousand times for the quote 'I will always be the person to accompany you' (Note that I noticed most English translations on this quote is wrong, as I have mentioned in my first two posts. Most Korean words can be converted to the corresponding Chinese words, so I am sure that this would be the accurate meaning of this quote.)
Before when I was writing the personality analysis of Hyukjae, the quote 'I will always be the person to accompany you' keeps appearing in my mind rent-free. The more I analyse this person, the more I feel how much he loves Donghae to speak a quote like this. It is absolutely not something that would come out of his mouth.
The person who could not give a proper reply for 6 I love yous that time, has spoken in front of everyone to Donghae about 'I will always be the person to accompany you'. He really has made himself as Donghae's Hyukjae.
Hyukjae is definitely not someone who can speak something like this casually. Just thinking from the perspective of directly voicing this out himself, he must have thoroughly considered about it.
Photo 4
Eunhae has secret appointments for the first sunrise and Christmas of every year. Even though people said that there must be an end to everything, these two people who linked each component of their lives with each other, seem to have prepared that they will not leave each other anymore.
After the two years of military enlistment, there is nothing in the world that can separate the two anymore, even for a short period of time.
Photo 5
The sense of ritual for Eunhae is really amazing. From the opening ceremonies of the schools, they have never been absent on any special occasions for each other. Such a sense of ritual, after analysing their personalities, can absolutely know that it is not because they are such kind of people, but they care for each other and their relationship enough to make these happen.
Perhaps due to the numerous difficulties that they have faced over time. It makes them feel that walking this path together for a very long time is something that they should commemorate. Time has reminded them again and again of how long they have accompanied each other on this path.
Those worth the wait are not the sunrises or the fireworks, but it is always that same person accompanying him. Without him, do these still have any meaning?
They hug at the moment the clock has struck. They look into each other at the moment everyone is celebrating. From that time on, you are the sunrises. You are the fireworks. You are everything that is beautiful in the world.
Passion
(In this part I keep typing and stopping to organise my words. Trying to express everything clearly while not sounding like a pervert is very hard.) (Argh agree it is also very challenging for me as an amateur translator.)
Before the analysis, let me give a main point first.
Eunhae has the same body composition, and they have lived together since they were 15 years old.
I don't think their orientation is homosexual.
Under this prerequisite, Eunhae's sexual attraction to each other is unreasonable. It is really unreasonable from a professional perspective.
How can these two have the feelings of a long-married couple while having the passion of a newly married couple?
The only reason apart from their close relationship is that, they are both too good-looking.
(Let me cry and run away)
Eunhae as idols, something different from them is that their coverage of fans also has many males. It is because they have sufficient attractions for the same sex as well.
Photo 6
Eunhae are also people that can appear as both a hot daddy and a cute babby. Not to mention that Hyukjae exceptionally loves long-haired Donghae. Who can reject him!!!
Humans are animals firstly before being the most civilised being in the world.
In other words, humans cannot escape from sexual desire as animals. So-called sexual orientation is just about the sexes that can cause sexual attraction are different. Sexual attraction is the basis of the creation of a romantic relationship. It can bring up the innate sense of closeness and possession in a human.
Although I don't tend to discuss tops and bottoms for non-genetically determined homosexual relationships, from analysing the relationships of Eunhae, Hyukjae is obviously the one who tends to have more masculine acts. He obviously likes long-haired Donghae more. He would like Donghae to call him oppa or hyung. He would like Donghae to do aegyo. He would like to treat Donghae as the weaker side and takes care of him.
(When reading back the past materials of the change in the attitude of Hyukjae, I think only Donghae can let him love a person of the same sex. A person who is slightly more ugly also cannot...)
I think it is relevant to Donghae's father passing away when he was very young, he is protected very well and well-loved by others. In the relationship of Eunhae, Hyukjae is often the stronger side.
Photo 7
Back to the main point above, under the prerequisite of a non-genetically determined homosexual relationship for these two, can let the other has a sexual attraction is something very targeted and focused. Such attraction is not originated from hormonal biological instinct but from that person itself.
It also explains why Hyukjae loves long-haired Donghae more. It is because the more beautiful long-haired Donghae has more sexual attraction to Hyukjae.
After living for that long with their members, theoretically, they don't have that much curiosity about the bodies of one another. However, Eunhae is definitely different from others. How they use their eyesight to transmit sexual desire, how they desire to touch each other after looking into each other's eyes, and how they desire to hug each other after touching each other. These are absolutely something that cannot be seen in other members.
I always feel that Eunhae is already at home run level (a metaphor of baseball basically meaning almost the highest level in Chinese literal meaning), as they know the sensitive points of each other too much.
These two people always immediately escape after 'playing' on each other, or they would try to use some ways to let the other come and 'play', and then laugh at him when he cannot escape. The prerequisite of these actions is that they know how to make each other on fire.
Eunhae themselves or with other members would also get embarrassed when they are asked to do some very intimate interactions on the shows. However, the embarrassment is because they don't usually interact like this. Yet for Eunhae, the embarrassment is accompanied by blushes on their faces and reddening ears these kinds of embarrassments from physiological reactions. It shows that they are restraining their own desires for each other at that moment.
Below are some classic behaviours that would cause sexual attractions scientifically:
Photo 8
Getting my microscope up. See these two Eunhae that no one notices.
I have explained in my previous blog entries that this part is the most sensitive and would innately protect it the most. No one can touch here even how close they are, except if they have already gotten some even more intimate behaviours before.
Photo 9
When everyone is playing around Donghae, even though they are noisy, they know the boundaries. They only touch his neck or scratch him on top of his clothes. Only Hyukjae gets his hands scratching under the clothes through the collar, or even attacking his lower body later.
Photo 10
Touches his hair and then smells his hair with the eyes closed, and then even hug him from the back in the end.
A classical behaviour of a male is to smell the hair of the female secretly, even if it may sound a bit perverted but very classical. The last hugging action is pretty strong or even a bit too tight. Hyukjae was probably a bit too obsessed with him that time.
Photo 11
In the famous scene where the clothes are getting taken off but Hyukjae still lets it continue.
I realised Hyukjae loves Donghae at this point when I was collecting materials for this article.
It is something that would stimulate his physiological actions.
Such a behaviour seems like an active desire to seek for his body. He really likes to watch the reaction of Donghae when he is doing it.
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(Poor Yesung. Why do they have to let him see scenes like this)
Another famous scene to get his clothes off. If getting the clothes off is a fan service, why he did not turn and see the reactions of fans? Hyukjae only wants to see the reactions of Donghae right?
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This scene was when Hyukjae knelt in front of Donghae.
Kneeling in front of a male is already not something implicit but explicit. Kneeling down, getting his head touched, he even had to raise his head to look at each other.
Speaking of this action, it is absolutely something that cannot happen if they don't have some incidents happening behind us.
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Holding the neck is already enough. Can you don't raise your head up and close your eyes?
A common behaviour in doing sx is holding the neck...
I remember that Heechul said when he was fighting with Donghae, he was holding Donghae's collar. Holding the collar and then hitting each other should be how two men fight normally dear...
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The neck is obviously some sort of switch for Hyukjae. Such a reaction from him is likely thinking of how to teach him back a lesson.
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Holding the neck, raising his head, and getting his eyes closed, again.
I don't do any further analysis on this. I am getting the cringe already.
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Seeing Donghae 'swallowed' the mic, he stared blankly and then swallowed the saliva, obviously thinking of something past scenes.
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I have analysed before that ear is a position that cannot be touched easily. We all know that Hyukjae's ears are exceptionally sensitive. Donghae here is directly touching from his ears to his neck. I have also mentioned that skinship is different from just touching. It is some that is highly intimate.
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Another behaviour showing sexual desire: unbuckling the belt. It can be understood together with getting the clothes off.
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Why does he have to exchange the mics when hugging his neck lol. Hyukjae's sense of possession is really too apparent to be seen.
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Touching Adam's apple of boyfriends was pretty popular previously. (In China)
Touching Adam's apple is meaning sexual desire. I guess everyone knows about it. Males don't have much desire for the Adam's apple of his normal friends, but they know the feeling when their Adam's apple is getting touched by a person they like.
Before this scene, Donghae was blowing Hyukjae's ears when whispering to him. Hyukjae was obviously taking a revenge here.
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Hugging and then getting the clothes off by touching and swiping up from his butt. Eunhae definitely.
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Getting his hands kissed and then swallowed saliva. Famous scene indeed.
Getting his hands kissed would lead to excessive saliva secretion...?
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Donghae really likes to use his tongue to play with Hyukjae. Who would use the tongue to play with normal friends?
For example, the 9th-anniversary live those famous scenes. He is really...
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Classical behaviour of sexual desire: hanging his leg on the other's leg. Not only once already.
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Eunhae hold their hands differently from others. No matter high five, shaking hands, or other skinships, these are always less easy to be separated than others.
It is 'reluctance to leave' for skinships in an intimate relationship.
From experimental findings, physiological instincts would cause us to like to have skinships more with people we like, and don't want the skinships to end.
Hence, for two people in an intimate relationship, even doing the same kind of interactions like others, these two people would often have a much longer duration.
Especially in a public situation with cameras, Eunhae can only use these unintentional behaviours to extend their time of interactions to show their intimacy.
For example, when attending the award ceremony of Weekly Idol, Donghae loosened his hands with Shindong quickly but held hands with Hyukjae for a long period of time. A plausible guess is that he was holding Hyukjae's hands just because he wanted to stay close to Hyukjae...
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Many interactions of Eunhae would make people feel some sense of sx. Don't doubt yourself. Something you feel that's not right is really not right, as others would not do these like them.
Just like the famous Chinese quote, even though it sounds extreme, it really makes sense. The leap between friendships and romance is sexual attraction. No matter how close two friends are, sexual organs are boundaries that cannot be crossed.
I only give some examples of behaviours that are supported by many experimental data and research. Their behaviours include these, but not limited to these.
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Until here, the analysis of the three components of romance has been up.
Eunhae is having a complete romantic relationship, as they include all aspects of romance. They have physiological desires that they cannot avoid as animals, yet they are using all their capabilities and rationality to protect each other as a human.
Eunhae is special in the sense that they are the people that have all friendship, family affection, and romance between them. Viewing them from only one single perspective is incomplete.
As couples, they have the same dreams and jobs. As friends, they have a sense of possession for each other that no other people can share the same. As family members, they give each other too many meticulous ideas and thoughts.
It is the reason why they are unique. Perhaps it is their circumstances. Their circumstances gave them the same sex, but let them meet at a young age, and then made them destined to be together for years. Their circumstances let them leap through many hurdles together, making them separated and reunited.
Although we don't know where will their circumstances bring them in the future, they already use their circumstances as a thread to sew themselves together. The future is always unpredictable, but when they are still with each other, let them walk together like how they are now.
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It is really quite a tough article to translate frankly, yet it is really informative and allows us to understand them a lot more.
Sorry that I originally planned to upload this article last week, but I did not imagine I was that busy last week. Hope this article can satisfy your drought these days.
Haven’t updated for quite some time as I was busy with votings and streamings and concert. I promise that I’ll update in this week!
And yes today 0718 is the famous Eunhae wedding anniversary do you all still remember this pic? Exactly is on 0718! (Tho there are earlier origins of ‘wedding’ for these two but damn this one is forever classical!!!!)
Eunhae analyses - why is Eunhae real - part 3 (psychology on Eunhae’s behaviours)
Thank you 溫莎虫 again for granting me the permission to translate the post https://wausichien.lofter.com/post/73cd8cde_2b4177fcb
赫海cp真相是真.E10.浪漫和爱在你看向他时就凭空出现-温莎虫
For first-time readers, my words would be in italics, while the words from the original author would be normal. Also, some short forms he=happy ending, be=bad ending in Chinese. These are used as both nouns and adjectives. I also follow as I want to preserve the meaning of the original meaning of the author.
For non-Eunhae shippers, you can just leave this page. No one forces you to read. We have our freedom to believe what we think, you also have the freedom to believe what you think. We don't mind your business, so you also don't have to mind our business. Thank you.
I tried to analyse Hyukjae's personality and his feelings towards Donghae (including those aspects in contradiction with his usual personality) from the perspective of mbti lately. It was the most tiring analysis I have ever written. I didn't systematically analyse Donghae because I think he can be understood too easily... He literally puts all his emotions on his face and can be understood even without a more scientific analysis.
(And then later this author did write an analysis on Donghae's mbti. Please stay tuned for it after the triangular theory of love.)
I also did quite a lot of research for this article. I want to analyse why romance exists between Eunhae from the facial expressions and actions that happen in an intimate relationship between humans.
Due to the limited length of the article, I cannot compare each of the pieces of evidence in a very detailed manner. Instead, I would put a few key points in the end. You can pay attention to these and then would understand the special relationships between Eunhae.
Photo 1 (I put this in the photo post as I can translate it here directly.)
(Image translation: imitating the actions of others in order to let others believe in you and put their guards down. It is a skill in psychology in hypnosis --- mirroring. For instance, someone yawns in a quiet classroom. Another person would yawn immediately. And then the next person. And then the next, etc. just like getting infected)
The first definition I need to introduce is mirroring.
If this skill is not used in psychological research to gain trust from others intentionally but happens naturally instead, it is not a skill, but a phenomenon. Such a phenomenon can only happen between two people with an immense amount of trust. They would keep imitating others, but such imitation does not really sound like each other. It actually means that they are not simply imitating each other, but imitating how the image of each other in their hearts.
Eunhae often imitate each other, but interestingly the image they both imitate for 'each other' is very similar, yet does not sound like either one of them. It is a very typical example of 'mirroring'. The image they imitate usually cannot speak clearly and relies on each other a lot. It is actually the image of each other in their hearts.
Maybe in their personal lives, they always do aegyo to each other and rely on each other. They also speak softly. That's why it forms such an image that outsiders cannot understand, but only exists in each of their hearts.
Photo 2 (again I put into photo post)
(Image tranlsation: If someone exceptionally laughs a lot from the humour you make, perhaps they are interested in you.
Evolutionary psychologists said that humour and active reactions to someone's humour play a vital role in the development of humans. They transmit a signal for the urge to build a relationship with each other, no matter Plato's type of relationship, or romantic relationship.)
A human's reaction to the humour of someone he/she likes, is also a very innate reaction.
For the same actions done, humans often give better reactions to someone they like. It is also what we call for wearing coloured glasses for someone we like.
It is common knowledge that Donghae literally laughs off everything Hyukjae does. Although his reactions are usually pretty strong, his reactions for Hyukjae are often even stronger.
Moreover, Donghae often has a pretty short attention span, yet when Hyukjae is doing something for reaction, he pays his full attention for Hyukjae, and the attention span is really long as well.
It is a type of action showing attraction. It is because Hyukjae gives him an even stronger attraction, so he gives an even stronger reaction.
Lots of puns from Donghae are actually quite hard to understand, which often makes other members speechless, yet Hyukjae is always the one paying the most attention to him. Hyukjae is also always the only one to give reactions to his puns. These are also instinctual actions about attraction. It means Donghae's attraction is the strongest for Hyukjae.
Contacts between humans also have different levels. Ordinary contacts often show a sense of distance, yet skinships only exist between intimate relationships.
For social courtesy, such as dancing in balls such kind of activities with a necessity for physical contact, an important courtesy is that when the hand of the male touches the waist of the female, even the position is not accurate or the male does not feel that it is a comfortable posture, he cannot adjust the position of his hand. Even adjusting position is actually impolite for two people without an intimate relationship.
Even for friends with very good relationships, no matter of the same sex or of the opposite sex, skinship is also not an action that can be easily accepted due to its intimacy, especially skinships without any sense of reluctance and avoidance. This would mean an extremely intimate relationship.
Furthermore, one would often only carry out active skinships with someone they like, as it is a type of action to express love. Active physical contact is the highest level of physical contact. (I have to skip one sentence here due to that there is no such adjective in English, but no worries this would not affect the meaning of the overall paragraph.)
When one wants to use physical contact to catch the attention of the other, usually they would touch the positions with the highest frequency of contact. Normally one would tap the shoulder of the other or touch the arm of the other, as these positions are often not very sensitive. Also, physical contact and language communication can hardly happen together between people not being very intimate. You can only touch them, and speak when the other catches the attention.
However, Eunhae is having physical contact and language communication together in a habitual manner naturally. They would innately have skinship with the hands of the other and would speak what they want to speak while having physical contact with each other. Such natural instinct can hardly be done by acting or try to get them concealed.
The action of lying on each other can be done intentionally but having both of their arms crossed is an action that even a couple without a close enough relationship would not do. It is a classic action showing a sense of security, just like someone loves to hug a pillow when they sleep. Hugging a person innately can only happen when the other person can give you a strong sense of security. You can go to watch some dramas if you are interested. The male and female main characters would not even have these details when they act. It is hard for directors to think of details like this as well. Even the people doing these actions can hardly notice them themselves.
It is because this action is really rare, yet it gives a very important meaning when it happens.
Hugging is also a common action with much more I can talk about.
Compared with normal hugging, a more intimate hugging can be noticed in the distances between the heads and the legs.
The hugs between Eunhae would show crosses between their legs naturally, for example, this hug right after Hyukjae got released from the military. The distance between their head is also closer than normal, for example having kisses on the shoulder.
As Donghae loves to hug people too much, I don't do the analysis on him first. Yet, we can see the hug between Hyukjae and other people. He innately gives a distance between his head and the other person.
This is not something absolute, as during some emotional moments, Hyukjae's hugs with someone like his members, are also full of intimacy and trust, but the difference is that for Eunhae, you almost cannot find a hug with them pulling a distance between each other.
Some of the parts of the body are defined as sensitive. Not only that it has a relation to sex, but also physiologically these parts can innately reflect the reaction from the hearts of the people.
Ears and necks are two of the very classical examples. Almost no one can allow people who are not intimate enough to touch these two positions, which are related to the sense of security and sex.
However, the self-protection of these two parts between Eunhae basically does not exist.
If you notice how Donghae insists to stimulate Hyukjae from his ears, we can even boldly assume that not only is Donghae sure Hyukjae would not resist such action, but also he even knows Hyukjae would give special reactions to such action so he intentionally stimulates Hyukjae.
Even Donghae who has a high tolerance to physical contact, you can see a difference in the level of acceptance for touching his ears between Hyukjae and other people.
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If saying touching the ear is showing the level of acceptance, touching the neck is showing the level of possession. Eunhae has a special obsession with the neck of each other, especially Hyukjae. Touching the neck or Adam's apple of the other is definitely not a normal physical contact.
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For people who are not intimate enough, avoiding the neck is an innate action.
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If saying ears and necks are already giving special meanings, the position between the legs is already on another level. It is not just about reliance and trust. It is already showing innate physiological actions as an animal.
We cannot take this position for joking no matter how close we are. This position is having the strongest defense mechanism for any human, except if this person already does not have a need to protect oneself.
Hence, there is not much to analyse here. You would understand when you try to substitute yourself into the situation. Such an invasion for a position like this can boldly suspect that these two had intimate actions before.
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Some sort of famous scenes. 'Raising eyebrows' is not just meaning joking. Ryeowook raising his eyebrow is really meaning joking, but Hyukjae raising his eyebrow along with a rhetorical question is obviously a classical action meaning asking with the answer known, especially when holding his elbows, tilting his heads, and the changes in tones, all are characteristics of asking with the answer known.
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After Donghae has debuted for many years, he would still get sick easily before recordings or concerts, as his psychological ability to withstand pressure is relatively weak. When this gets reflected in his physiological well-being, it would be shown us getting sick easily.
Donghae was also having a really terrible condition in this recording, but he would actively express his nervousness when Hyukjae asked him. It is an action to show his weakness only towards people he feels intimate with enough. Also, the action of Hyukjae did not make him more nervous but even raised a request to try once more. It means he was apparently getting more relaxed.
From the behind the scenes of D&E concerts, he was obviously having better conditions when preparing D&E concerts compared with the super show. This means that he is often more relaxed next to Hyukjae physiologically.
You would notice when you understand enough materials from them. Donghae can get himself focused while being relaxed with Hyukjae. This is really something special for Donghae. This can only prove that he is the most adapted to the environment with Hyukjae.
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It is also a scene that is very obvious (to see their relationship), but pretty interesting as well when you analyse it. Donghae's way to beg by showing his weak side to Hyukjae is to kiss him lolll.
It is universally acknowledged that if you want to win the favour of someone, the best way is to do something they would like. Donghae's way to do something Hyukjae would like is to kiss him??
And it is also proven to be effective here. We really cannot wait for the origin of Lee Dong Haek.
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Eunhae's 'obedience' towards each other, is often without hesitation and reluctance. Such kind of trust is the result of both the level of relationship and time. They would not have done and understood tacitly like how they are now without either of the component.
'Obedience' is a complicated and high-level intimate relationship. Not only does it mean absolute reliance and trust, but also implicitly shows how they get used to being with each other and adjust their actions according to each other over a long time.
Eunhae would not ask for the reason when they tell each other to do some weird actions and cooperate without hesitation. It is really rare. It also means that the power of each other is having priority over their own rationality, or even absolute obedience.
Only if they can ensure the counterpart would not hurt themselves, or even trust the counterpart unconditionally even if it would hurt themselves, would this level of obedience happen.
Certainly, apart from these details that can still be analysed, like eyesight such kinds of interactions can only be understood by themselves, but not by languages. Facial expressions, actions, and languages can be developed into a complete and systematic field of science. It is not just the result of research. More importantly, it is the innate physiological reaction that one would have but many have overlooked.
The difference between the relationships between humans can often be shown in certain small details. It is these details that build up a special human being.
If need to delve further, the degree of the corner of the mouth raised when one smiles can even be analysed. However, I think this level of detail is really sufficient right now.
Humans can often lie after getting a thorough consideration, but your innate physiological behaviours would not. Your innate physiological behaviour would get you closer to the person you want to get close to.
My analysis is not to prove that love exists,
but we can always find evidence of love.
It is a brilliant but (relatively) short psychological analysis by this author. Absolutely love it. Eunhae indeed is very special. Their behaviours speak for themselves.
Fortunately, I can translate the whole article in a few hours during my break so I can post it this week. I am not sure can I have enough time to translate the next one next week. Let me update y'all later on this.
Lastly, don't forget to support super junior's comeback by buying the albums (if it is affordable for you), streaming the MV and digitals, and very importantly vote in fannstar (the global fannstar award!!! very important we can get them a year-end award if we can win! The voting for this award will end on 11/7 and we still haven't pulled a safe enough gap with our opponents.) Let's stream to Don't Wait (aka Donghae) while voting when we get the time. Fighting everyone!
Hello everyone! I originally want to translate the article on the triangular theory of love by Robert Jeffrey Sternberg on Eunhae first. However, I realised that if not translating another post talking about skinship scientifically, it would be hard to understand the ‘passion’ part in the theory. Hence, please wait me a bit on this and I will translate these two articles one by one! Thank you!!
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