𐐪♡𐑂 grace / ada / spy + more. | creature / fae / xe + more. xxviii. audhd / bipolar ii / depression / discouraged 'quiet' borderline personality disorder / anxiety / paranoia / c-ptsd / maladaptive daydreaming / disabled / chronically ill / dswpd (dsps) / constant esotropia strabismus | interact with care & caution | do not save the divider or icons used without my permission.
𐐪♡𐑂 this is a self indulgent fandom non trad agere blog! i am not taking requests! you may see gifsets that involve blood reblogged.
𐐪♡𐑂 follows / interactions come from @fceriestcrdst.
𐐪♡𐑂 i am also an otherkin / fictokin / holothere / alterhuman
𐐪♡𐑂 rentry, my writing, my edits, my gifs, my f/o list , my kin list in no specific order
𐐪♡𐑂 icons made by me, header by @/softmysterycove, dni banner(s) & divider(s) made by @softmysterycove. all resident evil dni banners + ryan gosling character dni banners are made by me, do not use them or any of the banners i use on this blog at all ever.
𐐪♡𐑂 sometimes all i can talk about is whatever my current spin / hyperfixation is! sorry if that gets super annoying / frustrating, i genuinely cannot help it!!
𐐪♡𐑂 current spins: resident evil (the video games; specifically 1-4 (& their remakes), 6, 7, & 9)), leon kennedy, ada wong, luis serra, various other resident evil characters, iron lung (film & game), project hail mary (movie + book), ryan gosling, markiplier, bg3, e33, bayonetta 1, mouthwashing (the game), anything relating to sherlock holmes, creature kitchen, arcane, jinx (arcane version), ellen ripley, the first two alien films, midnight mass, hamish linklater
𐐪♡𐑂 psa: i sometimes experience spin jealousy, so please be patient with me & do not try to force your headcanons for my spins onto me. i will block you. with all that being said, while i'm okay with sharing f/os / kins / carers, i would prefer it if you kept those things to yourself, as it can occasionally trigger my rsd & spin jealousy. i am only 100% only comfortable sharing f/os / kins / carers with people i am close with, sorry.
"What is agere" and other FAQ about age regression - for people who have literally never heard of it before
Tws: mentions of child sexual abuse, sex, and the kink community
What is age regression? - Simply, age regression (or agere for short) is when somebody's mind reverts back to a younger age, whatever that may look like for them. For most, it's more complicated than that: age regression is defined by most as a coping mechanism, and is most commonly used to cope with trauma, be it childhood abuse or not. Sometimes, people just do it for fun, to relax, or to heal their inner child. Some people regress to animals (called petre or pet regression). Some people do it for no reason at all; that's just how their brain handles stress. Usually, age regression is helpful, but if it is used maladaptively, or if it is triggered unwanted, it can become frustrating and even scary to manage. It is not somebody's fault for regressing. Even if a regressor's headspace is maladaptive, it should be treated with respect and care.
What does agere look like? - there is no "look" to agere. Regressors act all sorts of ways, because theyre people! But some common things you may see in the agere community are pacifiers, stuffed animals, cute/kidlike clothes, toys, and yes, even diapers. These are comfort items. Often, humans have these things, especially if theyre stressed or vulnerable: a kid had a blanket or a toy, but adults may have a pen they keep with them to click, or a necklace they wear 24/7 because they "just feel off" without it.
The big question everyone wants to ask and never seem to listen to the answer. Is it sexual? - the age regression community is a sfw space because agere is first and foremost a coping mechanism. It needs to be kept a safe for work community separate from kink because 1. There are minors in this community, and because healthy coping mechanisms should never be gatekept from anybody, minors should always be welcome here. And 2. Plenty of people in the agere community are triggered by being sexualized, likely because of such a large number of us being sexually abused as children, but also, frankly, because it is a boundary we have set, and crossing a boundary for sexual gratification is never okay. Yes, the ddlg/abdl kink community keep interacting with us (you'd think they'd understand consent right?). this is likely because our aesthetics and gear are similar, and most of the porn blogs that interact with us are either bots, or people who dont understand tumblr and are not using it as a social media the same way the agere community uses it. (I cannot speak for any other websites because im only really on tumblr, but I'd assume its much the same.) Basically, no, and we'd like you to please stop reacting to it and treating it like it is.
Why tell us (the internet, whoever is reading this) about it if its a coping mechanism? Why not keep it private? - because, frankly, the internet is a space to share. Regressors share their stories, experiences, creations, art etc, because social media is a place for sharing all those things, and because a lot of us want to let other people (scared, hurting, traumatized, vulnerable, or maybe ashamed people) know that it is okay for them to feel their feelings, and it is okay for them to cope with them however they want. You dont ask why somebody posts about their medical emergencies, or about their stress, or about their hobbies. Why is agere as a coping mechanism (or hobby) any different?
Why would my loved one want me to know about their age regression? - they trust you. That's why. If your loved one is revealing this part of themself about you, it is likely because they trust you a lot. If your loved one shared this post with you, it is because they really, really hope you'll take a moment to try and understand them better. You dont have to be a parent. You don't have to act like they're a baby if you don't want to. But pushing them away and brushing this off will only hurt them, and it will NOT make them stop regressing, it will just make them want YOU out of their life.
How do I treat somebody who is age regressed? - ASK THEM. Do what you are most comfortable with, and do nothing they're uncomfortable with. Communicate. Some age regressors like to be treated like kids, others don't want to be treated differently at all. You don't have to indulge their age regression yourself by treating them like a child or interacting with it, and that's okay, but if you want to keep them in your life, it is important to understand that their regression is NOT about you, and it is not up to you to decide how they cope with whatever theyre coping with, or how they spend their money and free time. Read that again. More people should understand it.
What do I say if I dont want to interact with it and am uncomfortable with it? - this is one people dont want to talk about, but it is just as valid to be uncomfortable with agere as it is to be an age regressor. The difference is how you treat people. If you want to be kind but also state a boundary, something like this should help: "I read up on age regression, and I understand that it is a coping mechanism that works for you, but it makes me uncomfortable and I would rather not interact with that part of your life. I still love/appreciate you and want the best for you, but it just isnt for me."
How do I start taking care of someone if I DO want to be a part of their regression? - again, communicate. Ask what they need. Be aware that if you do want to act as a caregiver (somebody who takes care of a regressor, often in a parental-like role but doesn't have to be), your regressor will likely be over the moon as a lot of us would love to have a caregiver, but some regressors dont want or need a caregiver and that's alright too. If they're sharing with you, they probably want you to be a part of it! This doesn't have to look like buying them pacifiers and stuffies, either. It can look like making them a snack while they watch cartoons. It can look like tucking them in and handing them their plushie. It can look like going outside in the rain and stomping on puddles together. Have fun wuth it, seriously! It's SUPPOSED to be fun and relaxing!
What is a "perma"-regressor? - a Permaregressor (what I am!) Is somebody who is, more or less, in a younger headspace 24/7. This can look like anything from a 16 year old who feels like a 13 year old, to a 20 year old who feels like a 7 year old, to a 40 year old who feels 1, and anywhere in between. Many permaregressors (and a lot of non-24/7 regressors too!) are neurodivergent and/or disabled, and this can be a big reason for us being stuck in a younger mindset. It can also be a result of trauma, or can be tied to a Little (child alter) in a system, or can even just be because that's how their personality and interests turned out to be. Always remember that adult (18+ bodily) permaregressors are still adults, and can still do adult things like drink, smoke, have a job, drive, have sex etc even if always in a younger headspace. Also please remember that, legally and regarding their autonomy, permaregressors should always be treated as the age they bodily are. Permaregression is separate from the broader age regression community, not only because it isnt a headspace you can go in and out of, but because many permaregressors can also regress younger separately. For example, I'm bodily 18, stuck at around 13-14 (most of the time), and sometimes regress to as young as 2, though i can be pretty much any brainage.
Can age regressors have sex? - age regressors can do whatever they want because theyre a human with autonomy. It isn't our job to say what they can and cant do behind closed doors or in private. It is, however, our job as a community to keep our space (the Age Regression space) safe for work, as i explained. There is a big difference between gatekeeping what a grown (or teen) person can and can't do with their own body or headspace, and keeping your online community safe as it is intended to be. We are all strangers behind screens here.
Have any more questions? Please feel free to leave them below and I will answer whatever I can. Others are also free to jump in and add if they want!
If you're going to vent in main agere tags at least use vent tags too so we can filter it out :/ You really need to trigger tag your posts if you're talking about stuff that could be upsetting for regressors IN THE REGRESSOR TAGS. There are literally AGERE VENT TAGS.
No, regression isn't happy all the time, but that doesn't mean that all of us want to see it untagged in our online safe space. Some people keep their vent separate from their online blogs and that is OKAY. Some people use their online blogs to escape from triggering topics and that's OKAY. The general tags are supposed to be safe. Posting stuff untagged pulls people out of it. You dont even have to just Not Post It. You dont have to tag every post you make with agere tags. People scroll those tags to RELAX! Ugh.
My name is Dr. Ryland Grace and I'm here to support and encourage any age regressors that need it. You can call me any caregiver title that you'd like and feel free to send asks whenever!
WHO IS GRACE TALKING TO, QUESTION?
Oh, hi Rocky! You startled me a bit!! I was just introducing myself to the class-
ROCKY INTRODUCE TOO. HELLO SMALL CHILDREN, HERE TO LEARN AND RELAX???
Yeah, they are!! That being said, this is a low stress and fun place for age regressors, age dreamers, and others that may or may not fit under those umbrellas but still would like somewhere to talk to a caregiver. I love littles and middles of all age ranges so please don't worry about whether you're "too big" to hang out here!!
ROCKY CAN HELP WITH CHILDREN TOO?
Sure!! Just be on your best behavior, Rock. Remember what I've told you about littles!!
ROCKY REMEMBER. GENTLE SOOTHING AND ENCOURAGING WITH PEOPLE WHEN THEY ARE SMALL.
That's right!! Just so everyone knows, I like to use nicknames very freely, so if you aren't comfy with that or there are specific terms you'd like me to avoid for you, you gotta let me know, okay? Also, as a heads up, I'm a flip!! I may post while regressed as well.
