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Do you still set up shop in the vent tent these days?

It's been a quiet year but I plan to always keep the Vent Tent here for when someone needs to let it all out! ⛺

I entered my story into an online writing contest before I left on a trip. I came back to see a strongly-worded message from one of the people running the contest claiming I had falsely advertised that I won the contest on my profile. It turns out the "button" they sent for me to put on the cover of my book was only for the winners, and I wasn't informed. I politely apologized, took down my story, and withdrew from the contest, but I can't help but be furious, both with them and myself.

Don't be too hard on yourself! You weren't to know. Who sent you the "button" that you mentioned? It can suck when a little mistakes snowballs through bad timing but you've taken the right steps as soon as you found out so you shouldn't punish yourself for something like this. I hope you enjoyed your trip, and if you don't mind, I'd love to read what you wrote? Button or no button!!

I met a fellow off of the Internet a few months ago and we have been talking ever since and slowly I've been gaining feelings for him. I think he may like me as well but I'm scared to ask him because if he doesn't I don't want to get my heart broken you know? I just am wondering what I should do because I'm not that experienced when it comes to relationships. I mean should I tell him my feelings or wait a little longer?

Ah hello there! If you've been talking to a guy for a while, (basic chatting or flirting, either or) developing feelings for them isn't something you should worry about. If they're your friend. They'll stick by you. Even if they don't feel the same. But, I would never run this blog with the intentions to give people their options. Just my advice, the fear of rejection is a horrible thing. Trust me i know, but the feeling of never taking that risk is just as scary. I always like to see someone strive for something and achieve it, but that's not always the case, there are things that hinder and help everything. I can't say I know what those things are for your and your crush. But if you can find it in yourself to go for it. Then think about doing so! Good luck. Please feel free to keep my updated or ask angthing else at all Xx

For the past 2 years I have been going through the court process. Im going against my dad. He has bad drinking habits, druggie, lies. Im bullied at school and don't have very many friends. My only friend at school left for a week... I've been crying.

Oh my, I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through. It must be a strain. But stay strong, I know it's hard with your friend away for a bit. And in terms of being bullied I really think you should let the right people know! I was bullied, it really does help! If you need to talk about anything I am more than happy to stand in and listen. Best of luck, and best wishes! Xx

I have severe depression im in therapy, dropped out of college and I met a guy we've had an exclusive thing for 2months (mostly sex) When I cant see him (he doesnt know im depressed) he gets annoyed/upset I dont want it serious/I like him. Pls Help?

Well, firstly I'm sorry to hear about your depression. I hope you have or find a way to cope a little better. With the guy (if I'm reading this correctly) he gets annoyed because you like him but don't want anything serious? Thats fair enough in my mind, having sexual intercourse with someone doesn't merit the spark of anything serious. If you don't want that then he should respect that. He can be annoyed. But it shouldnt be at you personally. These things are as much your dicision as they are his. Again, I hope you're feeling better one day, and while I'm certainly no therapist, if you want to talk more, you're welcome here whenever. Best wishes!

Ahem. So i like this boy and sometimes we talk. I don't think he likes me in that way, probably because of my childish behaviors? Should i act like a mature or jump on him or ignore him?

Ohhh, never change who you are so someone will like you. You have been growing into who you are for many many years. Don't let some boy change that. (And let me quickly dispell the chickflicky "some boy" stereotype by saying I'm sure he's a lovely fellow. BUT he is still "some boy") Who you are is exactly who you need to be. It could simply be that you two need to talk a little more, you've said you talk sometimes, say hi a little more often. In short. You're wonderful exactly how you are, and if your head is telling you to jump on him. Jump on him...although, maybe consider that as a metaphor...All the best! Do let me know how things go!

It's so embarrassing .... I'm 17 and I've never kissed someone or had sex or anything ... any advice? It makes me crazy. (can you say that in english? woah, I should study more haha)

Its really not something to be embarrassed by, granted, it can totally suck sometimes. I should know, im 20 and have ONLY kissed girls. But if advice is what you're after than i'll tell you what i tell myself. Never worry that there is something wrong with you, there is not. Never worry it'll be like this forever, it will not. And NEVER do something just because you havent yet. I have had plently of chances to have sex. I've taken none of them, because i dont want sex for the sake of sex. I've given only the kisses i've wanted to give, and only let slip a painful few that i never felt strong enough to make. Kisses will come and go, in time so will sex, spooning, hand holding. Blah blah blah. All that romantic shit. And it'll be the best shit. Just you wait!

Oh my god there is this stupid fucking girl in my class and she's just ugggh she accuses my friend of being in a fake relationship just because she's jealous because no one likes her because she's an asshole and I'm going to explode Whenever I try to look nice (as in I put on eyeshadow, blush and mascara because I fucking want to) she accuses me of being fake and selfish and she's so opinionated and against feminism and I HATE HER she's just Oh god I'm running out of space

Whoa whoa whoa, first of all, take a moment to relax, i get how infuriating some people can be, but a lot of them tale pleasure in acheiving that responce from people. Dont give them the satisfaction and you're already beating them. Secondly, agreed, make up and beauty products are there to be used of they make you more comfortable, or you just prefur them. Granted, going overboard is sometimes not attractive, but honestly, its your faces, people! So do as you wish, many will judge, many more wont care. :D Who knows there girl you're describing could be one of the nicest girls on the planet but just be stubbon or have her beleifes, or yes, maybe she's horrible. But if you want my advice, to save your need to rant further? Just distance yourself from her, you'd really be suprised how a totaly lack of comumication will also cause in the person who doesnt like you either. Unless they make snide little comments, in which case, loudly call their asses out on it. They're being quiet for a reason.

Um I'll stay anon if thats okay :) not sure what to say but er okay. I'm flirty. Always have been. Like it with my guy mates etc. I broke up with my bf like a couple months ago before xmas. Suddenly a few mates start liking me and so do new people-I'm not vain-but I don't want a relationship. I haven't been single in ages. Is it okay to flirt with a few people? I'm single and they know I don't want anything but I don't wanna be judged for enjoying my freedom for once :/ is it okay to be flirty?

You're more than welcome to remain anonymous, whatever makes you more comfortable. Firstly, Flirting is nothing to be ashamed of, you are single, and have been for a while. You are allowed to do whatever you please when single. And vanity has nothing to do with it, often people choose to not want a relationship, that idea always mystified me until I realized that flirting with someone can lead to you feeling better about yourself, without having to worry about the stress of an actual commitment. In a sence like that, flirting is actually beneficial. It is up to you to decide who and how much you flirt with people, I can't tell you that but I can't tell you three things.It does not make you a slut.It does not make you a whore.And it does not make you a bad person. And to be honest, Some people believe that flirting with more than one person at once is something to be fround upon. (I actually tend to follow that, but because I enjoy flirting in a more "this is the girl I choose to flirt with" sense, not a sense that more than one is wrong.) Nevertheless, there is still absolutely nothing wrong with it.So go crazy, if you find someone attractive, flirt with them. do what you're comfortable with. Enjoy your freedom! and don't let anyone tell you differently! All the best!

My heart hurts. I feel like I'm stuck in one place and I'm never getting out. Like nothing's ever going to change. If I felt any more jaded or bitter, I'd probably be able to taste it. I hate how fast moods can swing from opposite ends of the spectrum. I don't understand why it feels like this, and that scares me even more. It didn't used to feel this way.

You will always get out. These feelings wull fade. I can assure you of that, and though it doesn't seem like it now, they will, yes. It'll probably be hard. And yes, somewhere deep inside you, you probably crave this feeling...don't ask me why we do it. But we do, we can't let go of what's hurting us, because a little part of it nakes us feel closer to the person. I assure you, all this is normal, it sucks. And I wish it wasn't, and I know how scary it can be. Trust me on that. But this will slowly fade, into one of those things that doesn't hurt, that doesn't keep you awake, that doesn't take up your time. It will fade, and you'll be better from it in the end. Just hang in thereAnd if you need me again, I'm here for you. Best of luck!

Words From The Vent Tent #2

Jingle bells, shopping shelves…

Welcome to the sales! A wonderful time where all your favorite items are lowered In price and you leave with a million and one shopping bags.

But retail workers are only human. They have probably spent the last few hours, picking up after customers, frantically running around and piling up customer orders and trying to forfil them as fast as they can.

Give them a break, if an item isn’t on sale, even if it’s in the sale area. It’s an honest mistake, another customer has placed it there. Please don’t kick up a fuss.

If it’s MARKED as sale, we can all understand your confusion, and sometimes, if you ask in a polite way, they can drop the price.

Angrily exploding, will not make them want to help you, it will make you a problem, and a store is fully wothimg rights to refuse to surve you completly, leaving you feeling like and idiot.

They will do ALL they CAN for you.

Not everything you demand.

Do NOT bring up The Sales of Goods Act, you will only quote it wrong. The price at the tillpoint is the price. Final.

So give a little thought to the workers of the January Sales. Without them, you wouldn’t be getting anything at all, have a conversation with them, or just smile at them, it really will make their day a little bit brighter.

#stress vent #stress #vent #vent blog #advice #advice blog #work #retail #sales

Haha I don't even know where to start.I love my friends, they are some of the sweetest and sincere people I know. But they're also the most stuck in their opinion. It's hard to talk about certain things with them because it feels like they don't try to understand that some things genuinely upsets me. Sometimes they just laugh, or kind of groan and tell me I'm being ridiculous. Not with EVERYTHING, but some of the things that really hurt. It happens so often that sometimes it feels like my fault.

Ah yes. That feeling. People are very hard to change, I have many friends who are stuck in there ways, what you need, is a friend who you can tell anything to. You probably have one, and you probably are one to someone else. It's a wonderful feeling really.And speaking about certain things can upset people, while others are left unaffected. It's a sad fact, but it happens...But hey, if you ever need someone to talk to, about all the little things. You can sit in my Vent Tent all day...I'll make tea...This is a place to say what you want to say, not just want annoys it stresses you :P

Words From The Vent Tent #1

Crushes happen. Do not think yourself stupid for developing one. Every single relationship has started with a crush.

They are extremely common things, so what's to say they don't like you back?

#Vent #Vent blog #Vent Tent #advice #advice blog #crush

hi, anon crushing on the ex's friend here xD; my ex still loves me. Even after all the shit he put me through he loves me. I broke up with him in October. We are doing the same course so i see him everyday. Only 2 weeks ago are we on good terms-i decided to be the mature one. I have recently developed feelings for a friend of his. This friend wont ever like me. He casually mentioned that he would be a girl he would go out with(one of those, out of all the girls in class things) but

Firstly, If your ex still loves you but can't find those feeling for him, then I'm he's going to need to get over his feelings. Which surprising, you can help him with. Don't be awkward around him. Just treat him like any other friend, and once you being to see him as that, he'll recognise it. It doesnt work on crushes, but if he's dated you then he probably knows more about you and how to read you...he's uses to being influenced by how you act...use that to slowly break down what you have and rebuild a good solid friendship, it sounds ridiculous that more time spent together helps (fyi, by together I do NOT mean alone) but it's worked on three of my friends after I've told them to do this.Secondly, do not sell yourself short, you have no idea if this other guy could develop feelings for you, and if you talk to him enough, you honestly never know. Do NOT, worry about a "bro code" Speaking as a 19 year old guy. The Bro Code is a made up system to cover up that either: 1) someone isnt ready to let you go2) the new guys doesnt want an awkward talk with the ex (which makes him an idiot, seriously, suck it up, man) 3) the new guys knows about the ex's feeling still linger and doesn't want to cause his friend pain (which is a GOOD reason, but will just prolong the whole him eventually liking you back) Good luck, and keep me posted <3

it is all in vain. 1)coz my ex (call him mr A) bitched about me to this friend (mr B) I think Mr B has a bad opinion of me so I find it awkward talking to him, we've had a laugh but that's it 2)Mr A has always been possessive and said that "I wont let anyone in college go out with you. Its disrespectful" I asked "even if it were to make me happy?" to which his reply was "I don't care, it shouldn't happen" that's where we differ, if someone made HIM happy,id be fine, regardless of who it is

Mr A, is possessive when he had no right to be, and Mr B had an opinion, which are extremely easy to change. Mr A has had his chance and has absolutely no say in what you do from this point out, sure, he doesn't agree, but why should that matter? And yes, it could influence Mr B's decisions, but i would say keep talking to the guy you like. And if he starts to like you back, Mr A will not be able to do squat. While I can't call myself a fan of people who strive to make sure other people are only happy when it suits them. I think Mr A may possibily have some lingering feelings for you. Which you may need to ask about...But the best advice I can give is:your life, your choice, don't let others define what you can and cannot do. No matter what they tell you.

it seems like all of my friends have boyfriends or someone that likes them in their life, & i am the only single one. i've accepted the fact that it's okay to be alone & that there is nothing wrong with me, but it's just been one of those days where i feel like i'm doing something wrong. or i feel lonely. i just miss having someone i guess. i know i sound pathetic haha i'm sorry.

Ah finally, I was waiting for this one.I'm in the exact same situation, so I know perfectly the kinda run down feeling you get. First of all, you are no where near pathetic, wanting to have someone special in your life is no reason to be hard on yourself, because everyone does. Now, I'm not going to suggest that you go out and dive head first into a relationship, that tends to end tragically in most cases, but find something that keeps you happy, use it to replace and loneliness you get. Mines music. I put on my headphones and dance about to whatever comes on. I know it comes in waves, it's isn't a constant thing, but dwelling on the feelings make them worse, the second you feel like that, find a way to distract yourself. There are strong and weak emotions. Happiness is a strong emotion, while loneliness only becomes strong if you let it. It can be drowned out easily if you try :) ...And now for the cliche advice blog paragraph...You will find someone, it's not a happy little pick me up bases on hope. It's a pretty acceptable fact that someone will fall into your life and bam, you two start to get along. If it gives you any comfort, I'm nearly 20 and have been single throughout all of that, but I'm not glinging to a hope, I just know that it will happen.So good luck, and hey, try a dance!

I'm crushing on my ex bf friend at college :/ me and my bf are on good terms and his mate and I kinda talk but not much. I want more but while I'm at college no one will like me coz of my ex. Either guy code or he will just moan and rant :( I feel like ill never be happy coz of my ex. He'll hate any guy I'll like regardless of my happiness :'( I feel really trapped...

First of all, the guy code is ridiculous and should never be followed unless the relationship has just ended. Swooping in, is not an appropriate, but after a break up, your ex has no say in who you date. If he has that much of a problem with it, he should have not let you go. If I've heard it correctly your crushing on your ex Boyfriend's friend, which happens from time to time, who you like is unavoidable. But of you too are actually on good terms then he should understand that. You feeling trapped is what makes giving you solid advice difficult. The only real way to free yourself from that is to break away from whatever is holding you. And you might not want to say, but you already know exactly what is holding you. And you need to do one of two things...and it's a little like bomb disposal. You can...defuse the problem. The less messy approach which is definitely harder but leaves something that is now better off and is workable. (sit people down, talk to them, let then know how you feel)Or detonate the problem. Distance yourself from them problem and see it abruptly end. It's the easiest approach BUT there's a lot more work to do to fix things should you ever want to. (lose those things trapping you, give them the clear message that you won't take it anymore but lose somethings you, once or still cared about)Just remember, if defusing doesn't work. Eventually, it will become a detonate situation. and they are not pretty.

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