Itās 1 a.m. Iām uncomfortably sprawled out on my bed, and Iām still stuffed. Thanksgiving without your family abroad can make homesickness feel almost nauseating ā this heavy sinking feeling that canāt be lifted with any amount of Nutella you stuff into your mouth. However, if youāre spending it with 24 other relative strangers on the same journey, itās heart-warming. Suddenly that sinking lifts, and you think, āOK, I can do this again.ā
This year was the first I spent without my family for the feast of thanks. Itās the one holiday where Iām responsible for all things culinary ā with the exception of the āturkey.ā With this perturbing homesickness poking me as the holiday approached, I was hoping for something that would cure my ailment. As if the turkey fairies heard my plea, a fellow masters student named Henna said she wanted to host Thanksgiving two weeks before Turkey Day.
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Henna, one of the masters students, proudly displays Cinzia.
Cinzia was tied and prepped the night before.
Matteo (right) investigates Cinzia
Maya and Megumi open bottles of wine to start the celebration
I jumped at the chance to participate. Suddenly, we had a 16.75-pound turkey named Cinzia, 25 enthusiastic international attendees, a menu to match our diversity, and enough wine to fuel a small army contingent with drunkenness.
Itās not about the turkey, the stuffing, or the mashed potatoes. Itās not about the beer, wine, or prosecco. Itās not even about the overindulgence and sensory overload of the sights, smells, and sounds that pass through the night ā from the pungent turkey broth to the smokey-sweet smell of Nebbiolo. It is about the moment ā the celebration we have with the people around us in this strange bubble of unreality. Because, in what other world but fantasy would you combine 25 individuals from 10 different countries to study food, journalism, and the sociology that encompass the two?
That nauseating sinking feeling dissipated as the wine was poured more and more freely with abundant glee. Jokes were shared; swear words in foreign tongues exchanged, and each of us left stuffed with food and memories.
The comfort in knowing youāre not alone is a human one, but I think it goes deeper than that. Itās a sort of bandage that heals the loneliness ā the self-awareness in knowing that all of us are feeling that sinking feeling at some point. After all, most of us are in this foreign land trying to cope with all elements of living abroad ā from learning patience to surviving without knowing Italian.
I walked home alone, but satisfied. The night ended at 12:45 a.m. with a call to my blood family as I sent a mental thank you to my adopted one here.
Friendsgiving Itās 1 a.m. Iām uncomfortably sprawled out on my bed, and Iām still stuffed. Thanksgiving without your family abroad can make homesickness feel almost nauseating ā this heavy sinking feeling that canāt be lifted with any amount of Nutella you stuff into your mouth.