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Reading 📖

Punks, Bulldaggers, and Welfare Queens: The Radical Potential of Queer Politics? by Cathy J Cohen

Sonnets Fragmented: The Poetics of Disability by Ruth Li

Brain Storm: The Flaws in the Science of Sex Differences by Rebecca M. Jordan-Young

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to organize effectively with other people you need to believe in something beyond your own victimhood. many do not get to this step

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@monkishfemme: #also part of victimhood you need to move beyond is martyrdom#and white guilt - type motivations

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@stump-water: #and it’s good for you! it’s good for you to believe you have something to offer the world other than your pain#it’s good to simply exist & not be utterly convinced that the most powerful thing about you is the fact you were victimized

word!! i have got to say-- and i would have hated hearing this ten years ago, but it's true-- i would never have gotten up the will to try and start to change my life for the better in several major, serious ways if i had remained convinced that the most important, salient thing about me is always my damage (OR, for that matter, real or perceived wrong i've done in the past!), that it's not possible to overcome/get past traumatic experiences given enough time and effort, and that compassion/empathy is a finite resource i need to compete for by being in the most distress

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to organize effectively with other people you need to believe in something beyond your own victimhood. many do not get to this step

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@monkishfemme: #also part of victimhood you need to move beyond is martyrdom#and white guilt - type motivations

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dec. 8 playlist:

"Reeloading" (The Sidh)

"Light Up" (The Avalanches)

"Woo" (Rihanna)

"Sonata 9: Sarabanda" (Giovanni Zamboni, Peter Croton)

"The Line" (Twenty One Pilots)

"Dawn FM - OPN Remix" (The Weeknd, Oneohtrix Point Never)

"Left Outside Alone" (Anastacia)

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i’m not aromantic but i believe in their beliefs

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for me being bi has contributed a huge amount to noticing all the ways in which romance and friendship run together and i think in general people would benefit from recognizing that romance and friendship are socially constructed categories used to describe a vast, nebulous, and often overlapping range of feelings

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me when i see a young trans girl gain popularity on the internet

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op what does this mean

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visibility gets trans women killed

[play-now-my-lord]

serenely remembering the moment when isabel fall published "helicopter story" aka "i sexually identify as an attack helicopter", which instantiated harassment from her clouty new-wave scifi friends that radiated outwards into transmisogynist scifi normies and became so severe she wound up in inpatient. people took up the cause of the story in the name of "free artistic expression" and "speaking difficult truths", which was not incorrect but which was kind of missing the forest for the trees in that specific situation: the age-old game of "kill the baby trans girl out of professional jealousy, farm clout off of doing it". the roles could have been completely reversed - the transmisogynist acquaintances could have been writing edgy outsider lit and could have been encouraging mass harassment against her for being a tenderqueer sellout (i swear to god i have seen this shit too). effect would have been the same.

when trans women in FSF talk about this shit, they usually talk about it from the angles of "censorious tenderqueers tried to kill someone over a story" or, in the most sympathetic voice i've seen out of someone in journalism, "public pressure functionally forced this exciting trans writer back into the closet". but they generally miss the degree to which it was intimate, personal transmisogynist violence, which bled into and intersected with the logics of mob justice, of "community safety" (remember, part of the substance of the accusations was that she was a stealth nazi, which frankly knowing a little about both the accusers and IF herself I can say confidently was not just vacuous but knowingly vacuous, them lying through their teeth), and again, professional jealousy.

i have seen people who crowed the loudest about what got done to IF do it to other people. it's the easiest thing in the world, and it happens all the time, and you can do it whenever you want - try and have some weird tranny rival or inconvenient tranny ex-friend killed - and it engenders no moral stain, no whispers, no reputation. i think they don't even have a conception that they're hypocrites. why would they? nothing that happens to anyone like that is real. human life is cheap if it's in the wrong body. everything they hold is stolen, everything they are is negotiable, for everything they do someone else surely deserves the credit. why not you? don't you deserve it more?

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It/its pronouns not just as inanimate object but as godhead

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Autism is hell because people think you have Weird Person Disorder when in practice it’s more like

“I heard a weird sound that made my muscles and nerves feel like they were electrocuted and now I have to throw up, the pain is 12/10 level and I’m angry at the person who made the painful sound”

or “a social behavior that no one mentioned was important is actually super important, I didn’t know, and now everyone secretly decided they hate me”

And it happens like every day, and no matter how physically painful it is you’re just supposed to Deal

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people love gender nonconformity until a bitch nonconforms the gender

[michellegun-deactivated20230629]

BECOME UNMARKETABLE

[michellegun-deactivated20230629]

MAKE YOUR PAIN UGLY MAKE YOUR LOVE GROSS MAKE THEM WINCE AT YOUR EARNESTNESS MAKE THEM LOOK AWAY