#Suddenly30

tales of a sinlge girl dating in the City

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Second Dates!

I have been pretty MIA the past few weeks and haven't been doing any dating, although last week I jumped back on the dating app bandwagon and have had a couple of nice first dates. The first a casual coffee was nice but there was no “clicking” with said date and subsequently have not spoke with them since. 

However, that same weekend I meet a super cute guy for a drink, which turned into dinner! He has the dreamiest blue eyes! #swoon! We have a second date tonight. 

Isn’t it a boost of confidence to get a second date? I feel like dating is an exhausting never ending string of first dates so it’s nice to meet someone who you want to hang see again!

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another fun time on a dating app

I got sent a message this week saying “hello looking for NSAFWB” after googling what it was I though, hmm maybe they will want to chat a little first. I replied politely and the reply was a d*** pic. To be honest, I feel like this one was my own fault, I did reply and give the impression that I was interested in “no strings attached friends with benefits”. - M

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Another nice date!

I did go on a nice date a few weeks ago now, I am still chatting to said man and we are planning another date, hopefully sooner rather than later - M

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radio silence

After a couple of weeks of chatting all day then finally meet up, then nothing. I went on the first date last week that I was very nervous and excited to go on. I had a nice time. I thought we where getting along well. Later that day, I sent him a message saying I had a nice time and would like to catch up again. Absolutely zero response. Not even a courtesy message to say thanks but no thanks. Guess my search continues, until next time ...  M

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first date jitters

How exciting is the prospect of a first date with someone you meet though a dating app. Firstly, you’ve spent time chatting though the app, then transition to text messages and phone calls. I have a date booked in this coming weekend and big surprise, it’s a brunch date! i’m excited and nervous!

I’ll let you know how it goes! - M 

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update

The guy from the previous “online dating” post who tried to invite himself up, things fizzled out slowly. I tried to plan another date but when I asked if he was free for brunch at a suburb in between where we both live, the only answer I got was along the lines of “that place is 40 mins from me”. I tried. - M 

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kiss of death ..

Is there anything worse than being told, “I am not attracted to you but you have a great personality, we can be freinds”? It’s like a kick in the guts isn’t it? That was the message I got today after a coffee date. Gosh it’s a blow to the self esteem! 

Cheers to the next date! - M 

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Describe your perfect date ...

What’s yours? 

I like first dates to be casual and include either coffee or wine. - M 

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Failure to Launch

I went into the city to meet a man for a first date, the plan was I met him at his building and we would go to a bar for a drink. While waiting for him to finish work I saved a life, a man stumbled and fell onto the road, there was no traffic, he was fine! Anyways, back to the date ... 

The gentleman came down, said he didn’t know of any bars near his work so we ended up getting hot chocolate. While chatting it was obvious we had zero things in common, not even both liking hot chocolate. I got the feeling early on that I did not see this relationship going further than friends. Anyways, the date was rounding up and I extended the invite to grab something to eat as I had planned to check out a new burger place that was across from where we where and lets face it, it’s nice to have someone to eat with. 

On our way to the burger place he phones his mum to let her know he was eating in the city and he will be home later! It wasn’t the fact that he stilled at home but he said he was still there because he likes his mum doing the cooking and cleaning for him, he was 32! - M 

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Girlfriend dates!

How nice is it to go on “dates” with your girlfriends! I love catching up for brunch (of course!) or having my girlfriends over for a takeaway and movies! 

I live interstate from my high school BFF’s and while home recently a couple of my favourite people took me to Byron Bay for a night. We spent the morning at the Farm eating treats, went for a walk around town, then pampered ourselves at a day spa for the afternoon. We then spent the evening doing nothing but chat and laugh. It was one of the best nights we have spent together! I love all my girlfriends and cherish the times we spend together! - M 

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I know Liam Neeson!

I started chatting to a guy on a dating app and he was being very pushy to meet up. That night I had been down at the hot springs with a girlfriend then we had headed into the city for some late night shopping, I told him I was busy and we can meet up the following day. He kept pushing for me to ditch my friend and I was getting annoyed. Anyways, we planned to catch up the following morning for brunch (I know, I am always on a brunch date!)

I was outside the cafe at our planned meeting time when he messaged to ask if I still wanted to catch up. I said yes, he said he would be half an hour. I went and sat in the park and waited. 

He was nice, he was from Albania and started asking about where I live and who I live with. As you know by now I live in fear of being kidnapped on dates and #safetyfirst I lied and said I live with roommates and one of them is a cop. I then brought up the film taken and made it sound like I know Liam Neeson so he didn’t get any ideas about kidnapping me. - M

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It’s never what it seems ... 

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The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself

Carrie Bradshaw

As much fun as it is dating, I love me most of all!

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Online dating means I have recived many unwanted XXX pics. 

Amy Schumer hitting the nail on the head #punintended. - M

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stood up ...

I remember chatting to a guy on tinder and getting along fairly well i assumed. We planned to catch up at a local bar, I got there a little early to scope out a good table and told the waitress I was waiting to meet someone before ordering. I waited and waited and he never showed up. Not even a message to say he couldn’t make it. It was embarrassing and the lovely waitress gave me a wine on the house and sat with me for a bit while we winged about boys. It was very empowring though to enjoy a wine by myself in public, an activity I usually do on my own in my pj’s. - M

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Activities on dates!

Another fun first date I went on was with another ex boyfriend, he took me for brunch (it’s my favorite meal of the day) and then to SeaWorld, it was a great first date. The next day he took me to MovieWorld where we had our first kiss on the Scooby Doo roller coaster. We dated for a few months and then sadly he moved interstate for work and we couldn’t make it work. - M