Trans men should have a Fondude Fundraiser Night where you can pay to gorge yourself on fondue 🫕 and there could be a silent auction or raffle and the money should go towards getting trans men out of red states and to places like Vermont (blue state known for excellent cheese)
when the youths are trad eugenicsmaxxing by taking a hammer to their faces it's hard to convince parents that abandoning online privacy isn't the answer because the last thing you can ever ask of them is to actually step up and be a parent who takes away the device or implements parental controls that have existed this whole time
surely the childfree queers with "MDNI stay the fuck away from me you sticky jam handed beasts" in bio are the real danger here who need more restrictions amidst an ongoing genocide
i get that having a kid is exhausting and that being overworked and underpaid on top of that sucks and with the breakdown of community you aren't getting the help you need, but demanding licenses to see boobs isn't going to stop AI from grooming your kids into self harm or white supremacist streamers from feeding them the worst ideologies you can fathom
is it really too much to ask that you take them to the library or get them a mini herb garden so they have something to look forward to besides infinite scrolling through filtered facsimiles of faces until they want to rip their unrecognizable flawed human skin off?
you expect disabled people to bake in the sun waiting in line at the food pantry for your fucking scraps, but you can't be assed with the mildest inconveniences for the sake of those you created or took in supposedly with good intentions
punish and isolate queer people more, surely that'll stop your kid from slinging slurs
Men who have experienced misogyny firsthand and come out ready to fight against bigots are a force for good. You cannot convince me that the words doesn't need more good men in it. Men who can be normal about periods instead of acting disgusted. Men who are willing to express their feelings. Men who understand the discrimination women face. Men who treat women like the human beings they are even if they aren't attracted to them.
No group is a monolith, of course. There's going to be trans men who are misogynistic, there's trans and cis women who are misogynistic and we all know there's misogynistic cis men. Hell, there's misogynistic people who fall outside the gender binary and you might assume that they'd know better, but expecting more of any group of people is just setting yourself up for disappointment because we're all people and sometimes regardless of demographic a person is just plain awful.
Those who still think masculinity is universally rewarded as though it hasn't been met with institutionalization, corrective rape and more really think shoulder pads and lean in girlboss feminism was anything but a rug pull that made a few women very rich who pulled the ladder up behind them and it's fucking wild. You're going to fall for a multilevel marketing scheme if you don't wise up quick and those you alienated are sure as fuck not going to buy you out of it.
You will be hurt by individuals who are marginalized and it's important that you don't use that individual's actions as an excuse to be bigoted against an entire marginalized group of people.
Marginalized people have less access to crucial financial and mental health resources, that doesn't excuse bad actions taken against you and you don't ever have to forgive an individual who harms you, but understanding the circumstances that culminated in that harm can sometimes allow you to find some sense of closure in knowing that it wasn't personal or your fault and that there was nothing that you could or should have done differently to change the outcome. Systems need to change in ways that support people and you should not have to bare the burden of their failure.
October 12th not being a tumblr holiday despite this blight of a post haunting my memory over a decade later is a shame because tumblr newcomers should know the kinds of things that once circulated on this hellsite.
I don't know enough about history and politics to understand why mega yachts and mansions aren't targeted in times of war. You'd have the corrupt leaders by the shorthairs and the population of that country cheering for you. Are the wealthy just sadists bombing the poor for more snuff with no regard for any nation at the end of the day, or is that too cynical? Is the instability of war just a way to snatch up more people to traffick and exploit? Is the environmental impact of no concern? It's obvious the people don't matter to those in charge, but do they really think they'll live on Mars or in a bunker or on a computer and let us all boil alive or die in extreme weather events? I just don't get what will be left for the ghouls. I guess with so many old fucks running shit the future might not be a consideration. Is the fear and hopelessness the point? I don't get the why, what's the end goal of all the bullshit?
Sometimes I think something like 'people who just pretend to care about other people in order to get their needs met and engage in social interactions on a purely transactional level will accuse the people they're using of being narcissistic the second they express a need of their own' and I wonder how I can stop being such a cynical myopic recluse trying to intellectualize everything so I don't have to feel anything
Binary trans creator makes a nonbinary character only referred to by they/them pronouns in the canon source material
People decide what binary gender they're closest to and use only the pronoun that typically accompanies that binary gender
Binary trans creator says it's fine because that character is fine with any and all pronouns
People proceed to treat said character like the binary gender they are considered closest to and use the creator's word as a shield
You can't criticize this because the creator is trans
Even though the creator isn't nonbinary
People use gendered shipping terms like yaoi or yuri to refer to relationships this character is in (based in part on the partner in the ship's identity, sure, but don't worry the binary trans creator will surely give you blessings to use this term as well because 99% of nonbinary characters written by people who aren't nonbinary are too chill and unbothered to mind and you should look up to and emulate this nonchalant nonbinary character who takes it on the chin so you can be seen as cool too)
Other nonbinary people will use their identity to assure you that this is fine and normal and that actually you're the reason we aren't taken seriously or respected if you don't accept this as peak representation
Binary trans people will argue over whether this character is TMA or TME because more binaries are surely what's needed in this situation
We gotta be too cool to care though, stoic while also being nurturing. Give and passively accept whatever's given with gratitude. Provide and support, be a pillar of strength, but don't you dare ask for anything. Also do the dishes so you're not the bad lazy stereotype we mock. And about your name, whether you go with a less gendered name like Alex or something unconventional, it's going to be used as a punchline by binary trans comedians and you have to be cool and not complain about this too or you're transphobic.
Also are you transfem or transmasc? I know you're nonbinary, but are you TMA or TME? I get that you're nonbinary, but in what direction? If you don't answer I'm picking whichever one I hate more and saying I could always tell that's what you were, especially because you aren't complying with me. We can always tell is obviously fine to say if you're a binary trans person because binary trans people can't be transphobic.
Can someone please turn me into a pulp and make that Will it Sausage youtuber cook me up so I don't have to deal with this bs?
Care is taken for granted but also seen as manipulative. Care isn't valued but is seen as suspicious if it's not the byproduct of exploitation. You know Care has value, but if it's given freely rather than as a result of control and subjugation, it unsettles. You can't trust Care that isn't coerced, but you see the one Caring as the one who must have ulterior motives?
Capitalism makes you distrust something so natural and core to being a collaborative social animal.
Care should be properly compensated under our current system, but the system itself is maddening in how it makes people doubt and distrust one another in order to perpetuate harm.
I have no clue is I'm getting across what I intended to convey at all.
With all the hatred of trans men and transmascs I've been seeing lately I think it's more important now than ever to uplift one another. Please interact here if you believe in transandrophobia, especially if you are a trans man or transmasc.
If you're an Ally, please reassure the trans men and transmascs in your life that you won't choose a popular gimmick blog that hates them over their comfort. Let them know that if you reblog a post from someone bigoted against them that it's safe to let you know and that you'll take action. You can verify the accusation before taking action and should, just as you should verify accusations of any kind of discrimination, especially anonymous ones.
We have to love each other more than the bigots hate us, remember that. How many posts trying to uplift trans men and transmascs have zero notes? How alone do you think that makes the person posting feel in that desire to support? All of us, myself included, have got to do more!