🌻sunflower & ginger😼

Married for 10+ years. In their 30s. Childless. Own cats & horses. Semi-open, dom/sub/switch relationship. Kinky🔥. Ginger😼: she/he, genderfluid, bicurious; ginger, tall and thin. Sunflower🌻: she/they, xenogender, demisexual; colorful, tattooed and kinda thicc.

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Good cop and a bad cop appears to be a legitimately valid child rasing strategy.

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Double the genders - quadruple the childhood traumas 😁 This will keep you occupied for a while

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What do you give your furry xenogender demisexual significant other?

You build them a NEST. A typical fort, a lair if you will, with pillows, and blankets, and snowflake lights. With a foam mattress under the blankets, so The Creature (aka The Beast) can sleep and nest there if they feel like it.

So that's what The Wifey (aka The Beauty) did.

And it left me totally speechless and so happy.

Being a furry usually meant something sexual for me. I also mostly understood my xenogender through my sexuality. I rarely (if ever) felt gender euphoria in a non-sexual setting. Wearing ears and a tail helped a lot and brought some gender euphoria.

BUT THE NEST.

It's so comfy, and I feel so safe here. The Creature inside me feels at home.

So that's when the demisexuality kicks in and immediately makes me horny 🔥🌻

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Saturday evening

What does it mean to be a childless married couple in their thirties on their Saturday evening off?

It basically means a couple of hours of shameless hot BDSM sex session followed by 2am after-sex snacks, paired with music and cooking competitions.

Also: it means getting to sleep past noon the next day.

Also: doing it two days in a row.

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Also: doing it on a Wednesday, because one of us can sleep till 10am and the other decided it's fine to be tired while working from home.

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Saturday evening

What does it mean to be a childless married couple in their thirties on their Saturday evening off?

It basically means a couple of hours of shameless hot BDSM sex session followed by 2am after-sex snacks, paired with music and cooking competitions.

Also: it means getting to sleep past noon the next day.

Also: doing it two days in a row.

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We just realized that Ginger and I are basically in a lesbian relationship. The funny part is neither one of us is actually female ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 🌻

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We both turned out to be so much better than we expected ourselves to be. 🌻

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me, wearing an anal tail plug, cat ears and stocking with cat paws: wait i think I'm a furry 🌻

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We're at a dance/trance club with friends and it's awesome. Every one of us is dressed differently. There's a lot of different people with a lot of forms of expression. Ginger 😽 is embracing his gender fluidity.

And no-one is dressed like me 🌻

I'm wearing my colorful leggins, sneakers, shorts and a "Let's flamingle" t-shirt. Some of my tattoos are clearly visible. I feel unique. I regret not wearing my cat ears, but oh well, I'll just wear them next time.

It's amazing to express yourself. 🌻

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Being demixual means that you're only getting horny when there's trust and safety involved. Then you're getting horny ALL THE FUCKING TIME. 🌻

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Sunflower has just decided that they're not going to wear a pushup bra anymore. They're not going to wear uncomfortable lingerie just because society expects them to.

From now on, it's gonna be a sports bra or no bra at all 👙🌻

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When I was a kid/teen, my girlfriends and I had watched a lot of romantic comedies. We would often fantasize how we would like to meet our one and true love. Be mindful - it was the time of chickflicks, like Pretty Woman or 27 Dresses.

For me, it was also a time of buddy cup movies, so my fantasy was always the same - I would fall in love with someone I've known for years, who's my best friend, has seen me at my best and at my worst. In my imagination it was usually set in a mostly male setting (cops, firefighters, detectives), so it was usually my cop partner in the fantasies.

I was always demi 🌻

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Admitting to yourself that you're queer is the easy part.

The hard part is understanding everything that's connected to it, every aspect of your person, everything that other similar people experience too.

For those at the beginning of their journey with identity - hold on tight, you're not expecting what you're going to find out about yourself. 😼🌻

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We just defined a new type of pair programming - couple programming.

It's when the programmer sits comfortably on a chair near a desk or a table and tries to write code with their partner sexually using their body (with full consent, obviously).

An example: Ginger sits on a chair by the kitchen table, completely naked and I alternate between sucking him off, riding him, giving him a handjob etc. How much code do you think he'd be able to write? 🌻

[sunflower-and-ginger]

Reddit changed my life. Redefined foundations of myself. Spontaneously creating our own account and joining subs from both sides (demisexual, genderfluid). Since then I participated in those communities a lot (for my usual 0 involvement).

After reading a lot of posts I started questioning my asexuality. No, I am not asexual, but I discovered a place to disconnect myself from my masculine side of my sex life.

I am not dependant on my orgasm - this thought had me bursting me into tears. Sex is not competitive, nobody is keeping a score!

It's so invigorating and freeing to be able to feel useful and complete as a whole. 😼

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The day I fulfilled Sunflower's one of deepest sexual desires (double penetration with artificial dildo) is the day I heard "ah, yes, the DP, but there were soooo many other great things" 😼

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Today was the first time I really LAUGHED out loud during sex. It felt so... joyful, so invigorating. It's been 20 years since I've had sex for the first time and it's the first time I laughed.

(I was straddling his lap and took him deep into my butt, leaned back a little and immediately climaxed. It was wonderful). 🌻