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Ok but

Melanie

Martinez???????????mmm

I am literallu crying icant she is so PERFECT RISNLZMFKZMD

I want to marry her

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Melanie Martinez via her Instagram story 

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Cinnamon Girl - Lana Del Rey

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[master-timothy2-deactivated2019]

“Her Castle. But…Who Rules?”

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She is strong. She is the ruler. She is in control except when she wants to let go.

[ghostwithbpd]

do you ever just look at yourself in the mirror and??? U just? That’s?? Not me??????

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Unfortunately men are hot sometimes

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Ayee💖

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Art

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Alpha Submissive

I’m not a big fan of labels. They always seem to leave a little something lacking. However the term alpha submissive has been on my mind a lot lately. I’ve frequently seen people ask about what it means to be an ‘alpha submissive,’ and so I thought it was an apt time to share what it means to me. (Your mileage may vary)

I am a leader. Let’s start with that. If there is a power vacuum, I will naturally step into place and lead. If I’m in a meeting and everyone is staring at one another unsure where to start, I will be the first to stand and begin asking questions. If I plan an event with friends/family I am the one who decides where we will meet, and who will bring what. I don’t do this because I desire leadership, but because I detest chaos. Indecision drives me crazy.

So am I really a submissive? Yes! I don’t crave leadership, what I crave is the quiet that comes with knowing that the mundane is managed and everything is in it’s place. I do not enjoy being the one who creates that order, but I am perfectly capable of doing so if there is no one better suited.

Now here’s the important bit. I didn’t say “if there is someone more willing,” I said, “if there is someone better suited.” There’s a huge difference. I am a leader who will only bow to a stronger leader than myself. Weak leaders need not apply. I’ll eat you for breakfast, and not so much as sit down to do it.

So are alpha submissives better than other submissives? No! Just different. Alpha submissives can be hard to find, because we don’t shout ‘submissive’ when you see us in our day-to-day lives. We’re not going to hand over a single shred of power until you’ve earned it. And if their Doms falter even a little I believe alpha subs have a tendency to fall into topping from the bottom, and that can be quite troublesome.

Shy subs, Bratty subs, little subs, alpha subs… we are all valid, what matters is our compatibility with our Dominants. No category is above another, like flavors of ice cream we come in many varieties, each perfectly suited to different tastes.

***As a footnote I’m going to mention that ‘alpha submissive’ is a term that is also used in poly relationships to denote the most senior submissive, or sometimes the submissive who helps to guide the other submissives alongside her Dominant. ***

[gosweetheartedgirl]

Interesting that this came up in my feed today because I have been thinking a lot about this. I consider myself an alpha sub for sure and for all of the reason mentioned above but I’d like to add what I think of as an alpha sub and what it means to me.

I too believe that we as subs are all individuals. I also detest labels, because ones definition may be very different from someone else’s when it comes to those labels. A label can quickly become a misunderstanding.

So here is what I wrote.

The alpha submissive

I so often see quotes on tumblr about the broken submissive about how she needs to be healed or taken care of and she does. But I feel it also portrays all submissives this way. You don’t have to be broken to be a submissive.

The submissive that isn’t broken that doesn’t doesn’t need but wants. We aren’t any less. I repeat we aren’t any less! We may not need you but we want you. Please dominants don’t think we are less then. We can serve you just as much. We don’t have to need you to serve you.

We are happy we are optimistic. We love our life. We handle the ups and the downs. We can’t imagine waking up and not thinking I’m so happy to be alive today. We are grateful for the life we have been given and the joys and sorrows we have gotten to experience. No matter what we are ok. We love ourselves and the world around us. Please don’t think we don’t need you we do. We need you just as much as the one that does struggle it’s just for different reasons.

I’m a delicate looking woman and this is both a curse and a blessing. I often get underestimated which can be good in some situations and frustrating in others. But one thing I know about myself I am not broken.

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“I am a leader who will only now to someone stronger than myself”

Different but valid. Yes, we are.

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Tiny Dancer - Elton John

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When ya know that all you need is to be spanked, tied down, taken, a visit to subspace and cuddled to sleep…

#Mood

#SubBrainsAreBusyBrains

#BumperCars

#TooMuchToAsk??

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If this ain’t a flipping NEED right now…