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autistic asexual queer she/her

[sunnylovestoby]

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[sturgeonposting]

I have been so sad and so sick but my dear friend knitted me a tiny sturgeon and all my chronic pain and illness went away so here he is and hopefully he will cure all of your lifelong conditions

[sunnylovestoby]

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[kiwisandpearls]

”this is the autism website!”

you guys still make fun of people who can’t hold a normal 9-5 job, struggle with phone calls, generally don’t want to or can’t go outside, have not so great reading comprehension, have a hard time making small talk, struggle with picking up on sarcasm, and struggle with getting the joke

[norabee]

I don't even think this should be a "rent-lowering gunshots" type of post, but here we are: "transandrophobia" plain-out does not exist. The word "transmisogyny" was coined to discuss the intersection between transphobia and misogyny, and "androphobia" or "misandry" do not fuckin exist as structural forces in the slightest. Men are not punished for Being Men, and trans men are men, plain and simple. The word you're looking for is transphobia, please just block me if you disagree with very literally any of this. K bye

[sunnylovestoby]

just seen a post talking about "self-identified asexuals". as opposed to what? fucking diagnosed asexuals? acephobes think they're so slick. yeah i know you think being ace is a disease, you just love rape culture so so much

[altschmerzes]

happy pride!! great time to remember to check in with yourself and reflect on whether you have exclusionist beliefs about aromantic and asexual people and whether they're 'queer enough to ride' and also to remember to think critically about whether that super funny joke about virgins or insistence there's 'no platonic explanation for this' or eye-rolling mockery of language like 'queerplatonic' is perhaps perpetuating some pretty shitty stuff about aro and ace people before you reblog it.

let's speedrun some things: the asexual nicki minaj moodboard was a strawman post designed to make ace people look bad and a lot of people fell for it, 'is it horny' is not ever going to be a universal or majority measure of 'good art' and insisting that by 'horny' you meant 'passionate' doesn't make that sentiment less shit, aromantic and asexual people aren't queer lite and don't need an additional Real Queer identity to belong in queer community, 'ace discourse' wasn't a cringe bit of whoops we got carried away with the jokes it was violent bigotry that way too many of you are proud to have been involved in. that's a good place to start.

[annabelle--cane]

wow what a good and witty post about sex positivity, it's just that, there's kind of this underlying feeling that, uh. hmm. one second. [searches "asexual" on op's blog] motherfucker

[kaiserin-erzsebet]

I wish we talked more about how alienating it is as you get older to have no dating experience. Everyone around you talks about exes and awkward dates and all the people that have asked them out. Everyone has funny and awkward stories of romance. And you kind of just sit there with nothing to contribute.

Eventually it feels like you're the only one who didn't at least try dating several people in your teens and early 20s. It feels like this formative experience that you're just....missing.

[kaiserin-erzsebet]

To clarify: I see this as independent of whether the reason for not dating is voluntary or not, whether you're looking for a romantic relationship or not.

I mean that it becomes a topic of conversation where it is assumed that everyone has these experiences, and for the most part people do. I'm talking about the underlying idea that even finding out that you don't want a relationship comes from the experience of dating and realizing it's not for you.

I really am trying to get at the idea of a certain amount of romantic experience is being presumed to be the baseline by a certain age.

[gotta-get-that-pma]

Asexuality win! Person who repeatedly pressured their ace partner to "compromise" on sex because it was "a necessary part of a healthy relationship" fucking dies. <3

[bugthingsdaily]

today's bug thing is this worm plush!

[teradrama-deactivated20260513]

i feel like the reason why there's so much overlap between transmisogyny and aphobia comes down to the fact that they both stem from social biases that practically no one has bothered to unlearn. the ideas that 'feminity is inherently degrading so any "man" who actively pursues it is shameful" and that "wanting sex/romance is intrinsic to human nature" have been so deeply, deeply ingrained in our societies that unless they are a member of those groups, which are Actively Opting Out of the things that society forces onto people, you rarely do the work to unpack and unlearn these same biases.

[nedlittle]

it makes me sad the way cis women are so terrified of and disgusted by their own body hair. and i'm not talking "i have to shave for sensory reasons" i mean i keep seeing videos of women using hair identifier spray on their faces and hands so they can shave the tiniest barely-there bits of peach fuzz that came free with their bodies. hair that serves a purpose and that purpose is cleanliness and protection. i mean when i was in elementary school girls who had barely hit puberty were talking about shaving their arms. i mean full-grown adult women who will have a breakdown if they see two days of stubble on their legs/crotch/ jaw/pits because god forbid you don't look like a perfect plastic barbie doll. god forbid your body that keeps you alive comes with hair that may not be soft and glossy and photogenic. some women are so afraid of having any hair apart from their head and eyebrows that they've uno reversed themselves into six different kinds of gender dysphoria that they can't recognize as such because they're convinced that this unnatural state of highly-groomed capital-informed beauty is how women have always been. you're so scared of looking "gross" or "ugly" or "mannish" that you can't even look at your body in the mirror and recognize what it is. sister you are an ape. why are you so determined to deny your nature.

[nedlittle]

i was too nice in my original post. everyone get uglier and hairier NOW