honestly here’s a brain dump about all this:
1) the thin “I don’t actually gain I just imagine it cos it’s unhealthy” people in feedist spaces are always the most vitriolic when god forbid the fat people want to prioritise fat people. It’s almost like they believe thin people are superior and should be given higher status! Hmm! Wonder where I heard that one before!
2) Nobody has an issue with thin people being in feedist spaces but in the past year or so it feels like fat people are being pushed out of these spaces, and made to feel like they’re dirty or wrong for weighing 200lbs+ or not having a background of competitive sport and athleticism that they proceeded to “let go”. Like it or not a lot of fat people come to feedism from body positive communities, and after learning about fat liberation enter in with the suggestion that their body might be praised BECAUSE of the way it looks rather than in spite of it. Imagine how shitty that feels to be too fat for the fat admirers! And the tipping point for “too fat” gets smaller every year. I hover between 240-260 comfortably right now but have been up to 300lbs in the past. I have never been smaller than 200lbs as an adult. I was a fat child and a fat teenager. I have been told by multiple feeders that I would not be worth feeding because I’m too fat already, and it wouldn’t be a “real gain” because I never had the starter belly. I have also been told that I am too fat to identify as a FFA because that moniker apparently implies contrast, and can’t be a feeder either because I’m too fat to do it correctly. If the only valid way to practice feedism is thin feeder small fat feedee then what are the rest of us doing? Being expected to shut up and go away because we’re too huge and unfuckable? It’s just fat shaming rhetoric with extra steps.
3) I tend not to listen to people who can take their fat fetish off and put it away at the end of the day especially when their content focuses on how *huge* and *ruined* their bodies are. I’m sorry, I’m not going to feed into the delusion that someone who is 140lb is too fat to walk buy clothes or any other thing your smallfat of the month is telling you because they’re just TOOOO huge and disgusting!!! it’s just fat shaming rhetoric with extra steps!!!
