Okay! All these different social websites I’m been reading about the Monkees, especially the sexual question ones. They have been putting David Jones down a lot lately. I can’t believe nobody who knew him more personally hasn’t defended him like I have been trying to do. David was a very private man when it came to discussing sex. He never discussed his sex life. So the rumours persist. David has been sadly gone for 11 years. I’ve been reading a lot of things lately about untrue things about his sexual life and people guessing based on what rumours they have heard. Yes, most of his sexual partners have not come forward to talk about their sexual relationship with him. But, I felt after reading some of the put downs and and other not very nice comments it would be time to set some things straight. I kept our secret for 40 years. I’m 68 years old now. David would have been 78 years old if he lived. He was and still is a very special man. But, he was also a man, a real man who had problems just like everyone else. He worked hard all his life, Money did not always come easy. He still kept touring up until 10 days before his death. I’m sure the stress of a pending divorce and being alone again broke his heart. I don’t think he realised how much he was really loved. I had not seen him In about 12 years before he died. I seen him many times, starting in 1976 when I first met him. I would sometimes spend a week or so around him. I also visited him in London. Before he married the 2nd time. After that I seen him occasionally over the years. I love and cared about him. I wasn’t in love with him. I also had my own life and career during that time. The one thing I regret that I never told him about was that I had a emotional empathy connection with him. To this day I don’t know why I connected so strongly with him. I suspect he had a form of empathy himself as some actors do. So when I started writing my stories I included some of the things I learned from my connection with him. The first time I realised I had connected with him. I was just 21 years old and I knew I was sensitive to some people but, never had such a strong connection with other people. Back then I didn’t even know the name of my sensitivity only that I would feel another person’s feelings and emotions when they were strong. For a 21 year old woman who had her own feelings and emotions to deal with it was not easy dealing with a grown man’s feelings and emotions too! I was afraid of telling David about my connection with him. Back then first time it happened I felt him angry at someone he had a disagreement with. After that I kept getting impressions of other feelings and emotions that I knew were not coming from me but him. I think that was when I started seeing him as the real man he was and not the Davy that he portrayed to the public. I started then calling him only David. He was always concerned about making enough money and the way his career was going. Back then he was always pushing hard to make money. This was before the 86 reunion tour which helped boost his career more. I was closer to him between 1976 -80. He was in his early thirties. He was also very sexually frustrated back then. (One thing I was able to help him with) people think just because you’re famous and 1000 of girls are throwing themselves at you, that he could have sex as much as he wanted. Not true. David was very particular and was alone most of the time. He also I noticed started drinking a lot back then. Not so much when I first met him, but it got worse as time passed.
David was 5’3” 115 to 125 lbs back then. But girls, notice his big hands. First untrue rumour, David penis was not small by any means. I did not have a tape measure but I can only tell you by observations and feeling it, by hand and how it felt inside me. He was about 8” and as thick around as most men. Actually I thought he had a very beautifully formed penis. Ok! My forty plus year old secret. Yes! We had sex. No! David was not selfish, or big headed. He looked to satisfy his partner. Funny thing, am I the only person defending him about the untrue rumours. I’m sure over the years he had many sexual encounters besides his wives. Why aren’t they defending these untruths about him. David was a very sexy masculine man, and was always very handsome even when he got older. I’m glad I first met him when he was in his 30s, to me he was much more handsome and sexy looking than he was in his 20’s. I did worry about him over the years. I knew his drinking problems got worse. I also knew he had a problem with deep depression and he had inherited something that he was using alcohol to self-medicate. He also would get into what I called his self-destructive moods. Not realising he was also hurting those around him. I witnessed it myself so it’s not a rumour. I seen him both drunk and taking quaaludes. I was very worried about him when I seen it. One night one of his band members gave David a quaalude, he offered me one, David jumped all over him saying, No! she doesn’t take drugs, stopping him from giving me any. Not that I would have, David was correct I never took drugs. I did not even smoke pot or hardly ever drank alcohol. That was before I became a cop. Which years later surprised David when I became a policewoman. I have two pictures of David and I together, and I was wearing my police uniform. I do feel horrible and guilty about not staying more in contact with him in later years. I think I was just afraid of getting hurt by him again. He may have not known how badly he hurt me. Wish he never met his third wife. I realise, his depression and loneliness and drinking was influencing him. But I couldn’t imagine what he had in common with a woman so much younger than him and many generations apart. Then allowing her to physically and mentally abuse him. (Verified by his daughter) Of course he denied it. Most abused men do, somehow they feel their masculinity is in question if they admit to being abused. I think she also controlled him through sex as well. But I know even when he was with her he was still drinking. I think she may have been loosing control over him towards the last year of his life. That’s why she filled for divorce and was not with him the last few weeks before he died. That’s why I think he ignored the warning signs he was having. It’s heartbreaking to know he died alone. I think that’s what prompted me to write my romance books with different scenarios in them. My way of wanting or trying to save him. I know we all wish somehow to go back in time and save the people we loved and lost. Still looking for that Time Machine. I’ve have written 3 I think really good books that I would love to get published. Then I have written some shorter stories also, which I have put on here and on my Facebook page. Please look for my short stories at Susan Pike-author on Facebook. They are the stories I posted here but continued as I could not post the complete stories here. I know two peoples lives in this huge universe are not important in the huge scheme of things. So many things going on in this world. But I needed to tell my story and squash some untruths as well. Also needed to tell some truths about an always loved special man. I will always love you. Even though I’m a bit upset with you, about telling somebody we both know that I belly danced for you. Well you asked me twice to dance for you. I never told anybody I did. But, recently found out you did. He called me David’s dancer. I’m not ashamed that I did it, nor that you stripped my clothes off during the dance and your own my love. Love always, Susan
