There's something really funny* (*tiresome) about cis women learning that trans women also experience misogyny and responding by saying e.g. "I'm sorry you also have to suffer what we suffer."
Like, listen. We both get talked over by men, it sucks. But I also get talked over by women. I get talked over by everybody. And if I raise my voice to make myself heard, I will get kicked out of whatever workplace or social group because raising my voice one time will be characterised as "scary" and "aggressive". And if I complain about someone talking over me, I will not receive sympathy or commiseration, I will be told that I need to unlearn my male-patterned behaviour of "speaking with the expectation of being listened to", a behaviour I never had anyway because everyone has always talked over me ever since I started speaking.
The same logic applies to any expression of misogyny: I experience the "normal" form, plus a whole lot extra, plus the lack of access to solidarity and support for people who experience misogyny. If I had to put numbers on the contributions to my general misery from each form of oppression I face, *misogyny* would not reach even one tenth of the contribution made by *transmisogyny*, an all-pervading oppression that makes anything like a "normal" life almost impossible.
Today I bought a train ticket from a ticket machine, but when I tried to use it to get through the barrier it didn't work. My first thought was not "I should go and complain about this", it was "Welp, better buy another ticket and hope that one works," because any interaction with a service worker where they can see my face and hear my voice has a high chance of ending in harassment and a decent chance of ending in physical violence.
But yes, it's great to be talking to a wealthy non-disabled neurotypical cishet white woman in a position of power over me at work and listen to her say "Wow, you suffer as much as me in this world?" And I can't even point all this out to her because she would say I was being aggressive and get me fired 🙃
