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Dr. Kathy Mandigo on transgendering patients:
“At the beginning of my years of practice, with my youth and inexperience, I thought I had an obligation to follow the patient. Now I believe that I failed these patients, and that I have a superseding obligation to tell the truth to my patients. I regret every testosterone injection I gave, every estrogen prescription I refilled, and every time I colluded with my patients in their gender delusion.”
psa: it is impossible for a male to try to have sex with women he knows to be a lesbian. the only thing he can do is try to rape her.
if you think you can choose to be gay (political reasons or not) then you are homophobic. this is not hard to get. at all.
Audre Lorde, Adrienne Rich, Anne Koedt, Ti-Grace Atkinson, Charlotte Bunch, Sheila Jeffries, and Julie Bindel are homophobes under this definition.
Adrienne Rich - coined the term “compulsory heterosexuality.” Anne Koedt - wrote the myth of the vaginal orgasm, coined the term “feminism is the theory, lesbianism is the practice.” Audre Lorde - coined the term “lesbian consciousness.” Ellen Willis, Shulamith Firestone - co-created Redstockings Sheila Jeffries - still writes defenses against genderism. Christ alive. Know your goddamn history. Your foremothers didn’t suffer so you could live in ignorance.
Apparently no-one chooses who they do or don’t fuck. Gotta love the logic on tumblr.com
nobody is saying you can’t choose who you do/do not fuck - but for the same reason y’all shit on trans women (bc they’re a member of an oppressive class appropriating the identity of a group they oppress), that’s exactly what political lesbianism is. us all being females does not negate the fact that women can oppress other women on different axis’. if you are a bisexual who wants to just date women, you’re a bisexual who is (politically) celibate from men. being a straight woman and doing this is 100% worse.
Honestly this is what I’ve been wondering…doesn’t it make more sense to call yourself politically celibate from men than claim to be a lesbian if you’re not gay? I still have much to learn obviously and I’m not a lesbian but the two terms don’t seem like they should be synonymous…and I’m afraid to publicly ask questions regarding either side cuz I’m afraid yall will shit on me
They weren’t celibate. They chose/choose to be with women.
Yeah not to mention all the women who make that choice TODAY. Political lesbianism isn't something from the past, its very much alive and happening now. A lot of women today are choosing to love women.
A selection of 58 buttons from the Lesbian Herstory Archives.
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I need the lesbian mother one so I can wear it to work.
fyi a while ago i found an old post where thentheysaidburnher talked about being married to a man before choosing to be a lesbian, she's a political lesbian at best and has no right to speak on the subject
Seriously , thanks Anon
I’ve always been open about having been married to a man and my history with men, bdsm, getting paid for sex, being raped and molested. I’ve never buried this and they are all key aspects of my past and my politics.
Still, I am a lesbian.
Of course you are Strength to u sister
Traumatic bonding is a hit with abusers, because it helps him to maintain much-needed control. It helps him keep you where he wants you: tethered to him and his soul-destroying behaviour. But, the bond isn’t as iron-clad as he imagines. Here’s five things he hopes you don’t know about traumatic-bonding, and how to shake off the shackles.
1. What is trauma bonding?
Traumatic-bonding is an intense attachment to your abuser. It happens when you feel emotionally and physically dependent upon a dominant partner – who dishes out abuse and rewards so you believe that he’s all-powerful.
“powerful emotional attachments are seen to develop from two specific features of abusive relationships: power imbalances and intermittent good-bad treatment.”
2. Abusers reward and abuse to maintain power
Your abuser is all about power and control. He (or she) systematically erodes your ability to think and act independently, using a range of manipulative tactics which may include:
physically abusing or intimidating you, gas-lighting you so you doubt our own judgement, isolating you from friends and family that may be able to help, manipulative lies designed to undermine your self-esteem and run you down, making sure that your time, energy and other resources are focussed on solely his needs keeping you continually short of money (financial abuse).
What’s more, most abusers pepper their abuse with ‘rewards for good behaviour’. Maybe you get a thank-you kiss for managing to get his dinner on the table at the right time. Perhaps he takes you out for dinner to make up for last night’s drunken tirade. You may have heard – at least once, and probably repeatedly – that you are the best thing that ever happened to him (when he isn’t labelling you as worthless or making you feel the same way without saying the actual word.) You feel relief, hope, and even happiness – however temporary.
3. Abusers want us to feel dependent
He controls whether you are happy or sad, whether you are safe or in pain, if you are secure and comfortable or lonely and filled with self-loathing. Under this determined conditioning, you may (inaccurately) believe he is stronger than you. While this may make you cleave to him for protection, it also fuels your sense of powerlessness – making it harder to challenge or escape him.
In time, like a baby, you feel dependent upon your abuser for all of your emotional and physical needs. You form a powerful emotional attachment to him, which he doggedly reinforces through a pattern of abuse and reward.
Learning theorists have found that this intermittent reinforcement/punishment pattern develops the strongest of emotional bonds. Particularly intense relationships and extreme abuse forms even stronger feelings of attachment.
This powerful attachment – which arises directly from sustained periods of intermittent abuse and power imbalance – is known as traumatic-bonding.
4. Resisting the bond isn’t easy, but we can break free
Some suggest that the trauma bond triggers biological changes as well as emotional ones. This may cause you to be dependent on the highs and lows of the abuse cycle. Going ‘cold turkey’ seems impossible.
In addition, abusers are difficult to shake off. To get free, you have likely endured physical or emotional assaults including emotional blackmail and hoovering campaigns. These are the abuser’s attempts to maintain control, and they haul repeatedly on the trauma-bond to do it.
Often, you bounce back because – painful though it is to live with an abuser – your sense of self-reliance is utterly eroded and it hurts to battle the emotional attachment to him. I was only able to successfully leave my abuser on the third serious attempt. Many other times I was determined to leave, but didn’t.
5. Time really is a healer
To stay out, I had to fight not only my abuser and his determined hoovering – I also had to fight myself. Many times I wanted to answer his calls. Often, I lay in bed at night, imagining the route I’d drive to get back to him. I could just hop in the car and go! That would stop the ache in my ribs, right? When he came to my door to insist on my return, a part of me cried out to give in each time.
I was exhausted, hypersensitive and anxious – all symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Waves of grief and pangs of longing left me breathless. But, as his hoovering turned to stalking, I listened to my head rather than my heart. Sticking to my Essential To Do list, the trauma-bond weakened with each day that passed. Life got easier. I grew stronger.
Researchers have found that after six months, attachment decreases by about 27 per cent. For those of us struggling with traumatic bonding, time really is a healer.
Remember, “You have nothing to lose but your chains. You have a world to win.”
You are always stronger than your abuser. You have the ability to leave, at any time. Getting out is hard, but not impossible. You can help yourself by recognising that it is not love that’s pulling you back – rather, it’s a powerful emotional attachment that he created as a direct result of his abuse. The avalanche of emotions that you feel are normal. You are not crazy or weak because you feel that tug on the trauma-bond. In time, the bond will weaken – and working on your own recovery can help this process along.
Source: http://avalancheofthesoul.wordpress.com/2014/02/22/what-abusers-hope-we-never-learn-about-trauma-bonding/
just….wow. learning about all of this is really helping me.
"I was heterosexual when this happened. Intercourse, the act of intercourse, was a daily part of my life. One that i didn’t realise was imposed on me, one that I didn’t realise I couldn’t escape. At that time, I had never heard Intercourse talked about in terms that were not positive. Intercourse (heterosexual sex) is always described as desirable, necessary and perfectly normal. And for the first time, someone was saying it was neither. At the time, I had been living with a male partner for 13 years and I was pregnant. In retrospect, I think what happened on this day was that I wasn’t in a position to understand. Not only was I not ready: it takes the mind some time to accommodate new ideas, especially if they are so shockingly against the mainstream. But I was also in it. Right in the middle of it. The harm and danger Dworkin describes were my daily routine. I had been successfully trained for 35 years to desire it and enjoy it. The harm of intercourse described in the book was invisible to me because it was too close, because as every female living in patriarchy I learnt to disassociate from the violence to embrace it, to love it, to find it empowering and so on, precisely because I couldn’t escape it." ... "While we are fighting against the horror of male violence we must have a vision of a alternative future, be able to imagine other ways of living, being, loving, being sexual. Well Sisters, maybe it is time to stop having sex with men."
“Sadomasochism is not a creative deviation from normal heterosexual behavior. It is the defining quality of the power relationship between women and men. Sadism is the logical extension of behavior that arises out of male power.” - by Melissa Farley http://ift.tt/1ICyy4n
Beauty & Misogyny, by Sheila Jeffreys
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Womyn’s Land. Photos by Angela Jimenez. More images, audio, and information at “My Sister’s Keeper,” The New York Times (January 30, 2009).
Womyn’s land in Oregon, 1974
Sheila Jeffreys speaks about her book"Anticlimax" the sexual revolution and how women have been conned to enjoy sex with men.
Enjoy!
I like having sex with men and kissing men, so I guess I must be brainwashed as a woman. When my boyfriend pins me down to kiss me, it’s so hot lol.
How about you read "anticlimax" and we have a chat then?
Scott Wallace
Scott Wallace was found with over 8,000 images of child sexual abuse on his computer. News Report
Men are a plague
Gender is not natural or voluntary, since a person is not naturally subordinate and no one chooses to be subordinated. Biological sex is a physical feature of each person, and those deemed female upon birth are socialized by the culture into femininity.
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Hey intolerant LGBTWXYZ queer people of the internet.
Just because you claim you didn’t choose your sexuality doesn’t mean we all have to be born this way. A lot of women chose to became lesbians.
Don’t like it? fuck you.
The male gay movement chose to push the “born this way, its not my fault god created me that way” narrative a long time ago. This doesn’t mean sexuality is not actually a social construct.
Go read a book. Suggestions are on my page.
i am not LGBTWXYZ, nor am i queer. so forget about the guilt tripping
I am a feminist. My only allegiance is with women.
My only aim to stop violence against women and girls. My only aim is the liberation of women from male violence.
Take the L out of LGBT we clearly are not fighting for the same thing.
Also if you are a man, get the fuck away from my page now. don’t comment on political lesbian post. this doesn’t not concern you.
This is a joke, right? Please tell me this is a joke.
You’d be shocked
swornsister manages to be a lesbian homophobe. I would be impressed, if she wasn’t such a disgusting piece of human garbage. Fuck her mom, fuck her dad, fuck anybody who chooses to be affiliated with her, fuck every one of her past partners, fuck everybody who agrees with her, and fuck each and every one of her ancestors for being the reason she exists.
Now how about that for political analyses!
Hey intolerant LGBTWXYZ queer people of the internet.
Just because you claim you didn’t choose your sexuality doesn’t mean we all have to be born this way. A lot of women chose to became lesbians.
Don’t like it? fuck you.
The male gay movement chose to push the “born this way, its not my fault god created me that way” narrative a long time ago. This doesn’t mean sexuality is not actually a social construct.
Go read a book. Suggestions are on my page.
i am not LGBTWXYZ, nor am i queer. so forget about the guilt tripping
I am a feminist. My only allegiance is with women.
My only aim to stop violence against women and girls. My only aim is the liberation of women from male violence.
Take the L out of LGBT we clearly are not fighting for the same thing.
Also if you are a man, get the fuck away from my page now. don’t comment on political lesbian post. this doesn’t not concern you.
This is the reason that a lot of people are against feminism tbh. Ignorant people like you.
swornsister you are not a feminist, you are a femminazi. Feminists stand up for the equality of all people. Please become educated about a cause before you claim to be a part of it. Also, before you call out an entire group of people you should probably be educated about it too. And with how bad your grammar is I believe you are the one that needs to read a book. Proper capitalization is a thing, you should probably learn it.
No my darling, feminism stand for the liberation of Women, feminism is not about all people, that's humanism.
