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[forgetful-pomni]

marshmallow: when you're a marshmallow... [pt: marshmallow: when you're a marshmallow…]

cis-marshmallow: when you're a marshmallow in a cis way. [pt: cis-marshmallow: when you're a marshmallow in a cis way.]

tris-marshmallow: when you're a marshmallow in a tris way. [pt: tris-marshmallow: when you're a marshmallow in a tris way.]

trans-marshmallow: when you're a marshmallow in a trans way. [pt: trans-marshmallow: when you're a marshmallow in a trans way.]

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[forgetful-pomni]

cis-friend : for when you're a friend / someone's friend,,, in a cis way. [pt: cis-friend]

cis-best-friend : for when you're a best friend / someone's best friend in a cis way. [pt: cis-best-friend]

cis-partner : for when you're a partner / someone's partner in a cis way. [pt: cis-partner]

cis-boyfriend : for when you're a boyfriend / someone's boyfriend in a cis way. [pt: cis-boyfriend]

cis-spouse : for when you're a spouse / someone's spouse in a cis way. [pt: cis-spouse]

cis-husband : for when you're a husband / someone's husband in a cis way. [pt: cis-husband]

Flags for me and him, basically... Other people can use it too of course, it's just that the colours and stuff are designed based off our relationship... I don't really know how to describe it I just picked what felt fitting, like, some personal memories/attachments I guess...

Also, this wasn't intentional, but I made the flags matching, that is, for cis-boyfriend and cis-husband both characters are male...

You can use this if you're polyam too of course.

Maybe... since this is only for you being these, I could also make a set for having these, so like, cis-husband-haver, I guess, for having a husband... As well as general terms, so, not personal labels, like cis-married, cis-partnered, and cis-friended (I guess)...

Partnered is also a bit confusing, because a partnership is very broad, any cooperation can count, including business, platonic, sexual, romantic, and split into dating and married as well... But here, I specifically mean partner in the dating sense (which is also separate from marriage, I guess), I'm not sure if there's a better word for it. Well, I suppose it still applies to us no matter how I use it, so whatever.

If anyone wants matching, maybe I'll make them...

[forgetful-pomni]

Have you ever considered... reverse plurality?

So, maybe you are thinking, 'isn't that just being singular?' Which, no, actually. Because, if you think of plural as 'one body = multiple people' and singular as 'one body = one person', then this is actually 'multiple bodies = one person', so actually reverse plurality, not just 'matching' it, if you will (by that logic, 'multiple bodies = multiple people' is just the plural of singular people. huh. so it's plural, but typically, not the ND type of plural).

Well, anyways, I point this out because it's like me and my husband.

I'm not great at differentiating people. I have a hard time remembering people, remembering names, what different things happened with them (like what they know and don't know about me), but, that's always been between other people, not involving myself / not between myself and others, so, I've never had issues mixing myself up with other people... I also like to think I'm pretty good about it, and it's more of a conceptual issue, one I can fix by just thinking harder.

But I keep doing that with him, it's gotten so bad. The fact I have intrusive thoughts / hallucinations + general cognitive issues does NOT help.

I have no issue mixing him up with other people, like I would normally do...

So, I only confuse him with myself, instead of others.

I'm being very repetitive, but I just want to be clear, since this is a very weird concept.

I guess I would say, there's always been two groups, people and me.

People means plural, of course, but I also think of them as a collective, especially when it comes to considering myself (which may sound weird, considering I'm always going on about how 'everyone is different' lol).

But then comes, well, him... And he starts as the people / not-me group, though he's always seemed at least a little weird, anyways, as I get closer to him, so, I know him better, and he knows me better, and I have proof of this (rather than the fucked up assumptions people normally make), err, I start confusing him with myself. It seems linear, the closer we are (and the better I work with him), the more he falls into the me category / gets mixed up with me.

So, I get other people mixed up, because they're part of the same group, but I don't get myself mixed up with them, because of the uh, magic line between us. And I get him mixed up because he's on my side of the line now...

Again, reexplaining myself a lot, but I guess being super duper clear helps me too, in building out this system (of a concept).

I really can't say this enough, it's really bad.

It started as just me 'forgetting' about him, but not in the sense I actually forget he was there / existed, but in the sense I 'forget' about, say, my own hand... I know it's still there, so it's not that kind of forget, but I also have certain expectations for it, it's only an extension of myself, with no will of its own, so, there is no need to pay attention to it (like it is some singular/unique entity). It's still there, just on the side of my mind, like myself... (duh...?) but I can also use it (whenever I want), and so I do pay attention to / 'remember' it in that sense.

So,,, I keep forgetting about him, while also remembering he's there, like I expect him to be there, and expect him to be able + will do whatever I need or be helpful? Or just not contradictory...

But, I mean, he is really helpful. Like really really helpful. He's still a separate person, that's how I conceptualise him, and how I want to conceptualise him, but I just... expect him to know things about me. Like I expect him to work with me (actually, I just accidentally said 'him' instead! Maybe sometimes I have to focus on other people's yous, but not me and other people! aahhhhHHH!), and just, have the same thought process as me, be able to figure out what he/I should do (uuuuhhhhhgh, I don't even know what pronoun to use there, but I guess both fit okay), basically, just be me+

Which, that's so weird... that's not how people work... and it's not how I think either of us work either (like, I don't think we have the same mind and can read each other's thoughts or something), but I also keep doing it in this weird way, like there's multiple of us, but also only one of us. Maybe, multiple in the same way a person can have multiple body parts, but is still one person/entity... hmmm

Yeah, I mix up our pronouns/terminology too. Not the gendered ones, but frankly, I think that's only because we use the same pronouns/terms, if I was a woman and doing this, I'd probably be accidentally calling him she/her and my wife all the time lol.

I get our names mixed up too... Sometimes I call him by my name, or think of myself by his name. And I got to stop myself, like why did I do that???

I also, and actually, both of us seem to do this, copy him a lot. If he treats me a certain way, I won't do it exactly (we have different needs), but I'll adapt and copy to match. It's, intentional and unintentional at the same time.

It does make me think of, like, some concepts of marriage, like 'union', you know? Or like, 'their body is your body'? Or that you could be considered a collective / the same entity...

But I'm not sure that's,,, quite the same? Or maybe it is... Er, I guess because sometimes these things are really nonconsensual, which, total opposite of what we have (so consensual, waa... redefined my definition of consent even...)

Yeah though, I do think about it a lot, and we do play around with those ideas of marriage, it's really sweet actually (like again, when it's consensual, instead of being about like, stealing people's rights bruh).

I guess there is also the idea of a 'right hand', like a right hand man. Like, as a close secondary, who is an individual, but still thought to enact their will (like, in the other's place / the other person's will). They just happen to line up really well, either because they are just similar or the right hand wants to please them really badly lol.

Well, in that case, he's my right hand, but also my left hand, and every other part of my body, and brain even (he's very smart).

I rely on him much too much, or maybe I need to rely on him more, we are married... and this is him... hm.

Yeah but like, he helps me too much. If it were possible for something not attached to you to be a vital organ, he'd be mine (he is already mine, but you know).

Ohhh God I'm so cringe

I also think of the phenomenon, where people who spend a lot of time together kind of become each other / become more,,, homogenous. Which again, I guess, but,,, it's not about either of us becoming like each other, changing to be like each other, it's about both of us being ourself & different from each other, we just,,, work well together. Uh idk...

IDK about anything man...

[forgetful-pomni]

goldfish couple / goldfishcouple [pt: goldfish couple / goldfishcouple] ★ when you and your partner are just a couple of goldfish,,, just 2 little goldfishies,,, who love each other very much... may also be related to only having 2 brain cells (COMBINED lol) (seriously though, it's just a couple goldfish flag, you don't have to stupidly cute goldfishies to use it, you don't even have to love each other either, any kind of relationship is okay ദ്ദി ( ᵔ ᗜ ᵔ ))))

cis goldfish couple / cisgoldfishcouple [pt: cis goldfish couple / cisgoldfishcouple] ★ for when you and your partner are a couple of goldfish in a cis way.

tris goldfish couple / trisgoldfishcouple [pt: tris goldfish couple / trisgoldfishcouple] ★ for when you and your partner are a couple of goldfish in a tris way.

trans goldfish couple / transgoldfishcouple [pt: trans goldfish couple / transgoldfishcouple] ★ for when you and your partner are a couple of goldfish in a trans way.

I found an icon of a couple of goldfish, while looking for a regular goldfish icon, so I was inspired to make this... hehe,,, it's so me and my boyfriend coded >_<

I also think I may make another set, like pet goldfish,,,

Also, I'm not good at naming things, so sorry they're bad.....

Based off my last goldfish post.

The 2 sections of yellow/gold colours are for the goldfish, of course. The blue is for water, and the grey / dark colour for extra water stuff, like rocks... The pink in the middle is for relationships ( ⸝⸝´꒳`⸝⸝)

Then the colours were edited extra, loosely inspired by the some cis, tris, and trans flags (so dark colours for cis, saturated for tris, and pastel / white for trans). Same with the stripes, though I guess that's mostly from this one tris flag (which I think is meant to be for gender/sex only, but oh well, I really like it.....).

The symbol in the middle are 2 goldfishes, for goldfish and couple lol, obviously, I added 2 hearts too, and extra decorative bubbles.

Note: definitions meant to be broad, so whatever cis, tris, and trans mean to you, you can use it (ㅅ´ ˘ `)

You can use the scientific name (carassius auratus), or transcis/cistrans instead if you want.

I spaced the names that way to be easier to read, like if you're using a screen reader or something (I tested it and it said "misspelled" lol).

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hello pomni ^_^ i would like to suggest an ushka flag! Ushka from psychocuties:3

ushka / ушкo / mimi [ pt: ushka / ушкo / mimi ] ⁑ for when you're ushka / ушкo / mimi from psychonyashki / психоняшки / psychocuties .

cis ushka / цис ушкo / cis mimi / cis-ushka / цис-ушкo / cis-mimi [ pt: cis ushka / цис ушкo / cis mimi / cisushka / цис-ушкo / cismimi ] ⁑ for when you're ushka / ушкo / mimi from psychonyashki / психоняшки / psychocuties in a cis way .

tris ushka / трисс ушкo / tris mimi / tris-ushka / трисс-ушкo / tris-mimi [ pt: tris ushka / трисс ушкo / tris mimi / trisushka / трисс-ушкo / trismimi ] ⁑ for when you're ushka / ушкo / mimi from psychonyashki / психоняшки / psychocuties in a tris way .

trisushka has already been coined. ushka obviously asked for an alt flag(s) though.

trans ushka / транс ушкo / trans mimi / trans-ushka / транс-ушкo / trans-mimi [ pt: trans ushka / транс ушкo / trans mimi / transushka / транс-ушкo / transmimi ] ⁑ for when you're ushka / ушкo / mimi from psychonyashki / психоняшки / psychocuties in a trans way .

The main colours are picked from a screenshot, with minor adjustments. The rest, is my usual format.

I will note, for both the colours and the symbols, I only used the main (?) colours of Ushka, so I didn't use the red+yellow of her collar, the purple of her sweater, or the lighter purple of her socks (?).

Same idea with the symbol. I didn't find anything symbol-y to use, and it also seems too complex/specific to just use a normal flaticon symbol for. But on the first episode, during the black and white pause screen (? whatever it's called...) I thought the little drawing of her looked cute, simple, iconic, and easy enough to crop out, so I used that. The edges are a bit shaky, as the original show uses a textured brush, but uh,,, maybe that just makes it fit the style better? lol

Additionally, I added little lines and hearts, both because they looked aesthetically pleasing, and it fits. The lines being like shock/fear, because she's jumpy, and the hearts being for how she really loves Masacrik.

The gradient outline is just for aesthetics <3

And yes, I did list Russian versions here also. I saw the original Russian name and title while looking it up and thought, wouldn't it be cool to have Russian versions? Thanks to @finnaleas for helping out (˶◜ᵕ◝˶) I learned something new /positive which I could also apply to other terms, maybe someday I will be able to make full coining posts in Russian hehe,,,

Also, yes, I did watch the 2 episodes + a short song about the show, and I have to say, it is pretty cool.

I also think it's interesting, why is she like that? Like that one scene where she thought he was going to slap her. Is it because he's physically abusive, or was she abused before, and he's taking advantage of that fear? I don't know, my theory is on the latter, since we haven't seen him get violent, just really enjoy her pre-concived fear. I also think it's more interesting from a certain stand-point, like focusing on psychological abuse (or something like that, they certainly don't seem healthy,,, but then, who am I to judge? me and my boyfriend are FREAKS)

Also, damn the animation in the second episode is super super impressive. Like the flow, the detail, it really felt like,, you could really understand what she was feeling. Even the transition into that segment, where the style changed, was like, woah. And I think it's hand drawn too? Seemed pencil-y. Wow wow wow. Very pretty!

[forgetful-pomni]

goldfish [pt: goldfish] ★ flag for when you are just a little goldfish ... may also be related to having only 2 brain cells ... (seriously though, it's just a goldfish flag, anyone who's a goldfish can use it! even if they are not,,, just a little guy,,,)

cis goldfish / cisgoldfish [pt: cis goldfish / cisgoldfish] ★ for when you're a goldfish in a cis way.

tris goldfish / trisgoldfish [pt: tris goldfish / trisgoldfish] ★ for when you're a goldfish in a tris way.

trans goldfish / transgoldfish [pt: trans goldfish / transgoldfish] ★ for when you're a goldfish in a trans way.

I don't know how to make the flags look, no one seems to give much of an explanation... well, I will. The yellow, orange, and gold colours are for goldfish (duh), the blue is for water, and the green, blue, and greyish are for extra water bits, like plants and rocks. Then on top, it's just a little goldfish, recoloured for each flag, along with little bubbles.

Oh for the flag differences, I started with even stripes as the base, and made cis darker, tris kind of like both, and trans lighter, loosely based off popular cis, tris, and trans flag. But then I wanted to distinguish it by more than colour, so I changed the stripe sizes too, also vaguely inspired by other flags (more notably that one tris flag with the wide center stripes, then the others I just went with the flow, highlighting what makes the different I guess).

Note: definitions meant to be broad, so whatever cis, tris, and trans mean to you, you can use it (ㅅ´ ˘ `)

You can use the scientific name (carassius auratus), or transcis/cistrans instead if you want.

I spaced the names that way to be easier to read, like if you're using a screen reader or something (I tested it and it said "misspelled" lol).

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cis-european : for when you're european in a cis way .

tris-european : for when you're european in a tris way .

trans-european : for when you're european in a trans way .

I,,, saw this spikeeuropean flag and thought, wow, that's such a pretty flag. I really like the European flag in general, it's blue AND has stars, my favourite! So I wanted to make general European flags,,, I feel like they should exist already, but I couldn't find any...? So I made my own...

It's just my usual format, except I made the flag have five stripes. for variance / to look like a pride flag, and rounded the stars (cuter to me that way), plus I changed the colours obviously. I don't know why I type this.