#{rebloggable}

[black-quadrant]

ADHD affects how I experience time, not how I experience attachment. I love you. I miss you. I just don't realize how long it’s been since I last said that, let alone messaged.

I understand that most normal functioning brains need regular engagement to maintain a bond. Absence doesn’t diminish my affection. My silence isn’t neglect or disinterest. It’s time blindness and object impermanence. The contact gap is purely neurological, not emotional. Thank you for being patient with my inconsistency and holding a seat in your heart for me.

[ndrogyny]

hyperspecific poll but it's all stuff i've done

ate magnets as a kid

played the french horn for any amount of time

had gender and/or sexuality realizations because of a fictional villain

sprained both ankles at once

never broke a bone

touched at least 2 dead human bodies

can sing a song in a language you're otherwise not fluent in

been to at least one anime/game/comic convention(local or otherwise)

favorite pokémon is from generation 5 (unova, black/white/black 2/white 2)

actually won a toy at one of those rigged carnival games

more than one (tell me in the tags)

none of these (probably for the best lol)

Voting ended onFeb 14, 2024

[with-no-box]

Went to a renaissance faire today as a pirate and ended up being mostly shirtless. My top surgery scars were on full display, and my trans symbol tattoo was in plain sight on my neck (as it always is lol). I got several people compliment my tattoo with small nervous smiles, and i got one guy come up to me and say "i have scars just like that" and we high-fived, and this lady at the sword booth said "hell yeah trans people with swords" as she showed me her new blade. Idk man there's something beautiful about being visible, especially being visibly happy in your own skin

[no-sharks-on-the-sun]

US Economic Ideas of the 21st Century

Tariffs! Why? We aren't sure.

What if immigrants were bad?

What if immigrants were good?

Nationalization of industry, but for the sole purpose of enabling corruption.

Bring back US manufacturing! Compete with China head to he- hahahahaha sorry couldn't keep a straight face for that one

Maybe AI will fix everything somehow?

Deregulation, but woke this time.

Remember the minimum wage? Been a while since we tinkered with that bad boy, huh?

Seems a little entitled to expect to "retire", no?

Presumably we can keep getting away with running huge deficits forever.

Subsidize demand again.

Well, if we aren't building housing anyway, we might as well do rent control. Fuck 'em.

We have monetized the torment nexus.

Price controls, laser-targeted at the sectors with the thinnest profit margins.

Oyy! You got an environmental review for that?

Surely these seven tech stocks will keep going up at the same rate indefinitely, right?

Literally anything except raising taxes. Nothing else matters. Under no circumstances should you even suggest raising taxes.

Whatever it is that Palantir does - I assume some sort of baby-mulching system that converts the souls of the innocent into profit.

Maybe we could... end taxes on tips? Because everyone loves getting asked for a tip for every service in the universe? Yeah, I don't know where this one came from either.

Servants, but subsidized by Silicon Valley venture capital and also the Saudis, until eventually they stop and everyone gets mad that their servants are expensive now.

Let's all pretend to care about US automobile manufacturing for a bit to make ourselves feel better.

Whatever it takes to keep housing prices up.

Whole new sector of the economy entirely devoted to scams. If we get in fast enough, the SEC won't know what hit them.

Establish a student loan debt forgiveness program for Pell Grant recipients who start a business that operates for three years in disadvantaged communities.

Bitcoin.

[felixcosm]

You know what fuck this *turns into a dog*

[metfell]

yeah sure i’ll tell seven thousand people on the internet this

[fattypanc4kes]

the thing with the Harry potter dilemma is that its not hard to abandon the franchise and stop supporting the creator altogether. the stupidly frustrating thing is that people just don't think its that important.

trans rights and lives are more important than anything else. period

on that note, fuck jk rowling and anyone who supports her.

[aroclan]

i wanted to talk about "growing up aro with no words for it" again.

my parents kinda left me alone, emotionally. didn't have cable TV, didn't really approve of the aerial anyway, put me in school a year early where i was bullied a lot. so i had few friends, and i never really saw the point of being a 'nice' person to anyone, since nearly everyone was trash.

we got older and learned about sex, and it seemed to me like romance wasn't real. it was more of a game about sex, or a polite way of speaking about it.

in university, i made a new start. i met some real people doing real things, and like, it gradually dawned on me that maybe i am trash. maybe only i am trash, here.

back in school, i had withdrawn from everyone. i never noticed if my high-school classmates became non-trash before graduation, and once out, i never planned on attending a reunion (still haven't)… because everyone had been trash once.

but the university people seemed nicer? nicer than i deserved??

so i started working on being better. but i still felt like a simulation of a human, not a real person. somewhere in the middle of the puzzle, there was a missing piece. i just didn't get romance.

time moves on, so i went out in the world, and got in a romantic relationship where i didn't feel like i was entirely in sync with the "romance" my partner seemed to feel. i assumed it was depression (something else threaded through my life, pulled by the needle of 'everyone is trash.')

it was only when i wanted to learn more about asexuality, and some were emphasizing their romantic capacity, that i began to wonder: "what would be the point?" why would anyone perform the romance, if not for sex? and under that rock, i finally found aromantic allosexual.

it was a relief. it explained everything. but it opened up new pain, because now i understood those 'weird' past encounters where i couldn't offer people support for their breakups. i hadn't believed they were suffering, because i didn't believe in the reality of romance.

i had never felt broken myself; i always thought the concept of romance was broken. and that other people were broken, or maybe that there was some sort of cosmic kick-me sign on me. i was, above all else, confused and egocentric.

i still wonder how my life might have turned, if i'd found the aro label sooner. or maybe, if i had been able to make a new start earlier.