#aro allo

[this-is-positive-masculinity]

Shout out to aro-allo men and mascs <3

You're cool as fuck

Don't let anyone tell you otherwise

[aroclan]

i wanted to talk about "growing up aro with no words for it" again.

my parents kinda left me alone, emotionally. didn't have cable TV, didn't really approve of the aerial anyway, put me in school a year early where i was bullied a lot. so i had few friends, and i never really saw the point of being a 'nice' person to anyone, since nearly everyone was trash.

we got older and learned about sex, and it seemed to me like romance wasn't real. it was more of a game about sex, or a polite way of speaking about it.

in university, i made a new start. i met some real people doing real things, and like, it gradually dawned on me that maybe i am trash. maybe only i am trash, here.

back in school, i had withdrawn from everyone. i never noticed if my high-school classmates became non-trash before graduation, and once out, i never planned on attending a reunion (still haven't)… because everyone had been trash once.

but the university people seemed nicer? nicer than i deserved??

so i started working on being better. but i still felt like a simulation of a human, not a real person. somewhere in the middle of the puzzle, there was a missing piece. i just didn't get romance.

time moves on, so i went out in the world, and got in a romantic relationship where i didn't feel like i was entirely in sync with the "romance" my partner seemed to feel. i assumed it was depression (something else threaded through my life, pulled by the needle of 'everyone is trash.')

it was only when i wanted to learn more about asexuality, and some were emphasizing their romantic capacity, that i began to wonder: "what would be the point?" why would anyone perform the romance, if not for sex? and under that rock, i finally found aromantic allosexual.

it was a relief. it explained everything. but it opened up new pain, because now i understood those 'weird' past encounters where i couldn't offer people support for their breakups. i hadn't believed they were suffering, because i didn't believe in the reality of romance.

i had never felt broken myself; i always thought the concept of romance was broken. and that other people were broken, or maybe that there was some sort of cosmic kick-me sign on me. i was, above all else, confused and egocentric.

i still wonder how my life might have turned, if i'd found the aro label sooner. or maybe, if i had been able to make a new start earlier.

[princeturveydrop]

Pride gems!! (Leftover after decorating my new party crocs)

[tuesdays-grace]

Pissed off on behalf of allo aros rn.

Your relationships are not any less because they aren't romantic. They aren't dirty or immoral or lesser for being sexual and you shouldn't have to hide them or censor yourselves. Fuck anyone who says you should.

[gays-of-raccoons]

Happy aro awareness week!!!!!! (they’re siblings btw)

[aro4aro-yearning]

Reminder to send me ur yearning so I can swing my legs and giggle while reading them :3

[justagaymoth]

People IRL assume I’m bisexual/biromantic cuz I have dated men, women, nonbinary people (or if they don’t know my dating history they assume I’m a lesbian)

Bisexual/bi has a label that has been put on me because it’s way harder to explain my actual sexuality even to queer people

It kinda sucks that I can’t go into details about my gender or sexuality irl (especially not my sexuality)

Every time I have tried to be honest they have said “oh so you are aro ace” I am not asexual at all

And when I try to say I’m aromantic I am also met with people basically saying I don’t believe you

From queer and not queer people

Only only 2 people irl know I’m aromantic (one is my bestie Lily the other I told because they came out as aromantic asexual to me and know what a QPR is)

I hate arophobia and sexism

When I have tried to come out in the past have been told “you like to use people for their body?!” I know they wanted to call me a slut

I am more open about being nonbinary my freinds and family know I’m nonbinary and use they/them pronouns (I don’t usually tell people I’m not close with my pronouns because it’s exhausting to hear “they/them is not grammatically correct” or “that’s not how gender works” or some transphobic sentence that relates to 2020)

I guess technically I am bisexual aromantic

But i don’t like the term bisexual anymore because it feels more like a label others choose

And I’m not pansexual because I have gender preferences when it comes to sexual attraction (i am sexually attracted to all genders but women and nonbinary people are more sexy to me than men)

I’m aromantic (allosexual) alterous, sapphic, non partnering (as of right now at least)

Technically aplatonic because I usually experience alterous (and sometimes sexual attraction) to my friends

Very rarely do I experience “normal” feeling for my friends and when I do it’s closer to familial love (for example my best friend Victer is like a 3rd brother to me)

[duoversal]

I made this OC when I still thought I was AroAllo and thought the design was fire