Pressure from non-binary people to include them in groups specifically for women, lesbianism, and womenās interests wreaks of entitlement.
Theyāre not women. They insist theyāre not women, and differentiate themselves from us. Thatās fine. The problem is that they feel like itās appropriate to insert themselves into groups and relationships that donāt include them.
Thereās a lot of discussion about how it isnāt fair women are expected to put their needs last and be accommodating to other people even at the expense of our wellbeing and comfort. Yet weāre expected to placate the feelings of people who unnecessarily insert themselves into exclusive spaces made by women, for women, and for womenās interests.
I do not care if they feel āconnectedā to womanhood. Itās not about connection. Itās not about proximity. Itās about what you are. And they are not women, plain and simple.
To be frank, itās not even about you! If youāre not a woman, womenās groups arenāt about you or how you feel. We donāt need to take that into consideration.
If youāre going to differentiate yourself from women, you donāt get to turn around and access the exclusive groups weāve made for ourselves. Especially not when there exists non-binary and coed groups that do include them, that apply to them, and where they are welcome.
This also applies to lesbianism. Lesbianism is for women. If youāre not a woman, youāre not a lesbian. It doesnāt matter if youāre a 13 year-old boy who thinks heās a genius because he ālikes girls too, so that makes (him) a lesbianā or if youāre a 38 year-old non-binary person. Youāre not a lesbian. Youāre also not sapphic or a WLW.
This post does not exclude trans women. Youāre women.
