Pressure from non-binary people to include them in groups specifically for women, lesbianism, and womenâs interests wreaks of entitlement.
Theyâre not women. They insist theyâre not women, and differentiate themselves from us. Thatâs fine. The problem is that they feel like itâs appropriate to insert themselves into groups and relationships that donât include them.
Thereâs a lot of discussion about how it isnât fair women are expected to put their needs last and be accommodating to other people even at the expense of our wellbeing and comfort. Yet weâre expected to placate the feelings of people who unnecessarily insert themselves into exclusive spaces made by women, for women, and for womenâs interests.
I do not care if they feel âconnectedâ to womanhood. Itâs not about connection. Itâs not about proximity. Itâs about what you are. And they are not women, plain and simple.
To be frank, itâs not even about you! If youâre not a woman, womenâs groups arenât about you or how you feel. We donât need to take that into consideration.
If youâre going to differentiate yourself from women, you donât get to turn around and access the exclusive groups weâve made for ourselves. Especially not when there exists non-binary and coed groups that do include them, that apply to them, and where they are welcome.
This also applies to lesbianism. Lesbianism is for women. If youâre not a woman, youâre not a lesbian. It doesnât matter if youâre a 13 year-old boy who thinks heâs a genius because he âlikes girls too, so that makes (him) a lesbianâ or if youâre a 38 year-old non-binary person. Youâre not a lesbian. Youâre also not sapphic or a WLW.
This post does not exclude trans women. Youâre women.