Miscarriage - what they don’t tell you to expect....
In the midst of my third miscarriage. It’s horrible, devastating and shitty. We found out dec 2, and I managed to go to 10 wks. However the gestational sac got to 6.5 wks and shockingly the embryo got to 7 wks. They had me save tissue and such to test, they think it’s possible my progesterone was low causing the sac to not grow well. Lots of unknowns, but still hopeful for the future.
What has shocked me through all of this is how dr’s and nurses don’t give you info on what to expect when miscarrying at this stage. I mean, sure they give you the spiel, you’ll bleed heavily, you will pass clots, tissue, the sac, placenta. You will have cramps and pain, and if you fill a pad an hour for more than 2 hours go to emergency room. That was basically it. I was told this and given a paper with the same shit.
NO ONE TOLD ME I WAS GOING TO PASS SHIT THAT WAS THE SIZE OF A TENNIS BALL. No one told me that the “cramps” come in the form of contractions and they come in waves. No one told me that the amount of blood I would expell in the first two-three hours was going to be so much I was better off just sitting on the toilete and just letting it happen. No one told me my inner thighs would feel like I exercised them for 2 hours. No one told me that I would not go #2 until I passed all the tissue, and then when i did it would hurt and be a process. No one told me about a lot of this stuff. And this is just the physical part.
I guess i”m just wondering why in 2018 there isn’t more medical info that Dr’s can provide you with when this is all about to take place. I had to google a bunch of shit to put my mind at ease by reading other women’s comments. And I’m sure there will be women out there who read this at some point and say, oh bathroom issues are normal? I don’t have to freak out? great, good to know.
I think that is what I’m most angry at at this point. I went through the I want to punch something phase about a week ago. I have cried by myself and with my husband. And I was super angry that we have had to go through this a third time. It was at this point of anger that I realized how important it is to have this info for women. I mean all three of my miscarraiges were at different weeks, and each one had different symptoms of what to expect. This last one being the most significant in terms of what I had to pass.
I don’t know how to solve this problem. I’m going to keep researching and seeing what I can find. However I truly believe that Dr’s should have resources to give women, via the internet, a pamphlet, or whatever, so that they can have as much info they can to understand their miscarraige and what their bodies are going through. This is just as important as knowing the pregnancy process.
Maybe there is something and I just am not aware. But Dr’s need to get with the program. Having a miscarraige is just as much of an emotional overhaul as pregnancy is, if not more so.....
ok, rant over....back to bleeding........