The day he died, as I was waiting for the elevator to take me home, I dropped my purse. Somewhere deep inside that mess, my phone started to play “Carolina In MyMind”. My first thought was to turn it off. The idea that I would never again hear him sing that song seemed to heavy to carry in that moment. I fumbled around, pulling things from my bag, but I only ended up increasing the volume, somehow. Turning it off seemed like the thing I should do, but I couldn’t, so, I just stood there, listening to the joy in James@Taylor’s stupid voice, humming along and crying. It hurt. A lot. But it didn’t hurt the way I thought it would. It felt good to be surrounded by something he loved so much even if he wasn’t there and wouldn’t be again. I decided, right then, that I wouldn’t avoid the songs, or shows, or places he loved and we loved together. Now, in those moments/hours/days I miss him most, I lean into it, into those things that most remind me of his spirit and of his love. Tonight, it’s watching “The Newsroom” with the Gidge on my shoulder and spending time with the sunset, and a bourbon. I’m grateful for the memories and the little bits of joy they bring. I am. (Now, go. Put down your phone and tell your sweetheart you love them. Put on a song and dance in the kitchen or just hold hands while you watch a show. Okay?) ❤️ #365daysofgratitude https://www.instagram.com/p/CiJyDMXPv4f/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=