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7 high note [Amsterdam, 4.2.22]

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Louis team releasing the b/w photos of tour today to remind us Louis' tour wardrobe was a red shirt with a house logo. Weeks before HS3 album name was released. Long before Harry's As It Was red theme was released. Pick someone supportive.

getting back into a bit of a “break mode” when it comes to socializing because it’s time for another period of elevation. as much as i may be enjoying attracting attention, and am excited about coming into alignment with lovely folks, my main focus right now is me. i am in the midst of making certain career changes, or rather, adding to my repertoire, and deep focus is needed. to be brief, i am taking my creative endeavors further into the tech space. one day i may specify on here just what sector, perhaps after my courses are done and i secure that bigger bag haha. but for now my lips are sealed. honestly, the only socializing i may truly have time for will be close friends/family, and networking associated with my career (and other level up ventures). dating is most definitely not a priority in moments like these, so when it comes to suitors, only those i truly am drawn to AND who willingly step into various areas of support will get my energy. basically, if you want to take up my time, you’re going to have to make it very worthwhile (i.e. take some things off my plate, rid me of certain stressors, etc). my time and energy are highly valuable. think about it, i’m busy enough as is, so as lovely as the usual intimate dinner, or even trip abroad would be, i can’t possibly focus on true enjoyment with you if i have to worry about how i’m going to make up for the lost time (and possibly money). my mindset: if it’s not adding to my life in any viable way, it is a distraction and is not worth my attention.

that being said, just know that there are about to be whole new levels of glowing, success, and more once this next phase is over. when you see me, you will SEE me. yesterday’s price is not today’s price!

also: the spiritual messages and angel numbers i’ve been seeing lately have been INSANE. too many to count and name. i’m talking for weeks on end now. a bit overwhelming tbh lol, but it let’s me know BIG things are on the horizon, and further confirms that this is in fact my season. 2022 will not end without me seeing ALL of what i’ve been manifesting, working towards, and praying endlessly for. 🫶🏾

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I set a boundary and S goes "it feels like you're saying it's my way or the highway."

I had to inform him, that's exactly what I'm saying... For THIS situation (and I reminded him of a situation where he did the same).

(he wants us to make equal money before we get married so there's no power imbalance but I refuse to change careers when I'm happy and there's no financial need just to ease his anxiety about earning more). I told him as much. Told him he could (a) accept I make less and move forward with marriage (this is his number one hesitancy) or (b) end our relationship. (this isn't an ultimatum this is specifically about the "waiting for me to earn more money" issue, other reasons for not being ready are OK)

Earlier, he said he wasn't ready to have a baby right yet. I feel really strongly that I do want one... But I respected his boundary and said OK.

When I pointed this out, he was like ok ok that makes sense you're right (he's a good dude).

Setting boundaries is hard. Especially difficult ones. But with the right person, they'll respect them, even if it's difficult to do so (as in this case for both of us).

Anyways I feel really good about holding true to my boundary. And honestly that should be evidence that he doesn't need to worry about a power imbalance.

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