hey pssst, can I do a sleepover sunday question to ask for advice, even though it's almost thursday? I have a bit of an issue: recently got dumped. It was my first relationship, love, all that jazz. I like to think I'm fairly decent at processing emotions for a 23 year old guy, but I just can't seem to get over my ex. I can't stop hoping there'll be a chance for us to get back together. Do you have any advice for letting things go to rest?
I can’t tell you that one day you’re going to wake up and feel like you did before your first love. Maybe you’ll be close, hell, maybe some days you won’t even think about them. Maybe you will think about them at least for a fleeting moment once a day. Maybe you’ll never stop thinking of them for the rest of your life. Any one of those things is okay. But having a first love--being in love, having been in love--changes you as a person. You now know what it means to selflessly care for another human being. Even if it means giving them up. Even if it means having your heart broken.
Despite whatever made this relationship fail, that feeling of unconditional love is something invaluable you’ve learned. On top of that--perhaps better than that--is that you still have hope. Hope can be anything, mind you. Even though you were pushed to the side, even though you were told you’re not good enough for that person who you so wholly and fully gave yourself to, you still are optimistic. That is amazing. That is fucking beautiful.
Don’t ever give up hope. One day you might find that you need to redirect that optimism elsewhere, but I must urge you to never allow others to cloud your perspective on life. Never take things that other people do to you personally. They’re in their own head, just as you are. But despite that, always be ready to give love, be ready to love, because one day, you will receive it. You will receive it back in multitudes, when you least expect it.
