#abortion thoughts

[7loveneverfails]

Reading about people's ideas on the female reproductive system has me thinking.

It is primarily to create and grow a baby. It does other things that make simply removing everything an unhealthy condition but I don't think that negates the fact that it's primarily to sustain a child.

It's like our ability to create children is so deeply a part of our beings that our bodies don't work right without that part of us.

That makes me think we should be doing more to support women than offer abortion.

Not sure how one can think of the importance of our whole reproductive system and it's impact on our overall health and think "we should probably abuse it when it sustains a baby at an inconvenient time."

Or maybe we could treat women in a way that honors our entire beings including the incredible gift and responsibility of bearing children.

[hakugreenfinch]

ok i dont know where else to post this bc my priv feels too personal with only friends following and i just want to yell into the void but. im really not a fan of the lady from the borderline neon4z1 party talking about tracking first heartbeats and how “even from unwanted pregnancies wanted children are born” i dont like the sound of it i dont like knowing where else i heard this shit i dont like where all of this is going

its already nearly impossible to get oneself sterilized over here, you technically cannot if you dont have several children and my so called personal love life which is the ironic title im giving my sa traumas has me worried on a personal level already but also like... on a fundamental level its just wrong and terrible and i dont want to live in a country where its not even up to me on a hypothetical level what happens to the body i already dislike living in

[misscatholmes]

I Will Probably Never Experience an Abortion - Thoughts, And why I hate Lena Dunham

So once again Lena Dunham has said something stupid and cause a major firestorm. I'm not surprised. Lena seems so unaware of the rest of the world. Her comments came across as if part of being a feminist is to experience an abortion and if we don't, we're not really pro choice. Maybe she didn't mean it that way, but thats how it came across. Fuck. Her. I didn't know what an abortion was when I was a kid. My sister told me, that these evil women killed their babies because they didn't want it (this same sister had an abortion three months after telling me this by the by). So I asked my mom, because something didn't add up. So she sat down and told me that a woman didn't just make this decision. There were usually factors. She explained to me that there were outside issues, health reasons. When I was older she went into greater detail. She told me a story of driving a friend to a clinic to have an abortion. The reason? The woman had been raped by a brother in law. She told me this to understand that women who had abortions weren't "loose women". I've always been pro choice. I had seen the effects of what happens when the choice is taken away (one of my sister's had an abortion because her husband ordered her to) and I don't want to see that taken away. I don't sit around and think to myself 'I wonder if I should have one'. I hope I'm never put in that situation (I'm gay, so me getting pregnant would more than likely being the product of rape), and I remain sympathetic to those who choose. I can still be pro choice without having an abortion. So fuck Lena Dunham

[angeloskies]

“I just threw up right now in the restroom, I’ve been sick all day.” She stands in front of me on the other side of the table as she helps me buss the rest of the dishes.

 Are you preggers? I ask, somewhat jokingly, but it seems to be the case since she doesn’t necessarily look sick.

 I finish with “hey oh!” And walk towards the kitchen carrying some dishes. She follows me and for 30 seconds, we are coworkers doing our job, and at the end of those 30 seconds, we continue our conversation as if we never left the table. She looks at me and I ask her again, “so… are you preggers?”

 She doesn’t answer but she doesn’t stay quiet. She looks at me and then she says “shhh don’t tell anyone.”

 I didn’t really realize it at the time, but it was something quite profound to say something like that to someone you don’t normally talk to that often. Yet she confided in me with a secret that I still hold to this day.

 As the night wears on, tables come and go, mostly happy, some pretentious assholes that think they’re food critics or somehow more important than a college graduate waiter, we talk again.

 So is it from the same boyfriend you’ve had a kid with already?

 Yes, I’m not a slut, haha.

 Well I don’t think you would be considered a slut if you’re pregnant with someone else’s kid. It just is what it is. I just think you need to try more to prevent it from happening. Are you on birth control?

 No, I should be though.

 Well you use condoms right?

 No…. she says weakly and guiltily. He pulls out but he got me pregnant with precum.

 Well yeah of course you can get pregnant like that! Damn it woman how much is a condom?

 Well yeah but I don’t like using condoms, they fuck with my pleasure.

Well since you’re not on the pill or using condoms, you’re pregnant. Are you planning on keeping this one?

 No. Well it just isn’t a good time for me right now. I’m going to school and it would interfere with everything.

 Well will your boyfriend help you at all?

 No, he doesn’t even help me with our daughter. He’s going to school and just got a job at home depot but he’s relying mostly on his financial aid to pay for everything like his rent and food. I have to worry about feeding her, buying her clothes and he doesn’t give me anything.

 Well why are you still with someone like that, and getting pregnant with him when he won’t help you out?

 I don’t know, I got used to him.

  Well yeah you can be used to someone but you should be smarter than that. I mean he’s just taking advantage. Is he going to help pay for the (abortion) I say quietly.

 No, he didn’t even help me with the other one I had.

 How much does it cost?

 It’s 538 dollars! I mean I think it’s more expensive because I’ve had one before.

 There’s no doubt in your mind that says you should keep it?

 No, not this time. I had my baby because before her I went through a miscarriage and I got really depressed after. When I got pregnant again, I had to have the baby because I couldn’t do it again.

 I understand, I mean my mom went through similar things and I saw how depressed she would get after losing the baby. Well as long as you don’t have any doubts.

 Well I mean I’m thinking what if I regret it later?

 Well the only thing you can do is finish school and make sure that you do everything that you can in order to make it so that you didn’t do it in vain.

[gypsyjew22]

Spend less money on war related things, use that money for couples contemplating aborting their child= less abortions and less poverty.  

If only it was simple :/