#accidental ableism

[thisis--ableism]

unintentional ableism i think, went to a dumpling place, and the door is really heavy and the winds are strong, obviously not the fault of the place at all. they had a sign on the door that said "heavy door and strong winds" qnd under that, said "only the strong deserve dumplings" which obviously is a joke, i found it funny too while struggling with the door, but probably also a little ableist but i dont think on purpose

I think it's accidental ableism, as it reads the intention was making fun of the situation having the strong winds + heavy door and not a jab at people who are diabled.

[hexstrapnation]

Disability body positivity

Am I the only one who gets a little annoyed with the body positivity phrases ‘You are not your body’? Like yes I am my body. My body dictates everything I do and everywhere I go and how I experience life. Its ok that I have these problems and I’ll love my body anyway but I want people to stop telling me that I can love myself in spite of my body. I am my disabilities they define me but its ok to love and celebrate my disabilities. I know this is something abled people probably don’t think about too much but it feels patronizing.

[october-rosehip]

Thoughts on Sensitivity Reading

I just did a sensitivity read that sent me to bed to hide with hot chocolate for two days. When I got done feeling bad I truly understood that this is why I did it. Nobody will feel like that, now. Not from this book. I also realized- that’s why the going rate is what it is. This is only my second one- the first time the author realized the problems early and stopped the project to revise.

I was dismayed at first to be the bearer of bad news but I have liked three portrayals ever in the history of fiction of one of my marginalizations, in this case blindness. Statistically? Any given thing I’m reading isn’t gonna be the fourth. And that’s all right. The rep IS really terrible- so far. We can fix that.

Sensitivity readers aren’t here to make you feel bad, we’re here to make your book stronger. There are so many weak cliches in literature that people use without any conscious thought. I just brought the choices to the foreground and I’m a lot more at peace with that than I was at the beginning of the weekend.

[alltheverses]

I have some big feelings about an ongoing trend of casual ableism I've seen in fandom art, fic, headcanons, but I don't have my thoughts written up on it yet.

[thisis--ableism]

Maybe im being dramatic or missing the point, but those posts that say "Reblog of you support xyz" even if it's not followed up with "youre a bad person if you dont" or not being intentionally malicious or made with the intent of guilt tripping. Even if its something I do support or agree with, I always feel an overwhelming amount of guilt because I dont want to always reblog the things I agree with because my blog is mainly an art blog and I'm using it primarily to archive my digital art.

I also don't want to make a new blog just to reblog posts (personal preference). Maybe that makes me a bad person, I dont mean to be. Maybe it's because those posts sound like they're demanding proof of people being "good" out of nowhere even if they were made for fun and being silly (/positive) or just letting their followers know they personally support xyz. I'm always conflicted about it (I know im not being attacked or anything, but I still feel guilty for no reason).

If it lacks the "you're a bad person if you don't" part, I'd say it's accidental ableism / a trigger for moral OCD and others.

You aren't a bad person for not reblogging those posts.

[thisis--ableism]

i have many food issues that are worse at the moment

my friends are, understandably, quite worried about me, but until we can do a proper grocery run, im kinda just stuck without any safe foods. today my partner got me some cheese and i had bought myself some crackers a bit ago, so i was able to eat that and some rhubarb pie i made without immediately wanting to vomit. but all the other options; tofu, eggs, etc. aren't currently within what my brain considers safe. so i'm stuck not eating much and my friends gently, worriedly, chide me for not eating but also i can't? eat anything? it's not helpful and even though i undersrand they're worried abt me, it's not productive bc it just makes me feel more hopeless abt my food situation and i just feel more food insecure than normal.

This is accidental ableism.

I get they're worried and want to help, but the way they're going about it doesn't help.

[thisis--ableism]

(Not entirely sure if this is ableism, though might be considered accidental ableism if it is. Also heneral use of "you")

Just how so many people do YouTube thumbnails these days. Especially ones talking about the state of the world or a generation of people or whatever. So many have bold "We're F*cked...," "Something isn't right...," "They dont want you to know this...," and "Something is seriously wrong and people are noticing..." and just other vague or anxiety-enducing titles and wording in thumbnails. Like I get its to get people to click but it triggers so much dread and anxiety. Just put what the video is about in the title, make it short and quick, and stop making all your thumbnails ominous and on fire with red circles and lettering and oversaturated colors!!! I hate that YouTube is plagued with this type of thumbnail, whether it be commentary or informative videos.

Stop being ominous with titles and stop making your thumbnails hurt to look at!!! Stop making me feel dread for one second!!! Stop with the nihilism!!! Please I am begging!!! It looks like the devil themselves is making these thumbnails sometimes and its getting so annoying and it always sneaks into my feed even when i dont click on them. I've had to unsubscribe from a ridiculous amount of people just because they started doing this with their thumbnails and titles

I think this is accidental ableism.

[thisis--ableism]

I don't know if this is ableism but I found out that in the US service dogs don't have any kind of registration or paperwork that confirms they're a service dog.

I don't understand why not. My friend has a service dog and he can take out a document explaining what his dog is trained to do, who trained it, general legal information, and that confirms my friend needs a service dog and is allowed to bring it inside places where dogs would normally not be allowed in.

There are people who lie about their dogs being service dogs (I have met some myself, and lying about your dog being a service dog is ableism, in my opinion), and having a document makes it very easy to make sure no one lies about it.

I don't know if this is ableism from the ADA itself, because it would make it less likely for people with service dogs to be harassed about "not needing a dog" or being accused of lying. I still think this is as good as a place for me to ask, if that's okay. I don't have a service dog myself and my information comes from looking it up online and my friend telling me about it

I don't personally have a service dog, so I'm not sure about processes here and why there aren't papers, but I do see issues in the US where places will ask for papers which aren't necessary here resulting in more ableism.

I think an argument can be made that the lack of papers is accidentally ableist by inadvertently causing such situations.

Update - commentors point out how needing papers for service animal ownership is ableist.