#acearo stuff

[themadcapmathematician]

Aspec person: I want an emotionally and physically intimate partnership with someone that doesn’t include sex or romance

Someone, crawling out of the depths of a septic tank: YOU MEAN LIKE A FRIEND? YOU WANNA FRIENDSHIP???

[queerlyloni]

pssst Lonnie have you ever seen the show Sirens? If you haven't, there is an ace character on it that I (an allo person) think is treated pretty decently both in terms of character growth/screen time and as an ace person. Obviously I'm no expert on ace representation but I wanted to throw it out there if you hadn't seen it/didn't know and hear your feelings on it if you had.

ooooh, I have not seen that at all!! I’ll have to look into it! :D I looooove me some new tv shows!

So that everyone knows (I pulled this straight from wiki):

Sirens is an American comedy television series loosely based on the British series of the same name. The American version was adapted by actor Denis Leary and screenwriter Bob Fisher.The series aired for two seasons on theUSA cable television network from March 6, 2014, through April 14, 2015. On April 22, 2015, USA cancelled Sirens after two seasons.

The show features an openly gay paramedic (Hank) and an asexual EMT (Valentina)

Thanks for the info!!! :D

[queerlyloni]

The mere fact that we can't simply say that we are ace or aro IRL, that saying it implies a kind of coming out, shows that ace and aro people are not straight. I found out that I'm probably ace (thank you tumblr), I spent a loooong time loathing myself and wondering if I needed therapy to be fixed. No, I'm just ace. But I can't say it to my friends or family or even my partner. In my cultural circle, it's simple not tolerated.

Yes, exactly. Not to mention that there are so, so many stigmas against being ace/aro that are pervasive through all of society, tbh. We all grow up with this idea that we’re supposed to “fall in love and get married one day,” settle down and then have kids and it’s just...clearly ace/aro stories deviate from this ~norm~. I’m sorry that you don’t have the support in real life that you deserve. That’s rough, and I’m here for you!

[queerlyloni]

This is re: your SGA post. Look, I'm ace. But there's no such thing as the 'allo community' -- do you mean anybody that does experience sexual attraction? When would they ever ally together? What organized community of straight and gay people exists that actively oppresses ace and aro people? It just isn't realistic and it's ultimately harmful and derailing. Just saying.

When I say “allo community” I don’t mean the community in the same way that I do referring to like the ace/queer/bi/pan community. I just mean to say everyone who experiences sexual and/or romantic attraction.

There is privilege in experiencing sexual and romantic attraction. You get to have your television shows and characters represented and represented well. What ace/aro representation? We have...what...Jughead is confirmed ace? And possibly someone on The Big Bang Theory (which is a mess in and of itself?) Because of this privilege, it’s important to recognize the othering that happens because of it.

Ace and aro people are actively erased/ignored/put down/made fun of/told they’ll get over it/be fixed or cured. It is a privilege not to experience that.