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if you are a feminist, especially focusing on areas of consent, your activism should be inclusive of the full spectrum of asexuality. "no means no" needs to also include saying no to every sexual situation for the rest of your life, if you choose. without pressure from individuals or society.
It’s that time of year again – we are now recruiting participants for the Ace Community Survey! The Ace Community Survey is run by the Ace C
I love how identities can be as broadly or as narrowly defined as you want.
Am I technically some kind of grey aroace? Probably. Could I find suitable microlabels? Probably. Could be interesting to see others with my specific experiences.
But do the nuances personally matter to me? Nah. I don’t want to date, I don’t wanna have sex.
Briefly being flustered by a cashier or having a crush on Ed Sheeran for a grand total of four hours doesn’t really make a tangible difference to my life. At most it gives me a peak of who I'd like if I was allo.
I still respect people with a collection of microlabels and corresponding flags. It looks fun. I just don't have the energy or desire to thoroughly self-analyze the nuances of my rare attractions.
Getting real tired of how all asexual spaces are becoming solely about fictional character shipping. We have real fucking problems and they don’t involve cartoon characters.
i'm actually crying rn bc i'm so upset bc of my identity constantly being erased and invalidated. i'm so sick of this "aces can have/enjoy sex" bullshit, it's not fucking true. i cannot believe i'm being made to feel broken and like a freak amongst what is supposed to be my own community. stop spreading these lies about asexuality. you're all fucking disgusting for trying to guilt ace ppl into having sex. asexual ppl do not want sex and i'm tired of this being treated as a bigoted take when it's literally just true
Loveless
I'm late on this because the book was published in 2020, but I only heard about it in the last month when I was reading an article about asexuality in fiction but in case anyone is out of the loop like me let me tell you about this glory
Loveless is a YA novel by Alice Oseman, author of Heartstopper and Solitaire. It tells the story of Georgia Warr, freshman at Durham University, and her realization that while she's in love with the idea of romance, the actuality of a romantic/sexual relationship repulses her.
Alice Oseman herself is aroace, which makes perfect sense because throughout the novel I kept asking myself, "How does she know? How does she know?! How did she get these thoughts out of my head?"
for my fellow ace and/or aro people, let me quote some of the lines that just got me straight in the soul:
"I had a theory that a lot of people's "celebrity crushes" were just faked to fit in."
"I was disgusted by the thought of him near me. Wanting things from me. That wasn't normal, was it?"
"Oh, God, this thing is actually real, it's not just in fanfics and movies. And I'm supposed to be doing it too."
"Did I even know what romantic feelings felt like?"
"He was clearly the sort of person who I should like romantically. Who I could like romantically. He looked like a boyfriend. I loved his personality. I'd loved his personality for years. So I could fall in love with him. With a little bit of effort. Definitely."
"I thought I'd understood what all these romantic things would feel like--butterflies and the spark and just knowing when you liked someone. I'd read about these feelings hundreds of times in books and fanfic. I'd watched way more romcoms than was probably normal for an eighteen-year-old. But now I was starting to wonder whether these things were just made up."
"Straight people don't think shit like that."
"Just because I'd never liked anyone didn't mean I never would. Did it?"
"I thought all the movies were exaggerating, but you're all really out there just craving genitals and embarrassment. This has to be some kind of huge joke."
"How could I feel so sad about giving up these things that I did not actually want?"
"I felt like I was grieving. I was grieving this fake life, a fantasy future that I was never going to live."
"How was it fair that everyone got to feel that except me?"
"I never had any crushes when I was a child. Not any real ones, anyway. Sometimes I confused friendships for them, or just thinking a guy was really cool."
"For a long time, I was just dating and having sex because that's what people did. And I wanted to feel like those people."
"You've been so confused about stuff. You really thought we could be together, because you do love me. Not in a romantic way, but just as strongly."
"Oh. This is an asexual thing. I forgot other people are obsessed with having sex."
seriously the entire time I spent with this book I just kept asking "was this written for me specifically?" because that's exactly how it felt.
It is a gorgeous book that explores that bizarre feeling of not knowing the word for what you are, not even knowing that you are something out of the ordinary because we don't define ourselves by what we lack and we just expect that one day, it'll happen and we'll be like everyone else. That struggle of trying to differentiate between loving someone and being in love with them, and trying to make the former into the latter and hurting everything in the process.
It is so good. 10/10, no complaints
also there's an asshole in the university's queer pride group who doesn't think aces belong and everyone hates him so that's fantastic, aphobes fuck off
in conclusion I highly recommend it
I love sex positive aces. I love asexuals who feel sexual attraction and I love those who don’t but engage in sex anyway! However, I’m so fucking sick and tired of having to bring them up just to prove that asexuals belong in the same spaces and conversations as everyone else.
Here is our bracket! Polls will be live tomorrow, Nov 14 at 10AM and will last for one week. Propaganda will be reblogged on this blog, but please put it on the poll posts or the character interest posts. Don’t submit propaganda through asks.
All round 1 matches will be linked below the cut after they go live
