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💌 stranger things | byler
✨ aesthetic
😎 memes
⚖️ social issues
🌈 lgbtq+
♿ disability
🧠 mental health
💓 hopepunk
if you’re like “nix i’m looking at your blog rn and it’s none of that it’s a bunch of some random other thing.” i’m having a moment. give it 24 hrs it will pass.
please feel free to send asks! i have anon off bc ppl like to hide behind it to be assholes. but don't be shy just bc it's off anon, respectful questions, disagreements, comments, etc. are fine 😊 if you're kind i will be kind back!
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i try to tag as much as possible. trigger tags are ___ ment, ___ tw, and ___ image. you can also block #untagged, those are posts with no TWs, and #ask to tag, which are posts that i feel like are probably something but i don’t know what to call it. feel free to message me to ask about tags or request something be tagged.
posts with important warnings where you'd want to click through something that's been blacklisted are tagged #psa. (ex: a trigger warning for a popular movie, clarifying trends that could trigger psychosis/ocd/etc., critically important news)
i care about image descriptions and search comments for them but i’m not able to write my own right now due to my disabilities. i tag images with no description as #undescribed.
i use #flashing for flash warnings, and also tag #video and #gif.
if you don’t want to see vent posts, block #negative!
tone tags:
/lh - lighthearted
/j - joking
/hj - half joking
/nm - not mad
/gen - genuine
/ref - reference (to media, a meme, etc)
/aff - affectionate
/s - sarcasm
/nbh - nobody here (i.e., post is not related to anyone i'm following or who follows me; it's either general commentary or inspired by someone who would not be seeing my posts)
With practice, it is possible to change your relationship with the distress that appears when adverse things happen.
Instead of becoming caught up in it, it is possible to learn to observe it, acknowledge it, let it move through you in its own time. The last part may not be pleasant. But if you can let go and allow it, then you are not creating an extra layer of distress: fighting it.
It is like being caught in a riptide. You did not choose this. You do not control it. You can only control your response, to whatever degree you have learned to do that.
If you have not learned what to do when caught in a riptide, you may try to swim against the current towards the shore. This would be the obvious choice. But the riptide is stronger than you, and will wear you out before you can reach land.
If you know what to do, you will either try to float without resistance and call for help if you are not a strong swimmer, or swim parallel to the shore until you are free of the riptide. Then you can either be rescued, or swim to shore.
Accepting that you are caught in a riptide doesn't mean you are happy about it. But denying it, or remaining unaware, or getting lost in distress about the situation, will cause additional problems.
hey man. nice regional dialect. mind if i apply some baseless assumptions about your personhood to it? i was also gonna prescribe morality to it as well. if that’s cool with you
Ok like. Imagine life without ads. You wake up, check your messages across a variety of apps, no ads. You get up and put on the tv while you prep your breakfast, no ads. Maybe you drive somewhere and switch on the radio, no ads. Maybe you drive a long distance, yet somehow, not a single billboard on your path. You pick up a newspaper or magazine to pass the time, no advertisements only articles. You turn on your game console, the home screen is just about your games, no ads to buy more. You open a streaming app, you don't pay extra for no ads, there's just no ads ever.
Think about how much of your time is spent looking at ads. "Download ublock" yeah I know, I have. But that doesn't change that the world is covered with endless advertising. Imagine never seeing that again. How much better our lives would be.
Drinking soda is better than drinking nothing all day. Eating ice cream for dinner is better than eating nothing for dinner. Eating salsa is better than having no produce in your diet at all.
Water is way more hydrating than soda, but soda is more hydrating than nothing. A balanced meal is way more nutritious than ice cream, but ice cream is more nutritious than nothing.
Something is better than nothing. Some hydration is better than no hydration. Some nutrients are better than no nutrients. Some produce is better than no produce.
Don't let societally imposed food guilt trick you into believing that nothing is a better choice. Nourishing your body, however you can, is always the better choice. Fed is best. Always.
my futile wish is for people to understand that "sex scenes in movies/TV don't have to serve the plot and can genuinely just be for pleasure" and "sex-repulsed people are allowed to complain about how rare it is for media made for adults like them to be something they can enjoy completely" are both true statements. unfortunately society hates both sex and people who don't like sex, so everyone gets far too defensive about any sex or lack thereof in fiction to actually have this conversation
if you want to dress gay but aren’t sure how, you need to focus more on finding clothes you actually like and that make you feel good when you look in the mirror. develop your style independently of what you think looks gayest and trust the homosexuality will follow. it goes where confidence and self acceptance are
