#actuallydesisted

[dysphoriclight]

Lrb something I've really struggled with during my desistance is establishing myself and my own beliefs instead of relying on others for validation. I think post detrans it's very common to have zero sense of self and look for another box, usually either radfem or hard conservative, and I'd like to see more detrans/desistance activism focused on providing active support for detrans/desisted people outside of political categories and what box they fit into

[androgynephilia]

I feel like AAP/AGP being left out of the gender crit feminist discourse is a problem. One of the main reasons being "unlearn stereotypes" doesn't work when your dysphoria/euphoria is genuinely sex and sexuality based

[dysphoriclight]

💜💜 INTRO POST 💜💜

Hi, call me S.

I'm a 22 year old desisted and dysphoric white womyn from Canada. I am primarily male attracted and diagnosed with mild autism + ADHD. I consider myself AAP/AHE/AGAMP.

I socially transitioned and identified as non binary transmasc from 11-19, fully renouncing my trans identity by the time I was 20.

It's been nearly two years since, and after bouncing around various spaces in other areas of the internet in a state of repression, I'm still figuring out who I am and where to go.

This blog is intended to be a diary of my personal thoughts on gender, as well as a way to connect with others, especially those with the same questions as me. Making friends as a detranser is very difficult, and my DMs are always open.

Pro trans, TIRFs, TERFs, transmeds, feminists of all shades (and transfeminists), etc are all fine to interact.

Info on some of my interests and views below the cut!

My views are heavily under construction, not super cohesive yet.

I think I'm generally a centristy difference feminist with liberal values. I'm not a radfem, despite agreeing with a lot of radfem takes on gender identity-- I'd consider myself gender critical.

I'm also a neoBlanchardist, and categorize myself as AAP/AGAMP. I'm "too TERFy for the TRAs, too TRA for the TERFs."

I'm fairly pro sexual freedom despite risks, including kink and BDSM. I'm critical/mixed towards commercialized sex and think the industry causes immense harm, but have not figured out what I think solutions should be.

I believe above all else that the political is personal.

My interests include: sexology, psychology, sociology, feminism, true crime and survival (tasteful and sparing), evopsych, medieval history, Lana Del Rey, Nicole Dollanganger, fictional men crying and kissing and hitting each other, MLP, Breaking Bad, AHS, various other movies and shows and artists (ask me!!!), perfume, online subculture documentation, tarot, fanfiction/OC creation/general creative writing, art making, and OCD rumination. I'm also trying to get back into reading.

If you clicked on this, hi :]

[wipgender]

Hi, you can call me Vern.

I identified as transmasc non binary from 11-19 and was fully detransitioned by the time I was 20.

I'm still figuring out what gender means, where I fit, what it means to be female, etc etc.

I've got sexual trauma, dysphoria, and a set of general perversions I'm still trying to unravel and contextualize.

DMs and askbox open, would love to talk to anyone about their thoughts and experiences.