#actuallysoulbond

[metagenic-culture-is]

Explicitly include metagenic & non-psychological plurals in your plurality posts. I don't just mean a throwaway mention; I mean actively making sure you're not excluding us.

Stop talking over us.

Stop coming into our spaces and centering your experiences and feelings.

Stop grouping us with psychological endogenic plurals, endogenic disordered plurals, and other forms of psychological plurality.

Stop telling us about how a person you spoke to said all spiritual plurals are delusional.

Stop coming to us self-flagellating about how bad seeing hate against us makes you feel.

Recognize that there is more to plurality than "systems", "headspace", "pseudomemories", "introjects", etc.

Stop treating our experiences, lives, memories, etc. as less real or just roleplaying.

Stop implying we didn't/don't "actually" experience our lives. Stop implying we're not "actually" who or what we say we are.

Use the language we tell you represents us, not what you think represents us. Listen to us when we tell you that you're being exclusionary. If your posts are for all plurals, they should be for all plurals.

[fengliudian]

Soulbonding+ Community tag proposal

So. As someone who was part of the (pre-selfshipping) soulbonding community on tumblr since 2014 or so, I'm a little... ??? by the sudden wave of soulbonding tags use by selfshippers. I don't really care if selfshippers want to be soulbonders (and understand fully what that implies), but I do feel like the term has been muddled a bit, and I can't really find any true soulbonding community on here.

Tag proposal: #actuallyanaspect and/or #actuallysoulbond, because I have a soft spot for that once-popular style of community tags. Anaspect was chosen because it's a bit more broad, encompassing soulbonds, gateways, and other metaphysical plurals. I wouldn't say you have to be a soulbond/er to use these tags; all metaphysical plurals are welcome.

The tag is intended for:

Soulbonders and soulbonds of all kinds (permanent, daytrippers, telephone bonds, etc.) with a focus on metaphysical/spiritual 'bonds

Vesselites and similar experiences

Metaphysical, spiritual, and non-psychological plurality

Soulbonds in plural collectives without a host

Involuntary and voluntary soulbonds, walk-ins, afterlifers, etc.

This tag is not intended for:

Self-shippers, yumejin, etc. without any soulbonding element

"Twin flame" "soulmate" or other romantic partner tropes

My goal with this is to bring back a little of the soulbonding community that existed before. This way, community discussions are facilitated and everyone can share their experiences, advice, opinions, etc.

As a secondary goal, I also think it would be beneficial to have some kind of community space for metaphysical plurals of all kinds, since we are very commonly ignored or exlcuded from wider plural community discussions. I think we deserve to have a space to talk about our experiences without being spoken over because we're too "difficult to understand".

I'd like it if the spirit of soulbonding was re-centered on "having a mental connection with another person" instead of "I want to date this character irl so I'm going to soulbond them". I would like to bring the focus back on the experience and actual life of it rather than aesthetics and "showing off" common in selfship communities. I'm happy for you if you're in a relationship with your 'bond, but the community has felt extremely alienating as of late. Not all of us are in or want to be in a romantic relationship, and not all of us who are feel like we fit the selfshipper label.