#adamherbzasks

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4, 10, 20, 29, 45, 58 O//u//0

4 - something that never fails to make you horny: good kissing (but like good quality making out), spontaneousness, if you smell good, and when you’re a little nervous (because I would be too and because it’s fun) Bein’ all romantic and stuff, people that are smooth af, bUT ALSO AWKWARDNESS AND BEING GOOFY IS A TURN ON TOO OH GOSH. 

10 - top or bottom? Literally whatever my partner needs, I can be either or a bit of both for fun. 

20 - A food that you’d like to use during a sexual experience: fruit. FRUIT. 

29 - Best sexual compliment you’ve ever got: I give great head ;7; Idk other compliments on my physical appearance, I’m a quality kisser. ayy

45 - what is one song you would like to have sex too? I HAVE SO MANY. I’ll have sex to anything really. LIKE LOTS OF CUTE GOOSHY STUFF BUt also stuff like: Satisfy - Nero, FMLYHM - seether. I like fast paced dark stuff but also really like gooey slow romantic junk too, and really happy, energetic music. 

58 - Do you have any sex toys: Yes lots of dicks :D  a gag (needs more) restraints (needs more) bullets, vibes, and stuff but mainly the dicks. Those are important. yas

YASS 

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Sorry if this is too personal but do erections hurt for you?

Not to personal at all!

Because the clitoris is lower than a penis it doesn’t sit away and above where your legs make contact it can SOMETIMES be painful to have an erection, If it isn’t restricted or sqwished then it is pain free. With some adjusting it can be easily fixed.

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Hello friend. I was wondering if you could give me some advise. I'm on T, and I'm starting to pass as male, but I usually avoid bathrooms unless they're unisex, and as you can imagine its very difficult. I'd like to get a stp, unfortunately I'm 16 and I don't have a credit card. So if I want one, I'd have to ask my mom. She is totally cool with the whole ftm thing, but I feel like asking for a silicone penis to pee through is awkward and I just dont know how to ask. Any tips?

//That would be a very awkward thing to ask, I never really needed to ask for anything like that from my mom because my boyfriend bought my first packer at an lgbt book/’toy’ store. if you have any stores like that in your area that might be a good place to start if you have physical money to spend! (without having to talk about it with your mom)

But unfortunately if you don’t then maybe just explain to your mom the discomfort you feel about using bathrooms and go from there. She may not understand exactly what you are going through.. but i’m sure she would happy to help you if she could. That’s what parents are for, even if it may be a little weird at times.  

For bathrooms I’ve always just gone in the stall. I’m sure my guy friends think I’m just constantly pooping… but it’s no ones business and if anyone ever asks I make them feel weird buy either asking why they want to know how I go to the bathroom or by saying I have a medical condition. (not referencing being trans at all - just the fact that my genitals are a bit different) SO IF ANYONE EVER GIVES YOU HEAT JUST FLIP IT BACK on them because really no one needs to know. Also can you tell me how it is to use one if it all works out? I’m really curious about using one and I don’t know anyone that does. I hope it all goes well!

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28.

28 - Talk about your fetishes:

Putting this out there now that living with people really impacts what you can do. I mean volume is a huge factor and time of day, also what is sent in the mail |D I’m pretty much open to trying anything though. 

[I’M GONNA STOP AT ANYTHING BECAUSE WOAH/ not everything, I mean i’m really open with trying new things but if it’s like chewing off a toe or fitting a head up an ass then no. 

To be really honest it’s been really awkward since coming out, I almost feel guilty for liking certain things. Which is probably dumb.. Just anything to do with being submissive. It was a struggle even before coming out too but.. ehhh. Like damn getting tied to the bed and choked a little was cool but now you’re the dude and no not allowed. [WHICH SHOULD HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH ANYTHING But I just mean suddenly it’s an awkward deal when you are talking about where specifically the dick is going and in who. Like you’ll almost loose respect if you are trans* and say that you still sometimes have sex the way you would do it before IS pretty much what i’m trying to say. 

[Idk man I personally think people should drop their hangups about gender roles in sex, Like if you are a cis dude and like your girlfriend fricken’ you in the butt then that is awesome. Or if you are a trans* guy and like your gf/bf/other fricken’ you in the butt and /or/ other parts then power too you. Or the opposite and you are a trans* woman and like fricken’ with your partner how ever then yes go you. 

Sex is meant to be enjoyable and fun, between you and as many partners as you are including. If you like it a certain way or with certain parts then why the hell not. You shouldn’t be shamed or deemed less of a “man” or less of a “woman” or less of anything for what roles you play in sex]

Big thing that is kinda unecessary and off topic but kinda needed to explain me explaining my fetishes. 

Gotta say bdsm is pretty groovy, role play, s&m too, both in submissive and dominate roles. I also really like a good mix of both of them. We always switch roles to keep it more fun. Note with pretty much this whole topic that I myself have not really experimented with a lot and me and my bf haven’t really been able to explore with our sex as much as i’d like just because of our living arrangements.

But yeah a whole bunch of dumb stuff turns me on and I’d like to get really hardcore into trying everything. I enjoy sex and I especially enjoy being intimate, I think it would be fun to experiment and try new stuff. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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I'm afraid the love of my life is going to leave me for one of his friends. Like, absolutely horrified.

SAME. I HAVE BEEN 100% in crazy love with my bf for almost three years now and I still think worry about that. I HAVE 2 PERSONAL WAYS OF DEALING WITH THIS THAT I WILL SHARE WITH YOU TODAY:

#1. Straight up tell them how you feel: I try not to make relationship stuff like some of the bullshit in movies, your partner isn’t going to know how you feel unless you tell them. 

Tell them that you are worried, tell them that you feel scared and worried about it and make sure they know you feel that way. One of the best was to be happy with someone is to be honest and just tell them how you are feeling. It might make you uncomfortable but if they love you then that should be able to take that shit. 

That’s what me and Kodee do and it 100% works.

#2. If they leave you then that is their loss: This is NOT at all ment to freak you out ok? I keep a tiny bit of thinking this way in the back of my head to protect myself from destruction. This is exactly that:

You are a goddamn prince/princess, You WILL go on and you WILL find someone better if it doesn’t work out. You can be independent and damn you are hella fine. You WILL find love again and you are seriously awesome and a great catch. 

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I would say im struggling with my sexuality but then im not even sure if i am. I mean im positive i like guys but then i look at girls and idk??? they're cute?? but then i try to think, well would i be okay in a relationship with them, and idk??? I think i would prefer to be with a male, but then i have, well, /wet/ dreams with both. so idk, does that mean maybe im bisexual??

Dude,

This might not help but the way I see sexuality is like a road that you are driving down [or walking if you don’t have a licence] You are going to be on this road for your whole life and it might change and you are probably going to see many different things. You don’t have to get to your destination right now, or ever really. You have your entire life to figure out what your sexuality is.

The best way to figure it out is try a bit of everything if you are comfortable, ya know? Like personally I think girls are hella awesome, same with guys, same with trans* or non-binary people. I like everything really. And I just say Pansexual but I don’t eve really know. You don’t have to fit any ‘cookie cutter’ sexuality. 

Honestly It’s ok to try a bit of everything, Don’t make it so serious and have fun with it :’D cruise down your self discovery road in some kind of convertable with the top down. 

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for the anon thing. I'm not really sure how to start this. Basically I've got Bipolar Disorder and lately, even though i've been taking my meds, and doing all the right things (not locking up in my room all day every day, getting moving, taking meds when I get manic) everything seems to be getting harder. I'm almost 20 years old, and I can't drive, I can't find a job, and I haven't started College. I feel like my illness is taking over my life sometimes.

My mom has Bipolar Disorder, so I can understand it being a huge toll on your life. It isn’t an easy bridge to get over but you have your entire life to do those things. 

To be honest friend a few months ago I was there too, My parents weren’t helping me with school and I couldn’t find a job to save my life. It sucks, you don’t want to get out of bed or do anything. I blew apart a couple friendships from it and it was just a whole bad scene. 

Going to lay some more honesty down on you too, You don’t have to get over it all in one day. Start out small if it seems like a lot, Try talking to a counsellor or a close friend or family member if it will make you fell better. Maybe try looking for jobs you would enjoy in your area [like if you like art and drawing maybe try looking for an art store or something fun] 

Maybe that’s a big step at once, perhaps try doing a hobby you enjoy to make yourself feel better, going outside, find a new book to read or someone new to talk too, maybe try new foods or baking, stuff to combat the negativity of your situation. 

As for taking your meds, it is your body. If you don’t want to take your pills then you shouldn’t have too. If you know they would help/if you think they would make you feel better then try to make it more of a routine to take them. I’ve been trying to eat healthier and drink more water to keep me feeling better, sometimes something as little as that can help. Even if it’s a tiny bit. So don’t stress over your pills too much. 

Having a Manic episode is quite a lot to deal with though I have to say, I’m sorry to hear you deal with them. When I was young my mom tried to go to the doctor about depression and the pills she gave my mom actually fueled her manic episodes and made them last for considerable amounts of time. It was really scary being around her and she made a lot of poor decisions. 

It broke my heart not knowing how to help her or what too do, If you have others around you that are trying to help then maybe explain to them what you are going through and what they could do to help you through.

 As for driving and school, well I can’t drive either yo, I am scared shitless of driving but I really want too. Honestly we just need to go out and get it done, Unless you don’t feel you are ready [which is 100% ok too] AND AS FOR SCHOOL/COLLEGE I promise you that you have your entire life to go to school, you don’t need to know what you are doing with your life all right now.

I hope this all helped / I’m sorry if it was too much. I send hugs through tumblr (/;-;)/

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OK WAIT I AM SO SORRY I READ YOUR ASK WRONG. but for the people who need it I’m keeping this all up there Q-Q 

SO TO YOU ANON, it’s ok if it gets hard sometimes, If you are doing all the right things than that’s all anyone can ask for. Take what you can from what i’ve said if it’s helpful and I promise it will get better for you 

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i'm in love with my best friend but he doesn't like me and never will

That is really tough and sucky I’ve been there ;__; 

But you might never know if you don’t ask him or drop hints perhaps. Personally I would just hypothetically ask him and see what he would say, maybe don’t come all out at once with it. Stuff like that can be really sensitive and scary.. but also really exciting and new if they share the same feelings