So one of the fun things about the whole "trans men don't experience anything bad and if they do it's just misdirected misogyny" sentiment that I keep seeing and hearing in spaces OUTSIDE of Tumblr is that it kind of makes you lose you points of reference about reality. It's absolutely wild to be told that the sexual assault I've experienced both pre and post transition is all just "misplaced misogyny" like I'm not even the real target of my own assault. Did I even experience it, or was it intended to be experienced by some hypothetical woman, with me as the accidental vehicle of that experience while everyone else secretly knew that it wasn't about me at all? Do I just lie back and take it next time because it's not about me, it's about taking a misdirected hit that wouldn't even come my way if only I'd mentioned my pronouns first? It feels foul. I know we know people do this and it's indicative of trusting ciscentric theory over reality, but I haven't seen many posts about how it feels and how it makes you distrust your own experiences after a while.
