Hi, it's Chris again. I started this school year off on a new leaf and told my professors about my situation and my preferred name/pronouns, and changed the name on my door. It feels really nice to have people who didn't know me before call me the correct name. The only problem is, I haven't told my parents I've done this. They say that they support me, but they still consistantly refer to me as female and tell me I'm "too militant" when I get frustrated. I'm scared to bring up what I did (1/2)
or ask to have my name officially changed in my records. They help pay my bills, so I'm afraid they'll stop if I go by my preferred name. If they do, I would have to drop out of school, which isn't an option. I feel stuck.
You know, this is a solution only you can find... you know your parents better.. is it worth the risk? or is it better to keep this for you, even if it is kind of a burden?
Maybe you can try to probe their opinion? or to talk with a counselor at your school about that? and ask for their advice.
If you do decide to tell, maybe you can start with one parent only, your mom or dad? talk to them at a moment of piece, tell them how much you love them and appreciate all they do for you. Tell them about your story, how you feel, make them understand how important it is for you, etc. And give them time after the news, it is quite a big one that will put their world upside down maybe. So be ready to give them the time to digest it all..
If you think staying silent, at least till the end of your studies, is better for you, take patience. Knowing that at your school, you can be yourself, and this is already a big step!
You are getting a new start, you were brave enough to clame who you are and I hope you are proud of it! I am!
