#ahvjd

[belovedhowl]

johnny describing amber as “shrill”, ben king describing her as “whiny childish teenage-ish”…reeks of misogyny. she was in her mid twenties, maybe if johnny wanted a more “mature” woman he should have, idk, dated someone his own age? but he has a pattern of not doing that sooo 😗✌️

[belovedhowl]

“amber heard is asking you to believe that she’s the one who’s telling the truth and that the rest of the people in mr. depp’s life are all part of a conspiracy of silence” by conspiracy of silence you mean the thing that typical abusers do because they hold the power in the relationship and are able to do that? you’re talking about the witnesses you called who were almost all on depp’s payroll or in depp’s pocket somehow? who have something to lose whether it be money or reputation in their respective jobs by confessing their boss was abusive? which is, again, typically the case with abusers? what the fuck are you talking about lmfao

[getawaycardotvent]

when I say I hate Depp Stans this is why

[getawaycardotvent]

Anyways, Amber Heard is not a perfect victim, because the perfect victim does not exist, not because it's like an ideal that no one can reach bc we are all fallible humans, and because being in dangerous fight-or-flight situations does XYZ to the brain (altho those are both true), but because //the perfect victim is inherently contradictory.//

The Perfect Victim (also known as A REAL Victim) is not an idea that exists independently; it only exists in opposition to whatever real-life victim we're shaming now.

If the victim fought back, then a REAL victim would never fight back, she'd be too scared, or she'd leave, she wouldn't fight her abuser. If the victim didn't fight back, then a REAL victim WOULD have fought back, they wouldn't just take it lying down, if she was REALLY abused why didn't she leave? Did she even tell him he was hurting her?

If the victim leaves, then a REAL victim won't leave, they're too scared, if you can leave them then they can't be that abusive. If you go back, then a REAL victim would NEVER go back, why would they go back to someone abusing them? If you don't leave at all, then you can't be abused, if it was that bad then you'd just leave.

If the victim doesn't document the abuse, then she's probably lying, she can't prove it, you can't believe someone without proof. If she documents it, then she probably fabricated it and manipulated it, no one who was really abused would think to document it.

If the victim gets medical help, she's lying, that injury could be from anything, we weren't there, we can't say for sure. If she doesn't, well, see, if she was REALLY abused, she would be too injured to NOT get help. She'd be DEAD.

If she doesn't have video footage of their abuser being abusive directly in that moment, then we'll never know for sure, the only ones who will ever know are the people involved, no other evidence counts. If she DOES have direct video footage of their abuser being abusive directly in that moment on camera with audio, well, it's probably edited and she probably only started filming after she provoked him and really, unless he's actively hitting her, it's not REALLY abuse, there's nothing wrong with a little property damage and verbal insults between friends, right?

The perfect victim isn't an ideal that can be reached, she's a shapeshifting rhetorical tool used to shame abuse survivors and defend abusers.

[getawaycardotvent]

"How can you support Amber when she OPENLY ADMITS to hitting him!" as if her willingness to admit wrongdoing vs JD's constant deflection isn't one of the first things that tipped me off here. Yeah, abusers, famous for willingly and openly admitting wrongdoing.

[getawaycardotvent]

In any case, if you are baffled by the fact that DV experts are almost unanimously supporting Amber, I would recommend, instead of coming up with conspiracy theories about rampant misandry in the non-profit world, or about Amber somehow bankrolling them with the money she doesn't have--

Consider that maybe domestic violence is a more complicated and less straightforward issue than you thought.

[getawaycardotvent]

Personally I don't blame the people and organizations involved in the open letter supporting Amber for not speaking sooner, because Johnny Depp is a notoriously frivolous litigant who will sue you for looking at him funny.

When they published the article that Amber got sued for, the ACLU had lawyers look over it with a fine-tooth comb to make sure it wouldn't be considered defamation, and then Depp successfully managed to have it ruled as such anyway (despite the statements in question being true regardless of whether Depp abused her, which he did.) The incident that prompted the letter is the same one that prompted the level of caution I assume is behind why it took so long.

These are a lot of individual people and organizations who have to look over the letter and decide whether to sign it as is or if they should suggest changes. And maybe one organization requests a change for legal reasons, and then everyone else has to read the new version and sign off on it again, and then another person requests a change, and the same thing--like, I can see why this took so long.

Do I wish we'd seen this level of support sooner? Yes. So much yes. But I also don't blame the people and organizations involved for it.

[atjsgf]

Is buying a Mera funko going to fix things? No. Is it going to make me, personally, feel better? Yes.