#albert memorial

[seekers-who-are-lovers]

London. (Psst! Andy @clouds-of-peach )

[eve-rickmaniac1979]

only my two cents...

Partnership, Not Martyrdom

(source images : instagram/alan__rickman__) I just saw a post on a Harry Potter Facebook page praising Alan Rickman for “choosing love over his own wish” because his wife Rima Horton didn’t want children.

And honestly?

This constant need to turn him into a tragic, self-sacrificing hero is exhausting!

Somehow, in these narratives, he “suffers silently,” “gives up fatherhood,” “lives loyalty like Snape” — and she quietly becomes the woman who denied him something essential. Not explicitly villainized. Just… positioned as the obstacle.

It’s subtle. It’s polished. It’s still unfair.

We don’t know what they discussed. We don't know whether it was a mutual choice. We don’t know if he even framed it as a sacrifice.

But people love the martyr storyline because it mirrors Severus Snape. Eternal longing. Silent pain. Devotion without reward.

Except this wasn’t Harry Potter. It was a real relationship between two adults.

If fatherhood had been a non-negotiable dream for him, he could have left. Many couples — in Hollywood and outside of it — have ended relationships over that exact issue. He stayed for over forty years.

That’s not helpless sacrifice. That’s choice.

And reducing a decades-long partnership to “he gave up his dream for her” feels less like honoring him… and more like subtly blaming her.

They were surrounded by friends, by extended family, by other people’s children. A life without biological children doesn’t mean a life without young people in it. And caring deeply about education and social issues doesn’t contradict choosing not to become a parent.

Maybe we should stop projecting fictional tragedy onto real women — especially when that “tragedy” is largely imagined.And maybe my two cents are simple: admiration shouldn’t come at the cost of fairness.

by eve-rickmaniac1979

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"Alan Rickman at the Albert Memorial, wearing a clan-Macdonald kilt in honour of the Sharman Macdonald play The Winter Guest, which he recently directed at the Almeida Theatre in London, 3 August 1995(a photoshoot for "Vanity Fair")"

[travelling-my-little-pony]

Cutesaurus stands in Kensington Gardens with the Albert Memorial visible in the backgound.

In London, England.

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My Argylle Tour in London 🐈

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Albert Memorial, London

[ihmekukkavesi]

London 

25/08/2022

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Albert Square 

1895

[ctyguidelondon]

There’s a famous old story about Prince Albert that says he didn’t want a fuss made after his death. “Don’t build me a statue, for chrissakes,” he said (I’m paraphrasing). “I don’t want anything grand.” So what did Queen Victoria do? She built him the grandest statue in the capital!