#allistic world

[leiasnonbinarywife]

being autistic in a world made for allistics kinda feels like being in the backseat of a car desperately trying to be a part of the front seat conversation

[neurospicybirb]

Hi! I'm an autistic adult!

I'd like to teach you (directed at allistics a.k.a. non-autistics) how to help the autistic community!

Here are a few things that will make life easier for us!

1.) Accessible diagnosis. The reason a lot of autistics are self diagnosed is because its so hard to get a diagnosis. Especially on your own, which is what they have to do in order to prove that they are autistic.

2.) Listen to autistic adults. They know how live with being autistic. They know what's best for the autistic community.

3.) Understand how autism effects us. It effects everyone differently. Understanding can help us have an easier way of life.

4.) If autism $peaks and similar "charities" didn't exist. They dehumanized autism and autistics. To them we are subhuman and they only pretend to pitty us to make money. They really only "help" the parents of the autistic child.

5.) Stop being so ableist. Ableism is seeing disabled people as subhuman. If you say or do things that are dangerous and toxic to disabled people then you are ableist. Teach yourself to be better.

6.) Autism or r*tarded shouldn't be an insult. The r-word is in fact a slur and using it is offensive to autistic people. Autism isn't an insult to be used to call people. We are actual people.

7.) If stereotypes weren't real. The stereotypical autistic is a white man with no empathy who is obsessed with trains and no sexual interest. Not everyone is like that. Some people might be, but not everyone.

8.) Understanding and teaching children of autistic behavior. All autistics are bullied from a young age. They're strange, weird, misunderstood. So they get bullied because they're different. Teaching kids about autism might help prevent bullying.

9.) Public "cool down" rooms. The only places we have to avoid meltdowns in public are bathrooms and outside. Bathrooms stink and outside stimuli is just as bad. So there's really no place to quietly stim to avoid a meltdown.

10.) Making fidget toys normal and not a cringy fad. We need these to regulate stimuli. This can help avoid meltdowns.

Listen to us. Understand us. We hate meltdowns just as much as everyone else. We are embarrassed by them too. And there's plenty of other charities that are run by autistic people. ASAN, Autism Advocacy, and Autistic Women are just a few. I hope this helps you understand how you can help and how we can do better for the autistics of the future.