amandac777 replied to your post: steve: oh man i really need to tell tony about his...
A) I totally love this, and it’s absolutely accurate. B) It really makes me sympathize (even more) with Steve. Like, it’s so obvious that he *needed* to tell Tony. It was absolutely wrong of him, and frankly cowardly, not to do so. But I totally get why he didn’t. Because in the same situation, I probably wouldn’t have either.
RIGHT!! Honestly, the second I looked past his actions and thought “hey, wait, oh my god, what if steve actually Does care about tony? canonically? in canon? and was just doing some Major Avoidance” a lot of things made a lot more sense?
Like, he KNEW he needed to tell tony. that wasn’t a surprise, that wasn’t a judgement issue, or him deliberately putting his own wellbeing above tony’s. that was him genuinely thinking “holy shit this is going to cause my friend tony and Everyone Else I Know, myself included, So Much Pain if i tell him this. I’m going to have to go up to him in his house and look him in the eye and tell him that my best friend murdered his parents and that I’ve known about it for a week/a month/a year/two years oh god”
and like maybe by month 6 of Knowing About This Secret he actually manages to convince himself--seeing how much grief tony still has over his parents’ death, seeing how stressed he is already, knowing how much they’re all dealing with--that he’s actually genuinely Protecting tony from this For His Own Good. like, tony went from having a panic attack at the MENTION of new york in IM3 to having apparently brought it up enough to be Annoying in AOU, which was terrible, but also, this means that tony stark has 125% for sure had a panic attack in front of his team while steve Knew About This Secret and mr “looks out for the little guy” “uses a shield as his weapon of choice” “lies down on a grenade to protect other people” was like “okay well i can literally never add on more shit for this guy to deal with ever oh my god”
steve rogers is an idiot and if you look at cacw through the lens of “i’ve known a terrible really bad super awful secret concerning my friend for several years and it’s going to destroy him emotionally and haven’t told him and now everything in the universe is fucking coming together to tell tony this secret and every time i’m around him all i’m thinking about is that he’ll be dealing with this situation with bucky and he doesn’t know that bucky killed his parents. I can’t ask him for help because he’s going to help and then find out that bucky killed his parents. I have to distance myself and plan for the worst because tony thinks this will be fine right now and that he can fix things but how are things going to be when he finds out that bucky killed his parents. I can’t sign these because that’s going to endanger bucky and tony’s all for helping him right now, but what about when he finds out that bucky Killed His Parents and i Knew About It” his decisions make a ton of sense