hey there! I was wondering if I could ask you a question, especially since you're so affiliated with Chabad. I'm a conservadox (closest label that I think applies) college student at a secular university, and I've become very close with the Chabad shlucha family in the semester I've been here. I spend every shabbos with them and spend a lot of time helping the rebbetzin prepare dinner and playing with the kids. Anyhow, one of the kids is becoming bar mitzvah in about a month, and the family (1/2
(2/2) invited me to it. It means a ton to me that they invited me and I’d love to go, but I’m kind of intimidated because I’m not too familiar with the Lubavitch world, and I don’t want to do anything to embarrass myself or them. Do you have any suggestions for what would be appropriate for a gift? Are there any etiquette details I should know about? (I’m familiar with the level of tznius they expect so that shouldn’t be a problem.) Any help would be really appreciated. Thank you so much!!
I’ve never actually been to a frum bar mitzvah unfortunately so I don’t really know what to tell you as far as etiquette or gifts (I literally don’t even know whether it would be expected for someone unrelated to give a gift). Maybe @arothejew knows.
I wouldn’t be too worried about anything, though. Due to the nature of their being shluchim, it’s unlikely you’ll be the only guest for whom this is their first experience at a frum bar mitzvah. Just relax and go with the flow and you should be just fine. :)
