#antigentleman

[antigentleman]

Everyone puts on a facade, everyone pretends to be happy. Social media has amplified this now, all those gorgeous girls on Instagram suffer from horrible self esteem issues and depression. They appear to be having a great time flying around the world modeling bikini's on the most exotic beaches.

People only show you their highlight reel, the quickest way to feel sad for yourself is to go on facebook and compare yourself to what you see. Robbin Williams is probably one of the best examples to highlight here, a man who has made myself and millions laugh and brought so much happiness into peoples homes. He killed himself, with a man like that and his life anyone could follow the same. Remember this when dealing with people, do not push them further than they need, you do not know the battles they are facing.

[antigentleman]

Before the AntiGentleman can be an AntiGentleman he has to be one thing, a man. Not a boy, not a child, not a pusillanimous a man. He is a master of his mind, body, soul and love.

A man knows himself, he knows what he likes and dislikes. He respects himself, he knows there are many ways to be a 'real' man there is no mold to fit. He is knowledgeable, he prides himself in being a master of something, general knowledge, cars, history, women, or anything the subject doesn't matter. He knows when he's made a mistake and says he is sorry even if he isn't Canadian. He destroys self-destructive thoughts and customs, he does away with the ideas where abuse is acceptable and being "tough" means suppressing his emotions.

A man takes care of his body, he knows how to clean himself even if he has been living in the wilderness for weeks at a time. He exercises he knows his body is one of his most important assets he cannot buy it only he can make it all it can be. He dresses appropriate to the occasion sometimes this means being uncomfortable and squishing himself into a terrible tuxedo to host an awards ceremony but he makes the sacrifice. He doesn't use drugs as a crutch he may partake in socially acceptable manner.

He has developed his own principles he knows what is right and wrong he not only follows the law he knows why he does. He is naturally ambitious the breadwinner gaining the admiration and respect of his peers, he chooses his career path successfully.  He seeks out responsibility and takes it happily, he refuses to make anyone do something they wouldn't do. He makes sacrifices for the people he loves and cares about.

A man knows how to treat his partner, he pays for dates, opens doors, says please and thank you. He puts his partner ahead of himself out of respect, he takes out the trash, does dishes as unpleasant as they may be. He is a gracious loser even if he is naturally competitive. He doesn't kiss and tell, his love life is just as private as those he shares it with. He treats those he loves with respect, he holds them to realistic expectations, treats them as a person not an object, listens to them, forgives them when they make mistakes, and follows through on what he says. He doesn't rush a relationship he knows it takes time he always keeps a little mystery in the tank.

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The AntiGentleman doesn't take tasks he isn't fully invested in. He puts his mind to something and puts his full force behind it, there is no coasting along or going with the flow. The AntiGentleman is the one who sets the pace, everyone follows his example.

Why would you half ass something, what are you saving the other half of your ass for? If you're doing something you're not fully invested in why are you bothering to waste your time. Sometimes you're forced to do something, there are situations that no matter your opinion, even if its something you totally hate.

When the AntiGentleman does something he is the best at it, if something is stupid or he disagrees with it, if it's below him, he does it anyways and he does it better than everyone else. He takes pride in his excellence even if something may seem beneath him he sees every task as a stepping stone to where he wants to go.

[antigentleman]

The ability to share knowledge is what helps a species grow. For millions of years the only way to share information from parents to children was by the DNA itself. Then something amazing happened, we figured out how to talk. For thousands of years right up until a few hundred years ago this was the way we learned, our parents told us legends they told us how things they couldn't show us worked. Then some genius in Sumeria figured out how to write it down.

This is insanely important, a person you've never met, will never meet, could be dead for hundreds of years can tell you something. Hello. This is what we're doing right now.

Now we can't lose knowledge because someone forgot to tell someone, now we don't need to all be in the same room, I can just send you an email. We can spread information between each other at an accelerated rate, we can ignore information we don't need to know.

Reading and writing is now just so common that we don't really appreciate how valuable of a skill it is, take a few minutes and try to figure out where you would be without being able to read. You wouldn't be here right now reading this that's for sure.

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The AntiGentleman has always followed his gut, he knows when something feels too good to be true it normally is. His intuition is how he walks away from situations that seem like a win-win no matter how it is sliced. This is the same intuition that tells him to take risky bets that pan out in his favour.

He hasn't gained all his life experience to ignore when his body tells him to make a move. There is research to both back up this idea and to reject it, some say its your subconscious operating at a rate more than your conscious or active brain. I have no idea if any of this is true, but gut feelings have taken good men and made them great.

sometimes you need to take a leap of faith, believe in yourself.

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The AntiGentleman looks forward to waking up each day, he knows he is going to have a good time at work, at home, anywhere else he is going. He loves what he does, not because he is good at it but because it brings him joy.

He doesn't work a job that depresses him, where he wants to go home before he even walks in the door. When he wakes up in the morning he doesn't think about how much better it would be if he just stayed in bed all day, thinking about what excuse he can use to call in sick again.

He doesn't go to parties he doesn't want to, if he isn't going to have a fun time why would he waste his time.

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The AntiGentleman is not forgotten by those who know him. The people he has touched on his journey of life are always going to remember him for the good and the bad, hopefully more the good.

You can go about your way performing unspeakable acts as one way to be remembered. Who doesn't know the name of Adolf Hitler and Charles Manson. This is the easy way to be remembered the cowards way, the vain individual who cannot bare the thought of living a forgettable life.

The AntiGentleman is no coward, his acts help better mankind, he will be remembered for the good and the bad forgotten. When The AntiGentleman does something, he is the best at it. He does not fully commit to things, he is the employee of the month every month, he is binary in that sense.  

[antigentleman]

There is only one person who decides if you are happy or sad; yourself. Your situation does no matter, some of the most euphoric people are in insane asylums, the saddest and most depressed rich and famous.

The AntiGentleman has learned that his mind is the only decision maker in this respect. It has been said saying "It's all in your head" is the worst thing you can do when helping someone with a mental illness. While saying it doesn't help, does not make it false. The mind is complicated but it can be controlled.

There are countless different exercises and ways of coping with your complicated mind, giving up is not one of them.