adding to the Rufioh negativity: when trying to break up with Horuss didn't work, Rufioh started to try and cheat on him and asked out Aradiabot (who reminded him of Damara from being her beta counterpart and her wiring making her aggressive) right in front of Horuss who was oblivious (too many fans forget fanart is just fanart and canonically, his headgear covers his ears and "fills with sweat"- stating this because fans blamed Horuss for it???)
The idea of blaming Horuss for Rufioh hitting on a 13 year old girl is so fucking funny to me. Some people really do not want to acknowledge that Rufioh kind of just sucks. Way to blameshift! Totally not a weird thing to do. I've gotta correct something here, though: The thing about Horuss's headgear "filling with sweat" and therefore blocking his hearing is a deliberate act of dishonesty on Horuss's part. Rufioh's not the only person at fault for the relationship not ending, because Horuss is achingly aware that Rufioh wants to conclude it.
Horuss isn't stupid, he just really doesn't want it to be over. At least not on his own terms.
The context to the line about his ears filling with sweat... Is that it's right after Rufioh goes on this whole speech about the entire history of their relationship. It's incredibly long, and then it leads directly into Rufioh trying to break up with him.
He's deflected like this before. That's what that is. He knows what's happening, he's just denying it, because he's not very good at giving Rufioh much autonomy. This is why he immediately goes on to reasserting their status as "Romantic Afterlife Partners" right after that deflection. He doesn't even give Rufioh a chance to repeat himself, even though he asked... Because he wasn't ever going to give him the chance to do that. It sucks. This is undeniably a bad situation and undeniably a toxic relationship, but it doesn't excuse everything Rufioh has done. Like this!
Every square nanometer of this is just plain creepy.
The idea of approaching and hitting on a 13 year old girl who is related to your ex-girlfriend- which you do nothing but ridicule behind her back, calling her psycho, refusing to view her perspective with any level of compassion or validity, et cetera- purely because she reminds you so much of her is just... Downright predatory, in more ways than one. This is genuine sexual predator behavior. What he wants here is a repeat, but with a clean slate, and a new layer of vulnerability- because, again, Aradia is 6 years younger than him. She's 13. He is 19. That's a Middle Schooler and a College Student.
The way he's talking about her here sounds more like he's talking about a sex doll in Damara's image than a real, separate person, who is also 13 years old. It's completely and utterly vile. Attractive or not, and tragic or not- there's no excuse for this behavior. None! And not one part of this exchange is legitimately Horuss's fault. Yes, Horuss is a bad partner to Rufioh. He is responsible for that. But no, Horuss is not responsible for Rufioh being a predatory. That's all on Rufioh.