#aro crisis

[thejsorcerer]

can someone explain to me the difference between being "in love" and "romantic attraction"? I think I'm confused.

[thejsorcerer]

something I've always hated about "going on dates" is the romantic aspect of it like; it sounds weird but hear me out 👀

If I meet this new person and think "wow they're so cool," I'd love to get to know them! and start hanging out, visit different places around town, eat together, go to museums, picnics. Like this side of dating sounds SO fun!! 🥰🤝

But when you bring all the romantic feelings to the equation with the holding hands, kissing, gifting roses or chocolates; all of this ROMANTICALLY?! no. I don't want to date you anymore. Please don't :((

I love the idea of holding hands, hugging, maybe kissing; like affection in general. But all of it with a romantic intention? BACK OFF. You know? 👁👁

[thejsorcerer]

welcome to episode 234th of my aro series called "do I have a crush on them or is it just aesthetic appreciation?"

[thejsorcerer]

you know I was thinking about something: I obviously know what a romantic relationship is right... but do I? What IS it really? What even is romance? "Someone you have romantic feelings for and have a relationship with" but what ARE these feelings. It sounds so fictional. I think I wouldn't be able to define what a romantic relationship is. I need answers please 🤨.

[thejsorcerer]

constantly trying to understand if you actually WANT a romantic relationship or have been conditioned to think you HAVE TO WANT a romantic relationship. it is a struggle 🥸

[sapphire-reblogs-and-rambles]

Let's play does it hurt in a blindsided by romantic jealousy way or an aro I might lose a close friend way