A/N: I'm putting this before-hand so it makes more sense. This is a poem I originally made to be a love poem from an aro ( aromantic ) perspective. It turned into a poem about the vague description of feeling/experiencing love, validation, how hard it is/can be, and how I, an aro person, am still a person regardless of my ability to feel romantic attraction or the extent I can feel said attraction, and how I wasn't always aro.
I say aro as the umbrella term since I, personally, haven't found a more specific label. It is what I am most comfortable with at the moment :)
Poem under the cut. hope ya'll enjoy! :)
They say love makes it hard to breathe but I can breathe just fine
I can love but at what cost?
I can feel love but just barely
Romantically, it comes and goes, like waves on the shore
My type of love is different but it's just as genuine
It can be hard to explain when I haven't felt this way for long
The change was sudden and unexpected
In some ways it's been great
In others it's been a struggle
A struggle to explain everything just to feel valid for a mere moment of time
The time, in which, fades
It fades just as fast as it came
It's been hard, inside and out, but it's who I am
and who I am is a person
A person who has gone through changes and continues to change
A person who is different but just as deserving of love, happiness, and representation
A person who does not need to be 'fixed' because I am not broken
I am not flawed
I do not feel this way because I haven't found the 'right one'
I feel this way because it's how the universe decided to re-fabricate my being
It's because it was time for change
It's because, maybe, just maybe, I was always meant to be this way
Your life isn't emptier for being aro. You're fully complete on your own and your aro experience is as rich as any other. Just do what makes you happy.
Can I take five seconds out of your regularly scheduled asexual blog to absolutely GUSH over the coolest part about aromantics?
I can bring my male friends to events, introduce him as my friend, and EVERYONE assumes he's my boyfriend. Aromantics see the value in really awesome close friendships. They'd totally believe me. Romantics always assume I'm dating him. I would totally trust an aromantic to take me at my word. Because they see the value in non- romantic relationships.
Any guilt or shame you feel for being aro is the product of society and what it made you believe. There's nothing inherently wrong with being who you are. You are not a mistake. The society is flawed. Let's change the status quo for the better. We can be aro and proud.
