wow going straight for the psychologie i see
14. what is a piece of advice you would give to your younger self
be kinder. part of why you’re so miserable is that you act horrible to people all the time. be kind
25. how do you determine if you want to be them or be with someone
i lean into it tbh. usually i confuse wanting to be/be with someone when they’re extremely cool and out of my league... and then i can comfortably pine and suffer over them behind the appearance of our low-maintenance friendship while never having to be emotionally vulnerable face to face to another person. so im quite uncomfortable and ill at ease when someone is actually really into me. then it’s neither want to be them or want to be with them
on the other hand most of the people ive historically been deeply into (and have had it somewhat reciprocated) have been my polar opposite so............. idk this is not a scientific analysis
(and now that i think about it ive recently had a lot more ego integrity and don’t desperately want to be someone else the way i used to. might want to have a skill they have or have great hair like they have but wanting to be them grows less common as i get older)
