(TWs in tags, but just in case: Sex mention, CSA mention, trauma mention, SA mention, mentions of hyposexual microaggressions)
Shout-out to all of us who get left out of conversations surrounding PTSD accommodation.
Shout-out to everyone who is told to manage their triggers despite rarely receiving warnings for sexual content.
Shout-out to anyone who is affected by random sexual content from accounts they don't follow appearing on their dash, especially those which tie into their specific traumatic experiences.
Shout-out to those of us who have been in therapy for our trauma for years, yet still get treated as though we aren't working hard enough to "grow out" of our difficulties surrounding sex.
Shout-out to those of us who have been on the road to recovery long enough that we know we won't ever be fully "cured."
Shout-out to people who have lost relationships and marriages due to being hyposexual.
Shout-out to everyone who has felt pain from microaggressive labels being incorrectly applied to them, such as "incel" or "virgin", and who still feel anger seeing those labels thrown at people who simply can't engage in sexual topics like everyone else. (And a double shout-out to anyone who recognizes how messed up it is to use "virgin" as an insult!)
Shout-out to all my hyposexual aces.
Shout-out to all hyposexuals who don't identify as ace because they feel left out of the community.
Shout-out to all hyposexuals who were told they weren't "really" ace because they weren't born that way, and by extension, are able to somehow rid themselves of their asexuality.
Shout-out to all hyposexuals who never had the luxury of knowing whether they were "truly" ace because their trauma occurred before puberty, and will never know the answer.
Shout-out to people who want to identify as ace but feel they don't count because they lost their sexuality after their trauma occurred.
Shout-out to hyposexual systems across the dissociative spectrum.
Shout-out to hyposexuals who are not systems, but still suffer from a dissociative disorder.
Shout-out to everyone who has to vet popular music, TV shows, and movies to avoid triggers.
Shout-out to anyone who forced themselves to be sexual in a relationship in hopes to "get over" their hyposexuality, but only suffered more for it.
Shout-out to every hyposexual over 30 who still feels doubted, belittled, and condescended by online discourse. (And everyone younger, of course!)
Shout-out to hyposexual survivors who understand that they are only one half of the survivor coin, and who do not judge hypersexuals for their experiences, yet are assumed to be judgmental regardless.
Shout-out to hyposexuals who truly want legalization, regulation, and protection for sex workers, but have to avoid those discussions for their own mental well-being.
Shout-out to hyposexuals who aren't at a place where they can even talk about it yet.
Shout-out to hyposexuals who are treated with pity, even if they feel like they aren't missing out on anything.
Shout-out to hyposexuals who feel rejected from queer spaces, and even progressive spaces in general, because they aren't given the space to be understood.
Shout-out to hyposexuals who need Pride, but can't go due to their triggers.
I could go on, but I think my message is clear:
I see you. I hear you. I love you. We are not alone, no matter how lonely it may feel. You will always belong in my eyes.
