Asianphile
I just found out an acquaintance of mine has finally found a girlfriend, and things are moving quite fast. I'm happy for him, but I've always wondered a bit about his predilection for Asian women. Jeff is a great guy, and it was surprising to me he was not snatched up earlier. There must have been something that I didn't get cuz Jeff is ambitious, stable financially and emotionally, clean, generous, and funny. I'm not a fair judge of appearance, but he's at least, or more handsome than some of the douches I see out an about. During the 7 or 8 years I've known him he has never had a steady girlfriend (lots of first dates and no repeats). On the flip side, Jeff always seemed to be chasing women he could not have. They all seemed to be in other relationships, or were not interested in him. AND the biggest limiting factor was that he only pursued Asian women. It did not matter Japanese, Korean or Chinese. So now its finally happend, Jeff has found someone and is moving in with his Japanese girlfriend. Congrats buddy.
In stepping back from Jeff as a specific example, I get that the heart wants what it wants, but there must be something to being an Asiaphile. Frankly, because I am 3rd generation Chinese-American, I think I have a better (closer/more accessible) perspective. My 3rd generation status keeps in the 'fully assimilated' American column, while my Chinese ethnicity keeps in the Asian culture column. When these two groups converge, I see a lot of Asianphiles. No one is able to explain the attraction without stereo typing. I hear attributes like gentle, fine features, long straight black hair, asian culture. I also cannot figure out what Asian women bring to the table that is different from other non-Asian women other than a different culture. I've found plenty of women who have long straight hair, are gentle, have fine features. I've also found many Asian women who are not not gentle, have large feature and have curls or waves. I suppose what I am saying is that other that the Asian culture, there is nothing that can't be found in other races, and I would be that an appreciation of Asian culture is not restricted to Asians. Basically aren't we all looking for someone nice, funny, physically and emotionally attractive, ambitious, caring, generous, blah blah blah? I find it hard to believe that Asian women have cornered the market on that, so why Asian?
Honestly, I don't really find anything wrong with a preference for Asian women, but no other ethnicities seem to elicit such devout behavior. I mean just because I grew up in a largely white community and most of my dating has been caucasian, does that make me an anglophile? I hope that is not a label I'm to be saddled with. Yeah I'm looking for an attractive partner with all the trimmings, but my only criteria is that they be female. In the mean time please tell me, where I might find the female version Asiaphiles?
